Dumped Again ... Need Some Advice Guys

[Trump]

Last time I posted I had been told by the girl I went out with that her ex wanted to get back together and that she thought it was best if we didn't talk as much or go out so that she or I wouldn't get hurt. "I don't want to hurt you or get myself hurt", she said.

That stung me. It was the first time after my separation from ex-wife that I started falling for another woman. She was great to be around and the type I tend to fall for easily.

I shrugged it off. We went NC.

Bro she kind of insulted you and you didn't respond to it? She's saying she doesn't want to go out with you because you may get hurt? Who is calling the shots here? I'd be like "Honey, don't flatter yourself."

Then I joined Tinder. That same weekend after texting with a nice looking girl I met up with her and we started dating. Things went great and we quickly began to develop huge rapport and after two weeks it was like we were together for months. I knew that this was unusual and going too fast. But I went along with it. Sex was great. She was exactly what I needed to get over the other girl. This girl is not as attractive as the other one but I like her a lot.

So 2 weeks ago (after 5 weeks of dating) she tells me that she feels this is going too fast and she wants to slow down a bit. I say ok. After that the texts were not coming in as frequent as usual from her. Then she went almost a whole weekend without texting me. I resisted the urge to text. She texted me that Sunday night and said she wanted to talk. I called her.

Bro your weakness is evident. She texts you she wants to talk and you immediately call her? Brutal.

WTF guys! This is the second time in a row that something like this happens to me. A girl going back to an ex.

This one hurts even more than the previous girl. With this girl I really felt like I connected fully. She says she wants to remain friends. And is now texting me frequently I guess to keep me close and as much as I hate to say it as a plan B in case things don't work with the other guy.

I can see being friends with her because she is so cool and knows a ton of women. I can benefit from having her as a friend but how can I do that when I know I will get jealous if she ever brings this other guy around and after having slept with her?

I take long time to reply to texts but then crumble because I don't want to seem cold. She asks about my son and how I'm doing a lot.

What should I do here guys?

I love how you sneak in that you have a son at the end the post.

Anyway,

1. You can be friends with her as long as you continue having sex with her.
2. You can plan "B", but you have to tell your price will go way up
3. Don't expect her to set you up with anybody
4. Bro if you get jealous from seeing her with another guy, how the heck can your son look up to you for any support or guidance? Crumbling from a couple of texts from a Tinder girl who may or may not be a slut is VERY weak.

How do some of you guys survive in the real world? Have you not ever been yelled at? Chewed out? Embarrassed? Threatened? Played? Sued? Been under pressure? Got in fights? Been bloodied?

Couple of girls who have slept 10 guys and have their own agendas, send you a couple of texts and you get so confused and frustrated. :woo:

 

[Desdinova]

Desdinova,

I see your point but then does this means that it's not going to work for any of us? I mean most girls have a bf that they felt something very special for.

If you are the one who has the biggest effect on her emotionally, you will be able to return to her whenever you want. In other words, you become that pain-in-the-ass ex-bf who keeps popping up in her life.

As a woman continues to date, she becomes less influenced emotionally. The only way you can reach to the top of her high score list is by longevity. In other words, it's possible, but much more difficult.

 

[RangerMIke]

You should be dating as many women as you can. It looks like you just go from being locked onto one girl to being locked onto another. Go out with 2 or 3 at a time and let them chase you... it's so much easier.

Just walk away from this one.

 

[NSX-R]

Suspens,

NSX,

I kept my Tinder profile up but wasn't really looking or dating other chicks. Maybe that was my mistake. Had I been talking to others this would not have affected me as much. Point taken.

Tinder is a way to get some dates, but I think real life interaction would be better. The reason is that by finding girls on the street will make your caliber more solid and with time the difference with your previous self is greater, you won't be recognizing yourself ( in a good way) . Online dating ,you are with one leg outside of the comfort zone but you need to be with both your legs outside the CZ to have a true improvement.

Do small steps and keep on improving. Read the posts of guru1000 and poon king. They have some solid tips

 

[Nu Vision]

Trump,

I know when a chick is a hoe. I'm not that clueless.

I've gone through some ****. Still standing. But I admit when it comes to relationships with women I'm still learning.

Desdinova,

Gotcha. It's harder but doable.

Ranger Mike,

Yup. That has been a big mistake. I tend to focus on one girl at a time which I see is not good. I won't make this mistake again.

NSX,

I'll focus on doing activities I like to do and being social meeting people. I find that when I'm looking to meet a girl I don't and when I go out just to have fun or whatever I end up being introduced to someone.