Elstud's current situation.

[ElStud]

Must've been a year or so since I last posted but yeah. Guess what? I still haven't got laid, but as time goes on and I start getting older, I'm starting to realize that it isn't that big of a deal. When I get laid, I get laid you know? Isn't going to be extraordinary isn't gonna change my life, but when it happens it happens.

I'm just glad that right now I can go up to girls with near ZERO approach anxiety and start a convo with a girl just by being ME. Not using lines, not having an outcome dependancy, not caring about rejection, but simply going up there and being me. Basically, when I converse with women, it feels natural for both me and the girl.

I've also got over my fear of approaching black girls and have realized that all that "All black girls are loud and ghetto" BS, is simply that, media BS. At the end of the day, I can game them just like white girls.

And overall, I'm just starting to have a lot more confidence in myself as a person. If a girl rejects me, I'm starting to frame it as "Okay, well it's your loss" and I get up and approach the next girl. I don't even CARE if I get the number anymore, the important thing to me is that I WENT for it.

Also note, that I'm not the freshest dude out there anyway. Heh, far from it. I go out with my hair uncombed, probably haven't showered in days and am probably not the best looking guy around. But when I approach girls, I can have a genuine conversation with them. Why's this? I have confidence in my game and unlike most dudes I aint insecure.

But yeah, I still haven't gotten laid, but I've more of less stopped caring. Right now, I have a mindset of, when I get laid I get laid.

I'm 19 going on 20 and as far as I'm concerned there's no rush to get laid.

 

[bigjohnson]

Must've been a year or so since I last posted but yeah. Guess what? I still haven't got laid ....

I'm 19 going on 20 and as far as I'm concerned there's no rush to get laid.

People told you before and I'll repeat it again; if you keep doing the same thing, you're gonna keep getting the same results. It's as predictable as the sun rising every morning. If you're OK with that life then fine and good for you, but it's hardly news is it?

 

[AAAgent]

going out with your hair uncombed and not showering is probably why your not getting laid. Always be presentable and remember good looks, style, and hygiene can only help you.

 

[shyguy32]

First strip him of his title Master Pick up artist!

2nd yes take a shower, put some gel in your hair to give you that didn't comb it just got out of bed look.

And if you can talk to girls and get their numbers and your not getting laid, then after the getting their numbers thing your doing something wrong. Maybe you should be asking questions about that rather than telling everyone that your not getting laid.

So lets hear your questions on how to escalate up to the sex.

 

[fertileTurtle]

It's always a circus when you post in here holms. If I were you, I would STOP THINKING ABOUT PICKING UP WOMEN FOR A LONG F>UCKING TIME, and CONCENTRATE DUMMY on getting smarter and better at anything. Get out of your F>UCKING pity party and do some crazy, risky siht. Stand up for a great cause. Start some ruckus. Go beat someone's f.ucking face in or get slam f.ucking drunk and cause a f.ucking scene, DEAD F>UCKING SERIOUS MAN! You are a complete puxxy. MAKE SOME TROUBLE and be a f.ucking man for once in your life.

It's probably not her loss, btw, because you wouldn't know what to do with her if she spread eagle in front of you and told you to f.uck her, and she knows it, so why would she even bother? YOU HAVE NO EDGE. YOU PRESENT NO RISK to her. You are a soft little puppy who will be scared off at the first sing of sudden resistance. BE READY TO GO TO WAR. Go off to a far off place and make a living (a lot harder than it sounds).

Think CHALLENGES CHALLENGES every day for a long time. Find things that scare you, anger you, morally repulse you, sicken you, cause your to HAVE TO REACT HARDCORE. Go stand on a large structure and almost faint. Have a brush or two with death. And when you get so deep into that mindset, one day BAM PUXXY FALLS OUT OF THE SKY and you never get on the internet again. You really have no choice in the matter. It's that or f.cking die a faggot.

 

[mustfirstregister]

not showering in days...eeewwwwww. You gotta shower daily even though you are not getting the girls.

 

[Furyguy]

Good man, I hope you're really happy with how you're developing and not just trying to convince yourself you're happy when you're not.

That said, it obviously ain't good enough yet so keep workin. Maybe stop getting all philosophical for a while, get outside of your head a little and just go live life eh?

fertileTurtle says it well too, listen to his words.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Must've been a year or so since I last posted but yeah. Guess what? I still haven't got laid

Yeah, no sh*t.

 

[Prodigy746]

Lol its been 4 months since you last posted ... i had to check because i couldn't believe that i havent seen elstud post for a whole year.

 

[Pierce]

quit being a *****. just tell a girl everything they wanna hear.... ask to watch a movie. bam.. *****. always works. if she trips when u try her up just ask if u turn her on........then u will have draws in the next couple mins. always works for me.

 

[Alle_Gory]

quit being a *****.

That's like telling a cow to stop making milk. Doesn't even understand the same language.

 

[ElStud]

It's always a circus when you post in here holms. If I were you, I would STOP THINKING ABOUT PICKING UP WOMEN FOR A LONG F>UCKING TIME, and CONCENTRATE DUMMY on getting smarter and better at anything. Get out of your F>UCKING pity party and do some crazy, risky siht. Stand up for a great cause. Start some ruckus. Go beat someone's f.ucking face in or get slam f.ucking drunk and cause a f.ucking scene, DEAD F>UCKING SERIOUS MAN! You are a complete puxxy. MAKE SOME TROUBLE and be a f.ucking man for once in your life.

It's probably not her loss, btw, because you wouldn't know what to do with her if she spread eagle in front of you and told you to f.uck her, and she knows it, so why would she even bother? YOU HAVE NO EDGE. YOU PRESENT NO RISK to her. You are a soft little puppy who will be scared off at the first sing of sudden resistance. BE READY TO GO TO WAR. Go off to a far off place and make a living (a lot harder than it sounds).

Think CHALLENGES CHALLENGES every day for a long time. Find things that scare you, anger you, morally repulse you, sicken you, cause your to HAVE TO REACT HARDCORE. Go stand on a large structure and almost faint. Have a brush or two with death. And when you get so deep into that mindset, one day BAM PUXXY FALLS OUT OF THE SKY and you never get on the internet again. You really have no choice in the matter. It's that or f.cking die a faggot.

I'm gonna skip the other post, because they just show me the board hasn't changed in almost a year and the same people are saying the same stuff.

First though dude, I don't even think about picking up most of the time. But if I see an attractive girl, I'll approach her, if only because I know I'll regret if I don't. I do agree with you that I should take more risks in life. But I don't agree with me being a complete puxxy. After all, if that was true I would still have approach anxiety when I don't.

And you're right I wouldn't know what to do, that's pretty true. But that's only because I'm a virgin. But I don't think of it as being her loss in that case, but I think of it as being her loss that she's missing out on me. Why? Because I'm just a chill person to hang with. So I see her rejecting me as missing out on chilling with me and overall missing out on having fun with me.

I don't feel I'm personally missing out. No, if she rejects me it's no big deal. I just go back home and crank up the 360 and I'm a happy man again . Hopefully you're starting to see that getting laid isn't the biggest thing on my agenda. It's certainly one of things, but not the biggest thing. And I know me getting laid isn't really going to make a big difference in my life. After I get laid, I'll still be the chill guy, who likes playing video games. That's just me. After I get laid, I'll still approach girls and perhaps start getting laid more after that.

But I basically have a mindset of, if I get laid, great! If I don't get laid, then I have other things to do in my life. But yeah, I definitely do want to get laid eventually. But in the end, it's no great deal to me if one or two girls rejects me. Hell if every girl rejected me, I would still be a cool guy.

And lol that "I go out without having showering for days and still get girls to talk to me" thing was just to show that confidence can overpower material things when you approach a girl. Everyone likes to say "Wow, girls will reject you if you don't dress a certain way" but I say BS. It's a known fact that women are more attracted to emotions than they are physical appearence. Yes, they DO care about physical appearence, but just not nearly as much as men. Trust me, I'm not proud of my bad hygiene, but I was just saying that to point out that if you didn't dress well one day, it's not going to screw over your chances of getting girls.

But who knows? My friends are coming back in town for Christmas and we might hit up a party and I might just have an oppurtunity to get laid.

I think my biggest problem isn't that I CAN'T get laid, but that I've never had the motivation to go through all the work it takes to push a set to sex. By work I mean sh*t tests, ****blockers, LMR and all that stuff. I believe that if I went up to a set one day and I was REALLY motivated to get laid, like in a mindset of "What if tommorow the Earth was destroyed by a meteor? I don't want to die a virgin!", that I could seal the deal.

 

[Thatsalotoffish]

This caught my eye in particular...

'I've never had the motivation to go through all the work it takes to push a set to sex.'

Along with you saying you dont really shower much and other things you have said, I would say your a lazy person. xD

Its no biggie imo to not shower every day, if you at least shower before going out, hell who cares if you been reeking the past 5 days if you aint been social you know, personally I need to shower every day otherwise I feel dirty. But then again, your prob just lazy about showering, prefering to save 15 minutes of your life because you cant be bothered showering.

What I would personally recommend is... get more active, by being active, your mind gets more inspired, so with inspiration, you are motivated, with motivation you will get laid. Course it isnt that simple.

You said it yourself, you can approach girls, but nothing happens, probably because your being boring by having no motivation.

So imo from what I read, get active, start small do a few weights go jogging for 20 mins, hell I am not the most active of people but whenever I do a bit of exercise I find myself alot more pumped up.

My two cents

 

[bigjohnson]

lol, I think we found your problem! :crackup:

Actually he's just an attention whore who comes here periodically to poof around.

 

[SharinganUser]

Don't you want to get laid ever?

 

[corrector]

I think my biggest problem isn't that I CAN'T get laid, but that I've never had the motivation to go through all the work it takes to push a set to sex. By work I mean sh*t tests, ****blockers, LMR and all that stuff. I believe that if I went up to a set one day and I was REALLY motivated to get laid, like in a mindset of "What if tommorow the Earth was destroyed by a meteor? I don't want to die a virgin!", that I could seal the deal.

...and that is because you are masturbating and looking at porn too much. You need to go on the masturbation thread on the archives section and stop masturbating about getting laid.

So, what's are you up to? Do you like get off on sexual fantasy on the idea that you could get laid if you really wanted to and wank off to that? Do you believe in no-sex until marriage? If you do, then why would you want to pick up girls?

Maybe you should see a (Christian) councellor and talk about this to them to find out why you are wasting your time picking up women.

 

[Ease]

I see you're trying to improve your mindframe, but you're going off into the other extreme.

Your mindframe should be, 'i want sex, i get sex'.

Theres no nice way of saying this, but your rationalizing your own shortcomings. Ie. because you have been unsuccessful, you are trying to play it off as though you dont care. You sound like your too busy 'not caring' because your scared of admitting your own faults. Stop blaming the girl for rejecting you, yes its her loss but you failed to pick her up.

First of all stop ignoring all of the posts that you dont like. You sound like you here for validation. No-one here will give you validation for being a pusxy. You might not like it but its a good thing.

Stop having 'nothing to lose' and 'not caring about getting laid'. Everyone here knows you want to get laid just like any guy, stop trying to mindframe yourself.

Believe it or not the best post here imo has been the illegible rambling of nonsense. Its exactly what you need to do. Stop being a girl and man up, grow a beard and get drunk.

It's always a circus when you post in here holms. If I were you, I would STOP THINKING ABOUT PICKING UP WOMEN FOR A LONG F>UCKING TIME, and CONCENTRATE DUMMY on getting smarter and better at anything. Get out of your F>UCKING pity party and do some crazy, risky siht. Stand up for a great cause. Start some ruckus. Go beat someone's f.ucking face in or get slam f.ucking drunk and cause a f.ucking scene, DEAD F>UCKING SERIOUS MAN! You are a complete puxxy. MAKE SOME TROUBLE and be a f.ucking man for once in your life.

You cant improve without failing. And failing means failing, you need to be completely broken down before you can build up again stronger. Im talking about getting publicly humiliated, rejected, embarrased and egohurt. Everyones been there, it sounds like you are too scared of it happening. Its good to be unneffected by rejection but like the guys are saying, you're stuck if you keep going like this you need to change it up.

 

[randomshinichi]

I'm guessing everybody who derides the OP's post hasn't gotten laid. Sure, getting laid is a goal, but it's not THE GOAL. If there's only one point I'd nitpick on in the OP's post, it's that he's getting too complacent, too satisfied with where he is right now. We should always strive for more than what we have.

 

[bigjohnson]

I'm guessing everybody who derides the OP's post hasn't gotten laid. Sure, getting laid is a goal, but it's not THE GOAL. If there's only one point I'd nitpick on in the OP's post, it's that he's getting too complacent, too satisfied with where he is right now. We should always strive for more than what we have.

You guessed dead wrong, and probably 180 degrees off. I'd say most of the ES sympathy corps are socially odd virgins, like he is.