Dumped for bein "too confident"!!

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
It meant that you put too much pressure on her when she had other things going on in her life whether you did it confidently or not. Should have focused on spinning other plates and let her come to you if and when she was ready. Besides, you guys weren't really dating, you were just occasional FBs, don't treat the relationship as if it was something that it never was.

I was just getting bored of being her buddy, and it had been awhile since the Fukking took place so at least I can now figure out what the hell really happened.

As for the pressure? Yep, should have been spinning other plates. It's probably better this way considering the work situation.
 

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You DON'T need her. This all happened for a good reason. Now, go OUT and find that reason!
 
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5 bucks says I can still get her to come over tonight :rockon:

I kid, I kid,... but seriously, she pulled the same crap 2 weeks ago and we all know what happened... she came over shortly thereafter!
It may have even been the same night she "LJBF" me, I don't remember.
 
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I have officially been undumped. We talked yesterday and I got her to admit she misses me. How did I do it? *GASP* I told her how I feel! That I miss her too.

Does telling a girl you miss her = AFC?

Now she is texting me again and I can feel we will be hooking up again soon. How did I do it? Well when she dumped me I played it like I didn't care, hit on other girls, made her jealous, basic stuff like that.

I have ditched the C+F confident routine (for now) and am just being my usual AFC self and she likes it. But, if it wasn't for C+F I may have never got into the panties to begin with.

What do ya think?
 

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I do think there's something to C+F getting you into the panties but then needing to transition towards comfort to maintain the relationship.
 

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Knowing the entire situation, you've used a GPS in order to find the quickest route to "LJBF-ville".
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Knowing the entire situation, you've used a GPS in order to find the quickest route to "LJBF-ville".

I have been LJBF twice already.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
I have been LJBF twice already.
Well, you've proven that you can go that route; no need to do it again. My suggestion, change your goal into a series of milestones, you tend to jump to your ultimate goal without acknowledging whats going on around you. Setting smaller milestones to use as stepping stones and sticking to them will keep you on the right track while slowing your runaway train.
 

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Because she has depression, being over ****y, too confident will make her feel insecure, and perhaps more depressed. Throw all the fckin rules you learned on this site away for now, and use some common sense. Sometimes thats all u need, some logic and common sense to bang girls. some people go way overboard with this crap.

Listen, she has some insecurity issues. You think by being ****y and arrogant is going to make her fell better!? Instead, you should have RELATED with her. Have her disclose some info, relate to it and give some good advice back. At times be sincere, honest and REAL. She doesn't want anything to do with you anymore because she doesn't like the way you make her feel. Now she has associated those feelings with you. game over.

One last point. I cannot stress it enough, it's vital to read and understand a babe before you game her. The **** you learn here is NOT a blue-print. Some of us here just go around like puppets respiting out the same garbage to every girl they see. Yeah, ****y-funny MAY work, if she's a stuck up b!tch, and playing games with you. If she's an attention *****, gives you no respect, then yeah, go ahead and neg her.

But when you meet genuine girls, just be sincere and honest. Its ok to be gracious. On a date, you think she looks pretty, go ahead and tell her that! Don't tell her she looks like **** or that her hair looks like a poodle! I swear some of the advice on here is ridicoulous! Yeah you'll come off looking really good saying that crap, lol.

All I'm saying is use some logic, understand what kind of girl you're dealing with. More often than not, your dealing with a girl who's down to earth, and just like everyone else on this planet, has insecurities. use common sense and make her feel good! It's not rocket science.
 

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But when you meet genuine girls, just be sincere and honest. Its ok to be gracious. On a date, you think she looks pretty, go ahead and tell her that!


Worst...advice....ever. Honest? Logic? Common sense? That's not how to deal with women!

If you're having fun, then the confident and ****y attitude should be fun as well. And the hell with any b!tch who wants you to be depressed like her. Your fun is more important than any woman.
 

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Bible_Belt said:


Worst...advice....ever. Honest? Logic? Common sense? That's not how to deal with women!

If you're having fun, then the confident and ****y attitude should be fun as well. And the hell with any b!tch who wants you to be depressed like her. Your fun is more important than any woman.


At some time, you have to come down to earth. People are going way overboard with this stuff.

I've had girls melt right in front of me by looking directly in their eyes and telling them they look beautiful. Of course, being confident and fun is a great quality, just don't try so hard to put people down. And if your not going to be sincere and honest then good luck finding a quality babe.
 

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Well she just told me she wants to be alone and not hang out with me anymore because we have nothing in common and I am "TOO CONFIDENT". What the hell? I used all the methods on this site to bed her and now it looks like they drove her off. What says everybody about this?
i.e. she found another man....
 
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DonGorgon said:
i.e. she found another man....

Probably.. but he's obviously not better than me, because she's back. Or the ****y and funny routine has had some sort of effect and she is addicted. Or she just wants to hump.

Or the most likely scenario -- she is crazy.
 

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Probably...
Let's say that's true. Given what had just happened to her family, why would she turn to another guy when she had been hooking up with you? Could it have been something you had done? :whistle:
 
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Pssh, this was a waste of bandwidth.

Anytime SHE dumps ME, I'm gone.

You're just pissing about with this because it hurt your pride. Leave her be, and find others more worthy of your time.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Well she just told me she wants to be alone and not hang out with me anymore because we have nothing in common and I am "TOO CONFIDENT". What the hell? I used all the methods on this site to bed her and now it looks like they drove her off. What says everybody about this?
Don't worry about her bullsh!t explanation. Just get with the next chick and move on. You already hit that so move on to the next one.

If you got her in the bed, you did something right.:rockon:
 

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LJBF-zone can be overcome if you don't f*** up really badly...and you may have gotten out of it...for a third time.

I have the same problem right now...I've done stupid things with this girl...and I've always recovered
 
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I think the fact she is 1 month off a divorce has something to do with the fact she wants to just be "friends".

Anyway I am not chasing her now I am waiting for her to contact me before I make my next move.
 
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