Hey, this story began five years ago;
I met a girl which I developed major oneties for. Which is ok, I was a soft chump back then. I got severely burned and sought help. After reading up here and taking in many of the tips (mostly related to self-confidence, and picking up on interest from females), it worked great I started to see that I attracted lots of girls and women. So after a few years of working and studying around europe I ended up in London.
So this girl suddenly starts contacting me again. She is living in another country, just a 2 hour flight from me, and I decide to go over there. We meet up and make-out etc.. Long story short; We develop a LDR after six months of back and forth. So yesterday, two years into the relationship, she dumps me. I saw the signals, and I probably should have pulled out. The reason, she says, is that she cant handle this LDR thing anymore, even though she is moving to a place that is a TWO hour drive from me in a month...
Im not trying to win her back or anything. Im just somewhat confused as what to do now. I will start exercising again tomorrow and do the whole "Care for oneself". But there are a few loose ends that need to get tied up and Im not sure how I should react. She has loads of clothes at my place which she will need to pick-up. She also wants to meet me, and has been emailing me all this bull**** about how much she cares for me.
So;
Should I be there when she picks up her stuff?
I could easily dodge it, and save myself some emotional hemorrhaging, or should I dress my best, clean up and stand there proud in my own skin (even though I know it will hurt me).
Should I actually meet her?
I dont necessarily want to become enemies with her, but I dont handle female friends all that good. Im not going to have any positive contact her way for at least six months, but once those are up, should I just follow my gut?
Emails/IMs and all that crap?
Shes been sending me all these messages of how much she cares and blahblahblah, and doesnt want to lose me. I know its just so that she can feel better about herself. I have only replied to one saying that I need time to work things out, and that I dont know what kind of relationship we can have in the future (no smilies or anything). Should I simply cut my losses and ignore her? Use her to meet other girls? Become FBs?
In closing; the weird thing is... Im not really feeling emotionally crushed, much thanks to high self-esteem (I just hope this wont change). Now I can go and approach other women
Im just very confused as to how I should handle this whole affair. Any help is much appreciated (and please no "lines", I have a brain and vocal cords).
I met a girl which I developed major oneties for. Which is ok, I was a soft chump back then. I got severely burned and sought help. After reading up here and taking in many of the tips (mostly related to self-confidence, and picking up on interest from females), it worked great I started to see that I attracted lots of girls and women. So after a few years of working and studying around europe I ended up in London.
So this girl suddenly starts contacting me again. She is living in another country, just a 2 hour flight from me, and I decide to go over there. We meet up and make-out etc.. Long story short; We develop a LDR after six months of back and forth. So yesterday, two years into the relationship, she dumps me. I saw the signals, and I probably should have pulled out. The reason, she says, is that she cant handle this LDR thing anymore, even though she is moving to a place that is a TWO hour drive from me in a month...
Im not trying to win her back or anything. Im just somewhat confused as what to do now. I will start exercising again tomorrow and do the whole "Care for oneself". But there are a few loose ends that need to get tied up and Im not sure how I should react. She has loads of clothes at my place which she will need to pick-up. She also wants to meet me, and has been emailing me all this bull**** about how much she cares for me.
So;
Should I be there when she picks up her stuff?
I could easily dodge it, and save myself some emotional hemorrhaging, or should I dress my best, clean up and stand there proud in my own skin (even though I know it will hurt me).
Should I actually meet her?
I dont necessarily want to become enemies with her, but I dont handle female friends all that good. Im not going to have any positive contact her way for at least six months, but once those are up, should I just follow my gut?
Emails/IMs and all that crap?
Shes been sending me all these messages of how much she cares and blahblahblah, and doesnt want to lose me. I know its just so that she can feel better about herself. I have only replied to one saying that I need time to work things out, and that I dont know what kind of relationship we can have in the future (no smilies or anything). Should I simply cut my losses and ignore her? Use her to meet other girls? Become FBs?
In closing; the weird thing is... Im not really feeling emotionally crushed, much thanks to high self-esteem (I just hope this wont change). Now I can go and approach other women
Im just very confused as to how I should handle this whole affair. Any help is much appreciated (and please no "lines", I have a brain and vocal cords).