Dumb girl wants to be single, I'm an idiot

[terran2k]

you need to cut this chic loose, while you're all tied up trying to analyze every little thing she does as some sort of sign that she might like you, you'll miss the opportunity to be with a chic that's actually interested in you.

that oneitis chic is going to cause you alot of pain and frustration.

 

[nismo-4]

I pity the fool who didn't listen to 5string & Iceberg! I see another oneitis case full of incriminating evidence. Judge nismo is very disappointed.

Hey it's me again, with another story of oneitis

Common cases here on this site.

So fate decided to fuck with me and brought a previous oneitis back into my life, right after I had gotten over her :cuss:

Why didn't you just ignore her or make her chase you?

I would have been happy if I never saw the bitch again, but noooo she had to late add the class, just when I thought I was in the clear.

Only you put yourself in the woods.

Of course I'm retarded and I can't resist her.

And I'm from New Orleans!

All the old feelings come pouring back and we basically continue on like she didn't reject me back in April and that we've been no contact from then on till September.

Because she's been getting dik from guys more attractive than you. Women know how to feign pain & hurt.

So we start regularly talking and hanging out together on campus. Last Thursday the 7th, I try to get her to do something with me off campus and she tells me that she's too busy with school and then counter-offers that we get together on Monday (the 11th, which we did for about 1 and a half hours)

Exhibit A in bold! This shows that she's not interested in you. She's too busy messing with guys more attractive and interesting than you. You got a consolation prize on 9/11!

Fast forward to today, as we leave class I ask her what she's doing this weekend. And she says she's going to a museum for as an assignment. I suggest that we go together then she asks me if I'm asking her on a date. Before I could answer, she brought up that she already told me that she didn't want to date anybody.

Exhibit B! She's just not that into you! She tells YOU she doesn't want to date anybody, she actually meant that she doesn't want to date you.

I replied that she said that five months ago and I was checking if she changed her mind since then.

Very AFC bro. This move is not very effective. You should've just moved on.

She reiterated the doesn't want to date anybody at all.

Review exhibit B again.

But that we can still hang out, and she suggested we hang out next week since she is still busy this week writing papers.

Exhibit C! You won the booby prize of becoming one of this girl's orbiters in the friendzone!

So the basic situation is that I got a girl that knows I'm interested, who doesn't want to date anybody, who likes my company and wants to keep hanging out with me, (though only what appears to be a controlled setting).

The reality of this basic situation is that you got a girl who knows you're desperate, who keeps you as an orbiter, and wants to keep you only as a friend. (though only what is really her stringing you along with the treadmill effect. You're running but getting nowhere.)

WTF is wrong with this girl?

WTF is wrong with your ass? That's the question! Don't you realize that you're not attractive enough for her?

She's almost 21 and I can't understand why she doesn't want any men in her life. I wonder if she's gay or had a bad experience.

Now you're in Stressful Park, Idaho. The answer is: None of the above! Also, she doesn't want you in her life. Become one of these bad boys or get rich or get popular, hell anything to stick out from the average male. When you do, women will be more receptive to you and give you less BS and you'll be flaked on less.

BTW, I know I'm an idiot for getting stuck on her, again

I long accepted your guilty plea.

Read bet- Work on being an above average male and get this woman out of your life.

Thank you Maxtro! But your princess is in another castle!

Case closed.

 

[f283000]

I'm just waiting for Igetit and falcon to show up. They probably haven't yet because they are ripping their hairs out after reading the Original Post in this thread

Maxtro, from your posts it seems that you have not incorporated ANYTHING we have adviced you on in the past. You keep doing what we already told you is wrong. I seriously wonder if you are not being serious but are actually a troll bent on torturing us.

 

[Hidden-Hand]

WTF is wrong with this girl? She's almost 21 and I can't understand why she doesn't want any men in her life. I wonder if she's gay or had a bad experience.

Any men, or just you? For all you know she said that and 3 hrs later was on her knees in some cool pimps dormroom.

 

[Hidden-Hand]

Heh, guess I was hoping there was some secret PUA trick to awaken a girls hidden sexual energy.
LOL I should just try to kiss her and get her to slap me again (see my previous thread)

Fail.

 

[nismo-4]

WTF is wrong with this girl? She's almost 21 and I can't understand why she doesn't want any men in her life. I wonder if she's gay or had a bad experience.

Any men, or just you? For all you know she said that and 3 hrs later was on her knees in some cool pimps dormroom.

Or some rich guy's marble floors butt naked! Or a popular guy's bed!

 

[wait_out]

Or in the back of a volkswagen

 

[Maxtro]

I'm just waiting for Igetit and falcon to show up. They probably haven't yet because they are ripping their hairs out after reading the Original Post in this thread

Maxtro, from your posts it seems that you have not incorporated ANYTHING we have advised you on in the past. You keep doing what we already told you is wrong. I seriously wonder if you are not being serious but are actually a troll bent on torturing us.

What would I possibly gain by trolling? I'm way too old for that garbage.

The original post was me venting my frustrations with myself if that wasn't obvious. I had no intention of getting another case of oneitis, and on a girl I've already gone through it with once before.

I'm trying to think of advice I've been giving but it's mostly just people telling me how I screwed up. I know I fucked up, what else is new?

Any men, or just you? For all you know she said that and 3 hrs later was on her knees in some cool pimps dormroom.

I'm fairly certain that she isn't hooking up with anybody. I'm going to ask her on Monday. I don't think she has any reason to lie to me.

Originally Posted by Maxtro
Heh, guess I was hoping there was some secret PUA trick to awaken a girls hidden sexual energy.
LOL I should just try to kiss her and get her to slap me again (see my previous thread)

Fail.

Why is it fail? This is a seduction board. One would hope that somebody on it would know how to seduce a woman.

 

[Maxtro]

Oh my ..

Max, just leave the chick alone. It's going nowhere. You've got a serious case of oneitis.

LOL, I'm not going to come right out and ask it like that, I do have some tact.

As for me having a serious case of oneitis....duh, did you read the first post :kick:

 

[bam bam]

creeper...

 

[Mike32ct]

Maxtro,

I've been following your posts and really do want you to get laid. (Believe me, I've been where you are now and want to help.) But I just don't see anything happening with this chick. She's got you totally in friendzone. She enjoys your company and probably thinks you're a good guy, but you don't make her gina tingle or at least not enough. Don't beat yourself up about it. It is what it is.

As for her wanting to be single, a lot of girls her age don't want to be tied down. That's fair. A lot of guys are the same way. But that doesn't necessarily mean she's celibate. She could well be f&cking other guys on the side. On that other hand, if she chooses to be celibate, it doesn't change a thing for you. It means she hasn't met a guy (including you) that gives her ENOUGH gina tingling to put down her vibrator and overcome her self-imposed vow of celibacy.

Women f*ck who they want to f*ck, assuming the guy they want is interested. Even the biggest sl&t on earth is selective and won't hook up with just anyone.

As a side note, you hung out with her something like 6 times already. If you haven't had at least a makeout session by now, the probability of closing this chick is pretty much zero. Either she was never physically interested in you to begin with or she was marginally interested and you weren't aggressive enough. Either way it doesn't matter at this point.

I'm not sure what you plan to "ask her." She's made it quite clear already what the deal is.

I know you are looking for some PUA magic trick that will make her hot for you. That's the nonsense these marketers like to sell. Game is NOT taking an uninterested girl and making her hot for you. (Good luck with that one.) Game is meeting lots of women, putting your best foot forward, and properly handling those that ARE INTERESTED so you can get some kind of close.

I would not call or text her if I were you. You can be polite to her in person because she is a classmate, but DON'T expect anything from her. As for her introducing you to her friends, again don't expect anything. If by some slim chance it happens, great.

You definitely need to meet other girls and work on them. It's the only way. With each new girl, you have a "clean slate." This is why they preach Next, Next, Next on SS. It is because pickup is a video game where you get only one life. Women are NOT forgiving. You either meet their minimum standards or you don't. So all you can do is hit the reset button (i.e. find another chick) and play your video game again trying to go as far with that one life as possible.

 

[Maxtro]

Thanks for the thoughtful post Mike32ct.

but you don't make her gina tingle or at least not enough. Don't beat yourself up about it. It is what it is.

How do I not beat myself up? I have been raging so hard over this whole situation. These past couple of days I have had a ridiculous amount of self-hatred. It was enough to go back into counseling after a three month absence.

As for her wanting to be single, a lot of girls her age don't want to be tied down. That's fair.

I completely understand that, and I know better than to try and get a girl to commit. At this point I'd just be happy making out with somebody. I don't care about having anything serious.

I'm not sure what you plan to "ask her." She's made it quite clear already what the deal is.

On that other hand, if she chooses to be celibate, it doesn't change a thing for you. It means she hasn't met a guy (including you) that gives her ENOUGH gina tingling to put down her vibrator and overcome her self-imposed vow of celibacy.

I want to double-check that she isn't seeing anybody and possibly find out why. I'm not going to try and convince her to date me because that's as fruitful as trying to move a brick wall with my mind.

As a side note, you hung out with her something like 6 times already. If you haven't had at least a makeout session by now, the probability of closing this chick is pretty much zero. Either she was never physically interested in you to begin with or she was marginally interested and you weren't aggressive enough. Either way it doesn't matter at this point.

I haven't tried to kiss her and I probably never will.

Right now I'm having a huge problem differentiating interest from friendliness. There are things she has done that I interpreted as hardcore flirting and other times she's been cold. At least I took the risk and asked her out, instead of hanging around her for months without ever trying anything.

Being aggressive is another problem and that's mainly tied to my confidence. High confidence, high aggressiveness. I was getting more confident as time went on, now it's gone.

I know you are looking for some PUA magic trick that will make her hot for you. That's the nonsense these marketers like to sell. Game is NOT taking an uninterested girl and making her hot for you. (Good luck with that one.) Game is meeting lots of women, putting your best foot forward, and properly handling those that ARE INTERESTED so you can get some kind of close.

Then it seems that game is irrelevant for me because I now realize that women are never interested. They're just being friendly and the thought of being with me never crosses their mind.

You definitely need to meet other girls and work on them. It's the only way. With each new girl, you have a "clean slate." This is why they preach Next, Next, Next on SS. It is because pickup is a video game where you get only one life. Women are NOT forgiving. You either meet their minimum standards or you don't. So all you can do is hit the reset button (i.e. find another chick) and play your video game again trying to go as far with that one life as possible.

The game is getting very tiring.

I don't know how many more losses I can take till I'm out of quarters.

 

[ArcBound]

6 years and you still don't get why continuing to hangout with oneitis is bad?

And even if you do know, why don't you stop?

It doesn't matter how much advice you read and how many thousands of posts you make if you don't follow any of the advice or principles here.

 

[Maxtro]

6 years and you still don't get why continuing to hangout with oneitis is bad?

And even if you do know, why don't you stop?

Because I take female attention when I can get it. For me it feels good to be around women who appear to give a damn that I'm alive.

 

[CarlitosWay]

I remember a picture of you and you were looking pretty goofy. Hope you changed your style since then. I sense a bit of learned self helplessness in the tone of your posts. Don't make other peoples issues regarding their lack of interest affect you. It is out of your hands, therefore move on. It seems keeping this chic even just as a friend is causing more harm than good. What chic is going to be comfortable around you enough to drop her panties and show skin, when you come off as not even comfortable in your own skin?

 

[jophil28]

..we basically continue on like she didn't reject me back in April and that we've been no contact from then on till September.

I have been at this dating game for about 35 years and I cannot recall ONE example of a successful relationship repair after the woman rejected the guy ..... NOT ONE !

 

[joe henny]

I have been at this dating game for about 35 years and I cannot recall ONE example of a successful relationship repair after the woman rejected the guy ..... NOT ONE !

Also why would you want to be friends with a girl who just rejected you. All you do is inflate her ego and become her female b!tch who walks around kissing her feet.

35 years? Damn I bet that you have basted a lot of turkeys then lol

 

[backbreaker]

burn bridges. no. tourch them, so you can't possibly look back.

you only have a finite amount of time here on earth, don't spend it with a girl who doesn't want you.


okay, pretend i'm a smokin hot girl maxtro. i want you to in one paragraph, sale yourself to me. why should i date you over all these other ****s out there? what do you bring to the table? what do you have going for yourself?

 

[Myrrdin]

It is because pickup is a video game where you get only one life. Women are NOT forgiving. You either meet their minimum standards or you don't. So all you can do is hit the reset button (i.e. find another chick) and play your video game again trying to go as far with that one life as possible.

^^ This. Gold. They truly aren't forgiving. Days, months, years may pass and they still remember the bad.

 

[J. Darko]

I don't get why this thread is still going. The only thing Maxtro needs to do is meet thousands of girls and go for the one that is interested in him.