PushYourEdge
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I wanted to post something that I've had success with. This is in the realm of self-improvement across the board, but certainly does have an impact on my results in my dating life as well. The topic is how I've found my environment can positively or negatively affect me, beyond what I originally thought.
To illustrate my point:
If someone is talking in your native language, you can’t not understand them. You can’t not interpret the words they’re saying. Once you understand the language, your brain automatically will decode and interpret it - you do not have a choice or an on/off switch.
But that’s just language. When you see a picture of something, you can’t not interpret what it is a picture of… if you see a picture of a human face, you will recognize it as such. It is automatic.
Let’s take this further. If you are listening to music that evokes a certain emotion or that speaks to a certain mindset, you can’t not be affected on some level. It will have SOME degree of an effect.
Same with shows you watch, books you read, websites you visit, radio shows you listen to, etc. Everything you allow into your environment will have some degree of influence on you because our brains are designed to automatically interpret and process input.
Now I am NOT a victim-thinker. I do not think that we are powerless to the environment or that we can’t overcome harmful environmental conditions. What I am saying is that we need to acknowledge that the environment and what we allow in our environment DOES have a cumulative impact on us.
I do many things to make sure that my “input” is helping me along to get where I want to go:
I watch very little TV.
I stopped listening to angry and/or depressing music (I used to love it).
I stopped reading and/or listening to angry people (even if they were funny to read or listen to).
I make an active effort to think about how living in the life I want feels (experiencing the feeling of “having” my desired life.)
I visualize the life I want.
I take care of things that have to get done quickly, so they don’t pile up and bring my mood down.
I keep my living space clean and inspiring (as best I can.)
I pat myself on the back when I succeed and I do not beat myself up when I mess up.
I make an effort to notice the good things in my life and be grateful for them.
When I started making an effort to clean up my environment and what ideas/vibes I was around, my life improved. These days I feel much better than I used to - I am way more productive and I am much happier.
To illustrate my point:
If someone is talking in your native language, you can’t not understand them. You can’t not interpret the words they’re saying. Once you understand the language, your brain automatically will decode and interpret it - you do not have a choice or an on/off switch.
But that’s just language. When you see a picture of something, you can’t not interpret what it is a picture of… if you see a picture of a human face, you will recognize it as such. It is automatic.
Let’s take this further. If you are listening to music that evokes a certain emotion or that speaks to a certain mindset, you can’t not be affected on some level. It will have SOME degree of an effect.
Same with shows you watch, books you read, websites you visit, radio shows you listen to, etc. Everything you allow into your environment will have some degree of influence on you because our brains are designed to automatically interpret and process input.
Now I am NOT a victim-thinker. I do not think that we are powerless to the environment or that we can’t overcome harmful environmental conditions. What I am saying is that we need to acknowledge that the environment and what we allow in our environment DOES have a cumulative impact on us.
I do many things to make sure that my “input” is helping me along to get where I want to go:
I watch very little TV.
I stopped listening to angry and/or depressing music (I used to love it).
I stopped reading and/or listening to angry people (even if they were funny to read or listen to).
I make an active effort to think about how living in the life I want feels (experiencing the feeling of “having” my desired life.)
I visualize the life I want.
I take care of things that have to get done quickly, so they don’t pile up and bring my mood down.
I keep my living space clean and inspiring (as best I can.)
I pat myself on the back when I succeed and I do not beat myself up when I mess up.
I make an effort to notice the good things in my life and be grateful for them.
When I started making an effort to clean up my environment and what ideas/vibes I was around, my life improved. These days I feel much better than I used to - I am way more productive and I am much happier.
