Dumbfounded

[In10se]

Good feedbak guys...again I know it seems insane from an outside perspective but we talked A LOT and she pushed this whole thing...i have one more semester of school so my time is not really an issue this summer and I wanted to get a hotel but she insisted that I stay over...a lot of factors wrre at play

 

[Trump]

If you got two girls at home ready to have sex at the snap of your fingers, why would you travel cross country to see a girl who may or may not sleep with you?

If a girl resists after the several times, you don't ask her what's up, you decide if it's worth to keep pushing to close the deal. Sometimes they just want to know how desperate you are, how many options you have, how smooth you are. It's all a game.

Personally I wouldn't say anything, unless she directly puts you down, I would just keep on seeing her less and less and hit on other girls. Make yourself more valuable to the opposite sex. She'll wake up soon.

To ask a girl "why wont you have sex with me?" is like asking a customer "why won't you buy this car?" Pretty desperate.

 

[In10se]

That was the most constructive response yet...I have connections with an airline so literally only cost me 100 round trip ...the money is no big
Deal ..her friend is getting us into an insanely nice club for free tonight so **** it imma roll with it and prolly neva talk to her again after i leave...will post an update on how this all turns out

 

[In10se]

Update after lookin the medicine cabinet I found Azo which is treatment for UTI...I am going to try and seal the deal later and if I get rejected Imma ask directly what the issue is...**** it...Ill be home in 2 days so I can get on with real plates

 

[In10se]

There is a lot to be learned from this ordeal, today is my last day here and whether I get it in or not I have come to two very definitive conclusions.

DO not get married: if this piece of work can go on for months about how much she wants to have sex with me and how no other guys even interest her and then cold shoulder me all trip...imagine a wife who has your balls and money in her pocket....**** can turn sour at any given time so save urselves the trouble

Dont travel for sex: if there is a LTR situation then bring the girl to you or go on a trip with a few goals and people to see...I am powerless in these circumstances bc I am in her house and cant easily just tell her to piss off

Hope someone learns from my foolishness bc I sure as hell have

 

[Iceberg]

Dont travel for sex: if there is a LTR situation then bring the girl to you or go on a trip with a few goals and people to see...I am powerless in these circumstances bc I am in her house and cant easily just tell her to piss off

Hope someone learns from my foolishness bc I sure as hell have

I would have told her to piss off after the 2nd day. Even if that means sleeping in a Days Inn for the rest of the trip. Mistakes can be made, but I'll be damned if I let some chick think I'm "trapped".

At very least, leaving her place would have flipped the script on her and put her on the defensive. Let her go crying to her friends about how "all guys only care about sex." instead of "I let some guy sleep at my place for a week, but I didn't like him very much, so we only made out."

There's no worse feeling to me than when someone thinks they have me trapped. I absolutely hate that feeling, and I'd spend any expense to prove otherwise.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

There is a lot to be learned from this ordeal, today is my last day here and whether I get it in or not I have come to two very definitive conclusions.

DO not get married: if this piece of work can go on for months about how much she wants to have sex with me and how no other guys even interest her and then cold shoulder me all trip...imagine a wife who has your balls and money in her pocket....**** can turn sour at any given time so save urselves the trouble

I think marriage can work as long as the woman respects your ability to find other sexual partners if she starts slipping up.

Your situation is f**ked because the woman knew from the start that your options are limited. You spent months texting her, although you never met her. You traveled across country to stay at her place. These are not the actions of a guy who's in high-demand. SHe probably even THOUGHT that she wanted to f**k you. Then once you got there, it subconsciously clicked in her brain that with all the effort you put into this, she was your only option, and that you probably werent getting girls in your hometown. And that dried her up.

Anyway, yes, you gave her way too much power. Even if you were gonna pull this off, you should have got a hotel. Yeah, yeah...she offered. I don't care. Anything to distance yourself from her would have given her a reason to want to please you.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

In for a penny, in for a pound.

Two days left, you've wasted too much time to walk away now from someone who was almost certainly going to give it up to you.

Don't be an idiot and lose your cool, but maybe tell her that you got a phone call and need to leave a day earlier (due to something very important and responsible) and then plan accordingly. She will either give it up, or you walk away and get a day to yourself.

Blowing your cool though will give you nothing at all, guaranteed.

Yes but was she "almost certainly" going to give it up? Their previous conversation happened over texts and sh*t. It's not like there was a real-life connection being made. Just some girl playing fantasy on the internet....you know how girls are.....now that the fantasy is reality, she's not willing to step up.

 

[In10se]

Ok just to clarify a lot of our conversations were via Skype and one of her best friends grew up by me and actually knows a lot of the same people I do so it wasn't a total stranger. I guess the hardest thing to swallow is that I got played, it really wasnt all about the sex for me I really felt like we built a strong mutual connection..she threw around the word "love" and It was like 70% effort to intiate with me everyday...she even knew I have other options bc I was seeing a girl for awhile before this...Im telling you this whole thing is not as clear cut as you would imagine..eventually Ill figure it out

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Ok just to clarify a lot of our conversations were via Skype and one of her best friends grew up by me and actually knows a lot of the same people I do so it wasn't a total stranger. I guess the hardest thing to swallow is that I got played, it really wasnt all about the sex for me I really felt like we built a strong mutual connection..she threw around the word "love" and It was like 70% effort to intiate with me everyday...she even knew I have other options bc I was seeing a girl for awhile before this...Im telling you this whole thing is not as clear cut as you would imagine..eventually Ill figure it out

I hear you man. Nobody's trying to insult your macking abilities. Just trying to explain the mind of these crazy female.

As far as throwing around the "love" word, you gotta press the rewind button and remember that you're hearing this from a girl you've never met. It's not quite the same as hearing it from your girlfriend of 6 months.

Let me tell you..if some female I never met is talking about "love" with me, I'm flying across the country to get AWAY from her, not towards her.

 

[In10se]

You guys are right, the more I step back and analyze this situation the more ridiculous it seems. This girl lives in a fantasy reality and just craves an outlet to escape. All she talks about is running away to travel in other countries and how envious she is of people with a lot Of money. Basically if I get no action tn Im taking bags at the airport and just walking away...no kiss no goodbye...peace kid im gone

 

[In10se]

So it doesnt look like this is happening...I swept her up carried her to bed, pinned her down and started making out and she had the ****ing nerve to tell me she had to clean...lol oh man..she thinks she is driving me to the airport tomoro but im guna take a cab early and leave without her knowing..hah what a piece of work this chick is...should I delete her on facebook and skype or just post pics of me with cute girls and rub **** in her face?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

should I delete her on facebook and skype or just post pics of me with cute girls and rub **** in her face?

You should leave early in the cab as planned; and go no contact completely. Don't answer her Skype's, texts, calls, FB messages etc

Keep her on as a friend on FB, but hide her wall posts so you can't seem them and then go out and get back to doing what you do.

The best revenge is living well. Make a note of it, write it down, mentally put it as a post it in your brain and never make that mistake again.






PIMP

 

[In10se]

So as a final update I left this morning in a cab without a goodbye...so far three texts telling me I shouldve woken her up or left a note...f her ...I feel good.

 

[omega05]

Should have just whipped it out on the bed

 

[Iceberg]

So as a final update I left this morning in a cab without a goodbye...so far three texts telling me I shouldve woken her up or left a note...f her ...I feel good.

Right. She cares so much, but she's texting instead of calling.

F**k that broad. Making you fly across the country for a high school makeout session.

 

[Solomon]

Maybe its just me but i still have yet to understand how going across country to meet a total stranger that sent you nude pics is a good idea.

Perhaps im old fashioned?? LOL.

How can you be dumbfounded? What should dumbfound you is the fact this girl is having a guy fly out to her house from
across the country that i presume she never met?!??! I mean, who does that?

^^This, I just had a talk today with a guy in his 80's. He told me to focus on my health instead of worrying about puzzy. Not that I haven't, but the more I come on this board the more I realize how my goals/views have changed over the years.

@OP--I feel like there is something your not telling us. Did you send her pics? I've been in similar situations (not traveling that far though) were a girl was hot and heavy and when we met she was cold, typically because pshyically she thought I was gonna be more but that was in the past

Just saying

 

[Aristippus]

I don't know why this hasn't crossed anyone's mind. She probably caught an STD just before you made your trip and she's too embarrassed to tell you. That's why you guys are doing everything short of sex. You're making out and grinding on each other ,etc. etc.

She's being pulled in two directions. Her body wants it but she is extremely embarrassed and is afraid of being judged. That's just my opinion. I don't think you're being played. Notice how it's a sudden stop when you move towards sex. Everything gets all hot and heavy until sex comes up.

I think you're letting your ego and impatience cloud your thinking. That's not meant as an insult. Just an observation.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

I don't know why this hasn't crossed anyone's mind. She probably caught an STD just before you made your trip and she's too embarrassed to tell you. That's why you guys are doing everything short of sex. You're making out and grinding on each other ,etc. etc.

She's being pulled in two directions. Her body wants it but she is extremely embarrassed and is afraid of being judged. That's just my opinion. I don't think you're being played. Notice how it's a sudden stop when you move towards sex. Everything gets all hot and heavy until sex comes up.

I think you're letting your ego and impatience cloud your thinking. That's not meant as an insult. Just an observation.

Right. Or maybe she just flat-out lost her vagina. And she can't find it anywhere. And she's ashamed to tell him.

 

[AAAgent]

Honestly, this sh1t doesn't make sense at all.

Best thing you can do is stop trying to analyze it because it will just drive you insane as you can come up with 10000000 possible answers.

I wouldn't answer her unless she agrees to come visit you and fvck to make up and if she doesn't she'll get the curb.

Next!