Dump your openers here

[muttley]

Greetings DJs!

Before i start, here is my cold approaching and sarging journal thread
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=83593


As some of you might know and have heard here countless times Cold Approaching is a must!!

For me personally everytime i cold approach, every experience, every encounter, every success, every failure, every mishap, every result whether expected or unexpected I come across is something that in the end gives me experience and makes me stronger!!:yes:

Now just because you dont cold approach doesnt make you AFC and one should'nt think that cold approaching is the only way to get women. Although this could be true for people who dont have vast social circles so therefore cold approaching applies to you. Well this thread isnt about cold approaching much ( there are enough threads about that already )

This thread is about openers, specifically dynamic openers.
(some one make it sticky)
As i continue my cold approaching/sarging routine i have realised 2 things:

1) Unless the chick finds u attractive, an
opener like "hey baby how r you" or "hi there whats your name" or any opener that shows interest is usually unsuccessful. The chick puts her guard up even more.

2)Using the correct opener is very important, i.e it has to be linked to the situation somehow for her to "let you in" and "take her guard down". From there you can build rapport and # close em


Sometimes its really difficult to think of dynamic openers on the spot, but as i progress im sure i will learn. And also help for people who are experienced wouldnt hurt would it


Id like to create this thread as a Dump for openers to use for given situations. It can really help to have a 'backup' incase you really cant think of anything but i do know that "canned openers" can sound corny and fake but it is still good to have a backup.

Ill start the ball rolling

The Format Should be :

SITUATION OPENER
............ ............





here goes..(if they are weak, point em out)
Remeber, try to use 3-secs rule and say them confidently

eg.

Girl on bus stop/train platform - "Has the bus/train just gone or is it on the way?

Girl checking CDs - "hey i need a quick female opinion , im buyin a present for my teenage sister, what CD would she prefer most?"



Those are just examples.


What i wud require is:

A) girl walking towards/passed you in town/mall

B)girl standing/sitting by her self ( could be waiting for some one

C)Girl walking infront of you ( this is hard )


ill update the post as i go along

 

[Inc. ©]

Use this one when you see a girl at a cafe, on the beach, or reading a book.

"Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you, but are you from ______?"

And, if you think its AFC, field test it and show us the video/audio of it not working.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

Hey, what time is it?

You got the time?

Got a smoke?

Guess what? I'm brought my rifle to school once!

 

[Chosen1]

openers

if I see a girl a lot and we don't talk I mention that. Recently I told a girl we see each other all the time but never talk. we then introduced ourselves to each other.

Hi is a really good one.

I onced came up to this girl working at a grocery store and said,
"why are you working here" she said I don't know and I said "you are way to pretty to work here"

Once I saw a girl on the bus and she was reading Frankenstein I said, "is that a good book" she said, " it's ok" and then I asked why she was reading it, she shot me down. not a good approach. but good enough.

I don't approach a ot but when I do i like to make it memorable

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

you are way to pretty to work here"

Isn't better to open up with something or complement with something NOT related to looks?

 

[Spirit Fingers]

Showing interest is fine on your opener. These openers are called direct openers, and are especially effective in the daytime. My standard opener is:

"Hey, I saw you here wearing/doing xxx...and I think you look really cute/pretty/good."

I avoid opinion openers because they show weakness. It's like your taking a survey -- very asexual. The best openers are those which are spontaneous.

-Dan

 

[Anomalous]

The Nice Guy is Gone is right!! Don't compliment on a girls looks the first time you see her. This is such an AFC thing to do.

BUT



The new guru here,(Spirit Finger) is also right. Saying that you saw her doing something and that she looked cute is DIFFERENT than saying, "Hey, your hot" because when you say you say her doing something it shows that you were interested by what see did and cute/pretty/good is not as strong as hot/beautiful. Saying "hey your hot" shows that you only talked to her because of what she looks like. She wont like this.

 

[Chosen1]

"Isn't better to open up with something or complement with something NOT related to looks?"

The reason I opened up with that was to show I was fun I didn't really like the girl and just wanted to mess around. If you came to my city and saw me playing around you would never guess I was a virgin.

 

[DJnoob]

WOW you're a goddess!

 

[pimpfromdayone]

My favorite, coc-kiness/neg. hitting at its greatest:

"You look like a bit-ch!"

 

[Wee]

You always have an opener. If you make some EC and smile and you get one back, then you are invited to say something to her. If you have to a "hey" will work. I like to pick something about her and start off with it like...

Girl in a shirt that says "italian" or "italy" or something with the flag too:
(after making ec and grinning)
Me: italian, huh?
Her: (looking confused then lookin' down at her shirt) oh yea. (smile).
Me: I should probably leave right now, all the italian girls I've met before have been Baadddd newwss.

Now your talkin'...

Girl with sparkly purse.
(made ec.. yea)
Me: Damnit, girl!!
Her: What!?
Me: Your god damn purse is about to give me a seizure.
Her: (laughin with that "omg he didnt say that" look).

Find something and pick at it, or if you get the ec going then your pretty much invited to say "hey how you doin'" but make sure it don't stay that boring for long.

 

[dadood]

creative pickup lines

creative pickup lines that are original, i'll start off with one.

i just used this one recently, "it says on your profile that you are interested in dating, can i take you out on a date sometime?"

i used this one, with this one girl to try to get her attention cos she's probaly talking to lots of guys online, and i thought it'd be better than beating around the bush which is what most guys do with her probaly.

 

[DJnoob]

say something like,

Hi, I Mean to bother you. What time is it?

 

[jimhardy]

My favourite line is an old classic and quite dynamic and I use it most often when someone is walking the other way:

Note: You need to have completely erased the natural fear you feel when looking into a stranger's eyes. So as you approach one another your staring into her eyes, and she should be staring into yours. She breaks eye contact before you. Always. However uncomfortable you feel, even if your eyes are watering. She breaks eye contact first.

Give it a second, let her pass you and then go after her. Don't touch or tap her to get her attention, but get into her vision. Make her pause and say something along the lines of:

"Hi. Forgive me for interrupting but I've found myself staring into eyes that just *sparkle with mischief* and I decided that even if I end up making a complete fool of myself, I am going to at least meet you."
Pause for an imaginery paragraph break.
"I'm jIm."

Insert whatever you like between those stars e.g. shine with enthusiasm, radiate fun, glow with interest, gleam with... you get the idea.

jIm

 

[Mintyfresh]

I only do situational openers, so they're garunteed to be unique.

If i really want to meet a girl and there isn't a situational one to be found i usually just go for "hey my name is ____ and i have some time to kill and noticed you over here [sitting/reading/walking/etc]"

But ya situational are the best.


HB on the floor:
So is the floor comfortable? Maybe ill just give up sleeping on a bed all together, hmm let me try this *sit down*.

HB looks bored:
Having fun ? you look really bored ...

HB wearing something interesting:
"haha nice hat/shoes/shirt ... i think i found an identical one for my sister at a yard sale the other day"

HB studying:
"did you know that recently they discovered that 50% of women from 18 to 25 suffer a brain annurism from studying too hard without a break ?"

Some of my s-hit is pretty fun and i make it all up on the spot lol. (I've used all those before).

 

[catch]

funny openers..

man i love making a girl burst out luaghing when i first meet her.......

heres some funny ones:

your in a cloths store;
a real hb8 is working there and you need some help;

me"hey excuse me can you show me how these work..."

hb"yeah sure, how can i help"

take her over to the bra section...
start fimbleing around hopelessly with the bra strap..

me"LOOK..!!! i just cant figure these damm things out!!!!

hb" ha ha ha, here il show you"

me"COOOL, hey thanks... i hate wearing the same bra two days running!!!

hb" ha ha ha, you wear a bra????

me"ummmmm... is that wrong"???

hb"ha ha ha... yes thats wrong, your a guy!"

heres another,

some friends and i find it hillarious just approaching girls and asking them for advise on stuff like, which vibrator to get your mamma.../
oppinions on weird subjects like what a sexually aroused goat would do when there are no she goats around/
directions to the porn shop/
how they REALLY feel about that lady on animal farm getting bummed by a hoarse/ ha ha ha

you have to be dead pan serious, and if they shoot you down, just be like, "hey... i thought you might know, sheesh" "thats the last time ime ever gona talk to the homeless"

 

[pimpfromdayone]

Originally posted by catch

some friends and i find it hillarious just approaching girls and asking them for advise on stuff like, which vibrator to get your mamma.../
oppinions on weird subjects like what a sexually aroused goat would do when there are no she goats around/
directions to the porn shop/
how they REALLY feel about that lady on animal farm getting bummed by a hoarse/ ha ha ha

You're pretty hilarious dude
I love the "which vibrator should I get my mamma?" line.... I might use that one sometime, haha. You know some guys would tell you you're crazy for talking like that, but in reality, most girls are just as dirty-minded, if not more, than us guys. I guarantee a good number of girls will give you the bit-ch test when you say something bold like that, but just for having the balls to say it, you are bound to pass the test because you just don't give a fu-ck... and once again, it's hilarious.

Anyway, I always tease her right from the beginning when possible, oftentimes about her clothing. I might make fun of her "skimpy" outfit by saying something like:
"Nice shirt, show as much skin as possible huh..."
or
"Nice boots, anything for attention right?"
You get the point. Of course you must do this with a semi-serious smirk on your face.

 

[izza]

Originally posted by catch
funny openers..

man i love making a girl burst out luaghing when i first meet her.......

heres some funny ones:

your in a cloths store;
a real hb8 is working there and you need some help;

me"hey excuse me can you show me how these work..."

hb"yeah sure, how can i help"

take her over to the bra section...
start fimbleing around hopelessly with the bra strap..

me"LOOK..!!! i just cant figure these damm things out!!!!

hb" ha ha ha, here il show you"

me"COOOL, hey thanks... i hate wearing the same bra two days running!!!

hb" ha ha ha, you wear a bra????

me"ummmmm... is that wrong"???

hb"ha ha ha... yes thats wrong, your a guy!"

heres another,

some friends and i find it hillarious just approaching girls and asking them for advise on stuff like, which vibrator to get your mamma.../
oppinions on weird subjects like what a sexually aroused goat would do when there are no she goats around/
directions to the porn shop/
how they REALLY feel about that lady on animal farm getting bummed by a hoarse/ ha ha ha

you have to be dead pan serious, and if they shoot you down, just be like, "hey... i thought you might know, sheesh" "thats the last time ime ever gona talk to the homeless"

LOL LOL

 

[bullmoose]

Girl working at a counter in a store, EC, smile, but a huge line behind me and I'm in a hurry.

I come back in the store a few minutes later -- or half an hour -- when the line has diminished and there's time to talk.

"Excuse me, I forgot something."

She'll check around herself. "Your receipt? Your card?"

"No. I forgot to ask if you were single."

This one is three for four, so far. The one girl who wasn't single was flattered to the point of blushing, so maybe it's three point five for four.