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Simply go full no contact forever. She knew she could have a reply from you if she applied to your paternal feelings, and then she tried to hook you again. You know better than that dustmuffin. Good luck with the movie plan btw
Yes I do know better but emotion got in the way. I do a lot of things I shouldn't do. My dominant trait is kindness. There was a time when I had control of them and now they seem to just spill out. No excusses. I will fix it. Reading the dex god book...i used to be more dominant in bed. Had women telling their friends about me. Anyway got to a point where i didnt care and reverted to gentle sex. Due to deptession. Mistake....anway gonna try out some of it over the weekend. Wish the girls were smaller both 6 ' but i will manhandle them. I like smaller petiet girls but have never had a tall girl. It is all about variety. I am going to make myself into a sexgod. I will get my house in order because I am the prize. I don't think my x understands why I don't want to be her friend. I did almost get su kerd back in.
 

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Bowling on Sunday with second girl she is going to meet me at my house too. She lives in the sticks and works in my city. Had date with her last Sunday. Lots of keno. Would have invited her over but had boy. She immediately accepted the second date. She is the better of the two dates this weekend becasue she is an engineer and not tatted up. We will see about sex. Second date so she has one more chance after this if she dosent put out. Tattoo is kinky so im going to spank throw her around and dominate.
 

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Kept myself from writing more emails. I think I am seeking her validation. Funny thing is before she dumped me I couldn't give two s hits about her. After the dumping a switch was thrown and I got all needy. Funny how the mind works. I stopped myself and I understand the root of the problem. I don't need validation from anyone. This is a good experience. I think after I am finally over this I will be stronger.

A dumping won't effect me like this again. I can just walk away. I do know that i cant be her friend. It would be onesided. I dont need emotional support women do. Why would i want to give her me free? She would still have the relationship and i would have no sex. Women are indeed selfish and illogical. This one has a genious level iq and still dosent get it. Dosent mater how smart they are they are all the same.
 

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I have to clean up the place today. Date this evening. I have had to restrain myself again. She does not deserve my time or interest. I have been doing a cost benefit analysis on women in general. They might still be worth it. I can get dates with little effort. When I start to really improve it should be easier still with more attractive women. I really just want a average or better woman that is a good companion that causes little trouble. I need to rid myself of the empathy and kindness I feel for my ex. She doesn't deserve it. My beta tendencies are strong right now. I will get over it. New women don't make the same mistakes.I am bouncing between anger and sadness for the way women are wired. Just accept it and use it to my advantage. When it gets right down to it women are a lot of work to keep. I have to accept the fact the I need to just use them until I get bored or she loses interest and I bail. That is what saddens me. I want a relationship but with the way women are this seems impossible. I wanted to treat them as equal but that is a sure way for disaster. Society has fed me BS for so long. The deprogramming will take a while. I ramble but this helps me settle my mind. Women deserve very little empathy. I have much empathy and kindness. I have to dole it out when it is deserved.
 

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Empathy for women? I used to think about what would happen if I ever would leave my now exgf (we had a bad 2 months 3 years ago or so), because I really wanted to dump her. But I thought "She is so shy that she could never find another man, and of course no one will ever love her like I do" so I went through those 2 months and keep the relationship with her. But the truth is, ANY woman can find a man who will love her inconditionally in a matter of days if she wants to.
Never feel empathy for a woman in these topics.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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Empathy for women? I used to think about what would happen if I ever would leave my now exgf (we had a bad 2 months 3 years ago or so), because I really wanted to dump her. But I thought "She is so shy that she could never find another man, and of course no one will ever love her like I do" so I went through those 2 months and keep the relationship with her. But the truth is, ANY woman can find a man who will love her inconditionally in a matter of days if she wants to.
Never feel empathy for a woman in these topics.
You are correct. Thanks for pointing it out. She has issues she can deal with them. When I was kicked to the curb that removed all responsibility. Yes she can get a guy easily. Most women can. It is just me and my mindset. Have to get out of it. It would be easier to wallow in despair and be a beta *****. But I don't want that. I really was an ******* to my ex wife. But she deserved it. I was full on beta when we married. I slowly got tired of her **** and started to do my own thing.I was still having sex with her three times a week when she filled for divorce. I have no empathy for her. MArried 22 years and I don't give a **** what happens to her. But a ldr for a year I am upset over? I am nuts....
 

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Take a break from women dude. You seem frustrated. Focus more on your kid and your job . Hit the gym or go do a sport some times, it's very good for the mind.
Too much attention on them is unhealthy and that ex of yours is a very bad influence.

Go full monk for a couple of months, recover some energy and you will be back on the top again.
 

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Take a break from women dude. You seem frustrated. Focus more on your kid and your job . Hit the gym or go do a sport some times, it's very good for the mind.
Too much attention on them is unhealthy and that ex of yours is a very bad influence.

Go full monk for a couple of months, recover some energy and you will be back on the top again.
Yes she is and that is a good idea. I am almost over it and will be better in a few days. The two women I am dating once they drop off I will go monk. My job is so easy its a wonder they pay me for it. I do have rentals I could concentrate on that. That is my trouble I have things i could do but I procrastinate. The relationship was long distance. I could have done everything right and it still would have ended. It's just the rejection and my mental state. I still crave contact from her. I didnt before she dumped me. Im going out on my date this evening and enjoy it. I am going to bang her multiple times and do it again the next day. Thanks for the concern. I appreciate getting advice from you guys.
 

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Got back from date she had a cold. Movie was good. Sent her on her way she invited me over to dinner. Was going to next her but she asked me out and free food. So tuesday I am having dinner at her house. The date was fun. Better than staying home. I enjoyed it. Total cost 12 bucks. Maybe the date tomorrow will be more productive. I am in a better place mentally. Date did me good. There is a kitten hanging around at my house. Sweet cat. My cats what to get in the middle of it. I don't know whats up with this woman.This will be the fifth date. At her house for dinner? and she hinted around about a out of town trip. Hell no...
 
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Broke down and fed the kitten. I might have a new cat. But just like with women its not my cat its just my turn. Good mental state. Got to stat busy. I have stuff to do just have to get motivated.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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It's time for her to shvt or get off the toilet. Have you at least made out with the chick?

Don't spend anymore money on this woman and make sure drinks are involved at her house. She must be a bad bvtch for you to be waiting so long.
 

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I am at my ex wife's now to visit boys. The place is a mess. Dog s hit. In the floor. This reminds me why I got a divorce. Gonna take the boys to eat. Been thinking what I did wrong and right in last relationship. I need to learn from my mistakes. This tatoied amazon is a puzzler. Says she I'd sick downing cough drops. No sex asks me on a date and hints at a trip. Women are crazy. Since she is a therapist she might be extra crazy.

Anyway I need to get off my ass and improve. First action item was my mental state. Its almost there. Had a few set backs but that is to be expected.

I need to make a schedule and stick to it. Discipline is an issue. I will work on that. I am lazy I had a relationship and am dreading going on dates etc. Relationship was easy. Part of the reason it failed. I slacked.

I have never made a pass at my ex wife for sex. I am thinking of doing it just to see if I could. The only thing that stops me is that would be a mess. Any of you guys done this? Results?
 

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Considered ex wife...no ty. They is to much p ussy I haven't tried. I know what hers is like. Not very good....
 

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I have never made a pass at my ex wife for sex. I am thinking of doing it just to see if I could. The only thing that stops me is that would be a mess. Any of you guys done this? Results?
Terrible idea. Don't do it.

On the subject of terrible ideas, the advice about not being empathetic towards women in general is pretty crappy as well. If you want have a meaningful relationship with a woman in the future, you shouldn't buy into the misogyny bullsh!t. The majority of the guys preaching that on the site don't get/understand women and are always waiting on women to screw them over in relationships. There is a difference between supplicating, and understanding why women do the things they do. I am not saying to justify if a woman does something fvcked up, but in order to understand how to react and respond to a situation, you have to understand what a woman is thinking. It is hard to do that if you are too busy focusing on not being beta or whatever other garbage that people push off on this website.

You need to GFTOW so that you can get over your ex. The problem is not that your ex is amazing, the problem is that the other women you have in your life aren't a high enough quality to completely take your mind off of your ex completely. Keep dating and meeting new women and eventually you will realize that your ex is not a huge deal.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Terrible idea. Don't do it.

On the subject of terrible ideas, the advice about not being empathetic towards women in general is pretty crappy as well. If you want have a meaningful relationship with a woman in the future, you shouldn't buy into the misogyny bullsh!t. The majority of the guys preaching that on the site don't get/understand women and are always waiting on women to screw them over in relationships. There is a difference between supplicating, and understanding why women do the things they do. I am not saying to justify if a woman does something fvcked up, but in order to understand how to react and respond to a situation, you have to understand what a woman is thinking. It is hard to do that if you are too busy focusing on not being beta or whatever other garbage that people push off on this website.

You need to GFTOW so that you can get over your ex. The problem is not that your ex is amazing, the problem is that the other women you have in your life aren't a high enough quality to completely take your mind off of your ex completely. Keep dating and meeting new women and eventually you will realize that your ex is not a huge deal.
I have just screwed one today that has taken mind off ex. Not as pretty but better in bed. X isnt a big deal. I liked her personality best, but thgis one isnt s bad. It will just take time.
 

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Amazon texted me and canceled. I will next and if she initiates fine. Have one left. She seems to be into me don't care. Will **** till she loses interest. Didn't like amazon that much. Last girl is best if bunch. Not as pretty as ex but likes kinky sex. She is a little tall. We will see. Need to practice eye contact. She said she wanted to tie me to bed as she was leaving told her that if there was any tieing I would tie her. She called me chicken
I just stared at her and said nothing.
 

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It's time for her to shvt or get off the toilet. Have you at least made out with the chick?

Don't spend anymore money on this woman and make sure drinks are involved at her house. She must be a bad bvtch for you to be waiting so long.
She canceled on dinner date....next...gave me someone to see movie with. She has spent more on me. She is just an odd one. Depends on what is going on but if she reinitiates i may ignore.
 

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I've been in this place with women for years now. Better to play the sociopath than the victim. I was thinking of making a thread about this topic: I think that modern women have created a scenario where, to be successful, many of us are developing omega traits. It makes for a grim future for society, but I'm sick of worrying about the state of our culture. You adapt, or you suffer.
This, I try to not care anymore about Occident or about traditional living. It makes me bounce between anger and sadness, like dustmuffin says. But I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel. So we better enjoy our lives and **** b¡tches, because there is nothing worth fighting for.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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