dunno wtf is going on

[sexy_kuta]

its messed up guys

im tryin my best here so please dont assume me being a attention *****.. this hsit has been going more than 3 months and yes i have fallen bad for this chick BUT i hold my ground.. i stand strong,

so i hit it with this chick a while back.. early may, she came out of a 1.5 year relationship, so i guess she was on the rebound.. i tried to take it slow wit her...
she gave me mixed singals... and ****.. after like 2 months i think she told me she kinda miss her ex... so i was ooh shhiiit red flag.. she also told me that her ex picked her up from work and their "friends" now.. after he cheated on her liek 5 times and ****.. snd she hated his guts at once point

NOTE: she started talkin abouit her ex like after 2 months.. so guess she went through that stage.. anger, denial, sad..accepetance..

so i told her basicly i dont wanna be friends or go out with a chick who has a boy on her mind and call me when shes ready for a relationship if not best of luck... so we agreed to take a break then.. i even said the word break
so it diddnt look like i cut her off completey. she hooked up with her ex after that..

a month goes by just over a month i guess.. without no contact no talking no thing... never even seen her
she added me to msn with a new account because i blocked and deleted her old one..

i as confused on why she added me.. maybe she wanted to go back wit me or some ****... and a her nickname was some **** about being played so i knew they broke up again..(im assuming)

but the thing that fuks me up.. SHE adds me and doesnt say ****

been like a week and she hasnt said anything i didnt say anythign to her.

whats the point of her adding me then?

i wanna make this happen tho with her,

she was a keeper.. and shes my type of woman
so i wanna aviod the rebound sisutation again and maybe she just added me
and needs a lil more time before she knows she can move on with me? because shes not like those girls who tries to rebound or play..

when i was wit her she took everyhting slow.. 3rd date we kisses.. etc.

basicly a date every 2 weeks it was like..

so i wanna make htis happen because i invested TOO Much into her and i would find it such a waste and it would piss me off if things didnt work out

to all those who help me in the past thank you alot.. honeslty thanks and thanks in advance too.

 

[squirrels]

because shes not like those girls

Yes she is.

Ask her if she wants to go out. If she does, put the moves on her. If she doesn't, or doesn't respond to your moves, cut her loose.

 

[sexy_kuta]

thats what im doing right now

talkin to her.. and its like we started over again

imma give it a few days til i ask her out

things lookin good its like how we started off in the beginning..

thanks man for your input

 

[Desdinova]

she was a keeper

She went back to her ex. She's a keeper to him, not you.

whats the point of her adding me then?

You've been placed on the backburner in case her bf dumps her ass. Even if she doesn't come back to you, she wants the both of you to remain "friends".

and shes my type of woman

You like flakey women?

because shes not like those girls who tries to rebound or play..

LMAO!!! Lemme guess, she's different than all the others. Even though women are different from each other, they're still wired like WOMEN.

so i wanna make htis happen because i invested TOO Much into her and i would find it such a waste and it would piss me off if things didnt work out

Investing time into a woman is a risk. Either you're going to have a great experience, or you're going to waste your time. It's usually the latter. The best thing you can take with you from this is experience.

Now I'm going to ask you, if she ditched you the first time for her ex, what makes you think she isn't going to do it again? In a relationship, I give the woman one chance and I let her know that. If she screws it up, she's out the door.

If I were you, I wouldn't waste anymore time on her. She made her choice, and you weren't it.

 

[ima str8 up pimp]

She went back to her ex. She's a keeper to him, not you.



You've been placed on the backburner in case her bf dumps her ass. Even if she doesn't come back to you, she wants the both of you to remain "friends".



You like flakey women?



LMAO!!! Lemme guess, she's different than all the others. Even though women are different from each other, they're still wired like WOMEN.



Investing time into a woman is a risk. Either you're going to have a great experience, or you're going to waste your time. It's usually the latter. The best thing you can take with you from this is experience.

Now I'm going to ask you, if she ditched you the first time for her ex, what makes you think she isn't going to do it again? In a relationship, I give the woman one chance and I let her know that. If she screws it up, she's out the door.

If I were you, I wouldn't waste anymore time on her. She made her choice, and you weren't it.

Hey you broke it down very nicely Desdinova, but be nice man he doesn't understand he's in love. Good post.

Oh and as long as you're helping him show him the way, he's just a bit "blind" right now and I don't much feel like getting overly emotional over someone else's business. Thanks.

 

[Desdinova]

but be nice man he doesn't understand he's in love.

Sounds more like one-itis to me.

 

[ima str8 up pimp]

Hey I'm not asking you to be a jerk to me either, I just stand up for the little guy, watch it because your anger is your downfall always, I just want to help some people out . If you don't know who I am and don't respect me, refer to my last thread posted it's only a few down.

I don't deserve that so don't do that please. Have a nice day.

 

[blueguy]

Investing time into a woman is a risk. Either you're going to have a great experience, or you're going to waste your time. It's usually the latter. The best thing you can take with you from this is experience.

Take this advice. Any girl worth investing time into will show you that you're getting returns immediately. If she doesn't, you need to keep focusing on yourself because there are girls out there who will. Continuing to pine after a girl is like throwing money away.

 

[Desdinova]

Hey I'm not asking you to be a jerk to me either,

This isn't the first time you've interpreted a post of mine to be an attack. You're reading into my response too much.

I just stand up for the little guy

I'm sure Sexy Kuta is a big boy, and he can stand up for himself if he feels threatened by text on his computer screen.

watch it because your anger is your downfall always,

I find it amazing how you know me much better than I know myself.

I just want to help some people out .

You're not helping anything by trying to start a flame war in this thread.

If you don't know who I am and don't respect me, refer to my last thread posted it's only a few down.

I'm quite aware of who you are

Now, back on topic please.

 

[ima str8 up pimp]

Ehh, I get paranoid but I understand. Although you really don't have to make him look stupid, seriously show him the way.

My opinion is that there is a way to get her back in a dominating fashion if he pleases, and that is to confront the problem str8 up, talk to her like there is still a connection and make her feel really bad about what she's doing, because for sexy kuta that is bull****, and I guarantee if you do it you'll succeed true love always succeeds against a player. Don't be completely angered about it but attack it, do what you need to do, str8 go for it...

Ahhh basically thats the jist of what I'm trying to say and it's just NOT easy to describe, it's so much easier to be in the situation and actually be talking.

 

[sexy_kuta]

well

i talked to her already today.. things were wierd she talks as like nothing happend

and we talks as it was a fresh start...

she didnt really go back to her ex then dumped me on the side... i cut her off and told her ur messed up cuz u dont know wat u want so contact me later.. a week later she got back with her ex so it was my call,

they broke up again and she told me shes sick of going back and forth.. she said she called it quits but im aware thats waht she said last time

imma take it slow again like i did last time.. it actually saved my ass..

so what kind of signs would i be looking for if shes rebounding me again,

she never flaked once, only mistake she made was she was confused badly so i did the right thing. told her to contact me when ur ready...

so i guess ill give it another try, if she tries to rebound me i'll just cut her loose.

what kind of signs should i look for....

if she talks about her ex?
if she continue giving me mixed singals?

 

[aprilia825]

you've already been there before, you'll know the signs....believe me bro, I've been in a very similar situation (read the few posts I have here).

your mind will be so numb to everything just because you guys are going out together drinking, dancing, whatever...you'll think "Ok this is cool, we're hanging out again, things must be going well..but I want to take it slow" Believe me, before you know it, a few days will go by when it finally hits you...."wait a minute, we've been out all these times, but we haven't had sx in....how long?"

Believe me, if you're getting some action, things are good....if everything else is there, and shes just not giving the signals, being all touchy feely....or you simply are just not hooking up, then she is just stringing you along.

My best advice is to go out with her, and don't have the "I'm gonna take it slow" thing in your head. Go out, drink, do whatever you do....if you don't see her giving you that same look, and if you guys don't hook up (barring no unusual circumstances), then she is just keeping you around for the hell of it.

Let us know how it goes

 

[sexy_kuta]

so basicly sarge and see if she denies it? and see if she likes it then its good.

if shes being gay and emotional then shes just ****ing wit me

 

[sexy_kuta]

update things are going not too good i guess,

i talked to her very deeply i should say.. i asked her basicly if im wasting my time tryin to get with her because ive fallen pretty good for her,

she basicly told me she doesnt trust any men right now, her ex was her first relationship so she needs time..

she doesnt even pay attention when i am talking so shes using me for my attention

so im done wit her
thats enough disrespect,
but the thing is i been going to the gym everday.. seeing gains.. fuked a few girls, fooled around. made fuk buddies but i would rather be in a relationship

whats the best way to get rid of this baggage

 

[Cod3r]

My friend, My friend.... it's sad for me to hear this story...


--
This was me about a year and a half ago. I had a girl just like you who had a 'lover and friend' (as she called him). Flirted with me, went out with me, sexual kino everywhere, sexual talk ect... Didn't make a move when I was supposed to and well that's when she made the choice to do what ur girl is doing now..

PLAY YOUR ASS

The girl i'm talking about basically would tell me that she 'wasn't ready for sex' and all types of crap when I knew good and well this other guy was porking her. I'd try to get her out alone and she'd play games all the time, when we did go out we'd flirt physically but never again would she let me go over the line... Even invited me over the house alone aroun 2 00 am one morning just to tease... long story and i shoulda 'porked' her but ehhh i was still 'learning' at that point...

Do yourself a favor and take away emotions and learn from this girl... 90% chance you're not going to get out of it what you are seeking, but if you're smart you will gain MUCH MORE as she will be your private tutor in how girls work mannn, i love that girl for what she taught me... never again will i be the 'tool' the 'played' neveeerrr... learn from her


-Cod3r

 

[KarmaSutra]

i talked to her very deeply i should say.. i asked her basicly if im wasting my time tryin to get with her because ive fallen pretty good for her,

she basicly told me she doesnt trust any men right now, her ex was her first relationship so she needs time..

Eureka! You're a whiny b!tch.

Why the fvck are you wasting one fvcking breathe on this dishrag cvnt? Yep she's different than all of the other girls in the world. You'll never love another one like her so you should invest all of your time and energy into her pursuance.

Whenm you're done jack off with a cactus.

 

[Desdinova]

she basicly told me she doesnt trust any men right now,

I haven't heard this one before, but it sounds like a variation of "I don't want to date right now". In other words, SHE'S NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.

but the thing is i been going to the gym everday.. seeing gains.. fuked a few girls, fooled around. made fuk buddies but i would rather be in a relationship

You can either let your lack of a LTR get you down, or you can work with it. I know how discouraging it is when you find so many lousy women out there. An ideal LTR girl will come along when the time is right. But for now, dating is a way to pass time until you find a good woman to spend a lengthy amount of time with.

Remember, you're only 17. You've got plenty of time to settle down with a woman.

Another thing you can do is find a woman for each "need" that you have. Find one woman that's great in the sack, find one that is a trophy, find one that makes a good friend to hang out with, and the list keeps going.

Keep working on your game. When your ideal woman comes along, you'll have the experience and knowledge to attract her to you.

 

[sexy_kuta]

well i like to thank you all

especially Desdinova.. your post first on this thread really kicked into me last night.. i started to see things clearly.. and know she wasj ust fuking around wit me..

the hting once u fall u fall good like i did.. i lost my idetiny.. i started to change for her.. she started to disrespect me and lowered my standards then i started thing wtf am i doing.. SINCe when i take disrespect like this? she said she could call me back and never did? screw that then thats where i decided she aint my type of woman.. she never was. i was blinded by her looks and her confident..

so again thanks guy,

imma head to the gym in a bit and chill with the boys tonight.
any more tips would be awesome!

 

[Desdinova]

any more tips would be awesome!

Clean out your fvcking PM box.