Dude.. it's not possible for the world to be this small

[backbreaker]

I mean, what am I supposed to do?

I'm from little rock, AR. grew up there my entire life. I've lived in Sarasota, moved back to little rock, then to del mar CA where I stay now.

Right now I'm at Bush National Airport in Houston, getting ready to board a plane back home because of a damn layover that just wont' go.

So, I'm at my "new hangout spot" at chilli's, getting my day started with a nice el presidente.. I don't even bother with the food anymore, just give me the drinks. It's the only way I've lasted this long.

Anyway let me get to the point. Who do I see running towards me like a bat out of hell from the corner of my eye?


my old oneitis... from little rock.

The ***** just won't go away. to steal one from "Rick", Of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world, she walks into mine... literarly

I haven't seen this girl in over a year.. well not quite, about 7 months and even then it was just in passing. I tried to be distant... that didn't work. I'm not mad at her or have nothing against her, but nothing good comes from her when she is in my life.

So she plops down and orders (on my tab, without asking) and we talk. turns out she is on her way to Florida to see her BF for the weekend, who is doing some work down there fort he month and was on a connecting flight. If you fly contentinal, their hub is in Houston, so all or most of their connecting flights go there.

she's grated from college and still living at home, she got engaged, broke it off, wants to move out and won't move in with her BF of a year.

she tells me she misses me.. and I admit...she still is very easy on the eyes. she gave me her "new" phone number, stole mine and programmed it in. she wants to come and see me in socal next week.. she's paying (if she comes, which I don't want her to.

I'm not going to over analyize.. partly because I'm tipsy, also because I seriously don't' want her in my life. hot or not, she's a damn parasite. she's all about the "we are such good friends", then she sees me with someone else and gets jealous and throws these bigger than life hints (like sucking me off) that she wants something, and when I bring it up she runs, but I only bring it up because it's so damn obvious. It keeps me from having any real functional relationship, because if she wasn't such a damn nutcase, she'd be close to an idea LTR.


URRRRRRRGH!!!.. MORE EL PRESIDENTES!!!!!!!

 

[Neckbreacker]

man, that sucks. you should just lay her off...as harshly as possible. dont worry about her feelings, just lay her off.

Who cares, if you dont want her in your life then get rid of her.

and if all else fails...then check your name.

 

[backbreaker]

yeah... but she's just so damn cute. It's the oddest thing ever. sexing her was never..well not never, but now it's not the problem, even with the BF. if i want to have sex, I might have to wait a couple of days until she can get free, but it's there for the taking.

it's just that she is the AFC GF that's not really your GF... and doesn't want you to date anyone else.. but she has a BF. she calls 4-5 times a day, i have to hear about her same damn problems, her drunk dad, he abusive mom, how all these guys want her and they don't "understand her"...but on the plus side, I didn't meet this girl 7 months ago.. I've known her for 11 years.. not many people know me better. And when she is around, if something is going on, she's one of the people I can talk to.

but you are right... just kick me in the ass.. I need it

 

[flnazrael]

So you want to fvck this woman, yet you don't want her in your life...

You can easily get along with her in your life, right? But you want the sex. So why not just be brutally harsh? Tell her you're attracted to her physically, that you don't mind being fvck buddies with her, but everything else (the emotional support, repeated phone calls, etc.) needs to go through her BF.

The worst that will happen is she is out of your life. It's also possible that you will have a hot piece of ass that is no maintenance.

 

[blueguy]

WTF I'm beginning to believe everybody on this site is a troll. backbreaker... neckbreaker lol.

 

[backbreaker]

fvck this woman, yet you don't want her in your life..

EXACTLY!!!!!

Meaning, physically, she's smokin. My testostrone goes up when I see her, espically in skirts . I get horny... in that sense, I want to bend her over and fvck her silly. I'd be lying other wise

But the rational part of me, knows better, the consequences that can come.

get along? yes, that's never really been a problem. I could have called her ata ny time and picked up where we left off. we have our we don't talk periods, up to 2 years.

I have sex, that's not a problem. My problem is when a woman is that hot wants you, and you instivenly want her, but your rationally know what will happen. what's worse is she isn't violent or antyhing. she doesn't do silly **** like pop up over my house at night or spy on me.


she lives in LR , I live in SoCal.. no, what I am scared of is she is going to come out here and 1) mess up my current rotation, 2) take me away from the horse track because she wants to go "out" and 3) try to fvck her way into moving in with me...

trust me.. there's maintenance.

 

[backbreaker]

WTF I'm beginning to believe everybody on this site is a troll. backbreaker... neckbreaker lol.

i caught that, lol

 

[Neckbreacker]

So you want to fvck this woman, yet you don't want her in your life...

You can easily get along with her in your life, right? But you want the sex. So why not just be brutally harsh? Tell her you're attracted to her physically, that you don't mind being fvck buddies with her, but everything else (the emotional support, repeated phone calls, etc.) needs to go through her BF.

The worst that will happen is she is out of your life. It's also possible that you will have a hot piece of ass that is no maintenance.

the only problem with that is that you can have yo cake and eat it too.

eventually she will want something more than sex. or some big drama will come up and she will want your help. then you'll be in trouble.
you either get rid of her altogether, or keep her and be prepared for what comes.

....and for the record, im not a troll. lol i just thought BB had the sweetest name on here and i cant copy it, so i got one as close to it as i could

 

[backbreaker]

naw... she won't want more than sex. I can guarantee that... besides all my damn time... and she still wants her BF.

it's a catch 22 with her. she won't date me (now) because she knows me too well. I don't keep girlfriends, and she doesn't think I'm capable of setteling down. I won't settle down until she proves that she isn't going anywhere.. so we are hopeless in that aspect. Plus her self esteem is so low I could see the problems now.. her wanting my time, getting mad at female friends, etc, to be as hot as she is, she has the self esteem of steve erkel

If I wanted to be an AFC I probably could bag her and keep her, but it's not worth it.. hell no woman is worth that.

thanks

i want to change it but I can't.

 

[flnazrael]

I still don't see what the problem is.

You said she wouldn't want more than sex, right? So fvck her. As often as you get a chance. And when/if she ever demands more, tell her that wasn't the arrangement, then cut her off. But as long as you can get some and let her BF do all the maintenance, WHY THE HELL ARE YOU TURNING THIS OPPORTUNITY DOWN? lol

 

[backbreaker]

look up my name, and look at the situation with my old oneitis, and you will understand why... it's just not worth it

 

[Zerix]

damn BB, you get yourself in crazy sh!t haha

lol@BlueGuy

 

[backbreaker]

man I could have my own TV show, you can't make this crap up.

finally my flight, now back home, leaves in about an hour. so basically I took a vacation to an airport.


that's the last time I fly continental and my dad works there.

i mean I know what's going to happen. somehow she will convince me that it's in my best interest for me to let her stay with me for a week or so in socal, we will end up after like half the week of me restraining and trying to stay as far away as possible having sex, then my rotation will be shattered (and i kina like one of them too, she's just got a little baggage (divorce, 32). She will extend her stay without asking, becuse she has no job and no responsbilities, going out, dragging me with her, making me miss work, taking up my time, and committing to nothing. then something happens, she will end up fvcking a guy she meets somewhere with a little money, which I don't have a problem with, what I have a problem with is how can you suck my time dry but then you get free reign?

our relationship worked best when we both had others, and we saw each ohter when we could... once a week if that... right now she's either bored or looking

 

[DJDamage]

Hey Backbreaker funny that you mentioned about your old oneitis. A week ago I run into mine in a shopping mall and we haven't seen each other in more then a year. But the funny thing about it is that she acts as if we just saw each other like a week ago and everything between us is all sugar and spice and everything is nice. To be honest she is smoking hot and if there weren't any strings attach I would wanna fvck her but then again I know she is more trouble then she is worth and I already been through a sh1tty time with her once before and I know the sh1t that she will bring into my life even "as friends" will be too much for me to bear.

 

[backbreaker]

the funny thing is, I have NO problem being just friends. half hte time she comes over we just chill.. it's tension free, we watch a movie, we both love to shop, she throws stuff out to get my opinion on, we both have huskies so we take them for walks from time to time, etc.

it's when the weels in her head start turning. she's the most crafty mothervcker I ever have seen.

I remember in our "friend" mode, it was a wednesday night, I went out, with my boys, so we were talking on the phone in the pre drink mode (you know, when you get toasted before you leave the house) so I tell her I am going to call her tomorrow... here she goes in her sexy catty voice

"I want you to call me later tonight"

whatever... i'm going to be too toasted to remember anyway, and you will be sleep, but sure, if that is what it takes to get you off the phone.

so I 'm out.. and for whatever the reason, it's not as jumpin as normall, maybe I wasn't druink enough yet. anyway, she calls me and lays it on THICK

"you aren't brining home anyone are you"

why?

" because I don't want you do"

WTF is that supposed to mean

"you know what it means"


she will let you come to whatever conclusion she wants you to come to. Then she just stops.

mind you, I didn't start anything.> i was content on going out, getting plastered maybe getting a number or two and going home. then taking her places is a hassle, becuase well.. she's HOT and I can add 20 mintues to my time for her having ot stop and fend off men talking to her, women not looking at me because she is with me, etc.

 

[STR8UP]

You said "nothing good comes from her when she is in my life".

You obviously know that it's best to keep your distance from people like this, but I know how tempting it can be.

From time to time I search Myspace for old friends. Recently I discovered my ex has a page. We left things on bad terms, but 99% of the two years we spent together was great.

Although I don't want anything at all from her, I am still tempted to send her a message, but if I don't want anything from her, what's the point?

Truth is, the few weeks of pain overshadowed the two years of pleasure. It looks like she's dating the same guy she started seeing after I broke up with her. If I contact her now she will likely not even respond. On the other hand, what if she does? I might be able to derive pleasure from whatever contact or relationship I establish with her, but the pain she caused will always be there. Why would I subject myself to that?

 

[backbreaker]

you know who she reminds me of? A young, hot version of Tony Sopranos mom on the sopranos.

she can't be happy. at least totally. she doesn't please anyone... she sucks the life out of everything she is around, even her AFC to the max boyfriends... however they are so AFC they usually look past it and deal with it. I can be having a great day, and she calls.... she just got pulled over because her DL is suspended. Then when she and I are in contact, and I'm in town I have the whole "she's scared her daddy is going to do something to her issue" so whenever mom is out of town, guess whose house she bunks over? Messing up any chance of ass (with a date) I have that night... and this is when she has a BF.

she will call me crying about something 2 times a month.. never a BF..s he might be the most heartless mother****er on earth when it comes to men... but her mom talking down to her, etc.. gets to her

I'm going out by myself to a club? WRONG. She finds a way to tag along. One night she called me out the blue and told me shes dressed, let's go and while I don't mind going out with her.. again.. I can't get any ass from anyone else. plus I have to pick her up and while she's not out the way to the clubbing area, she's not a direct shot either.. actually she is out of the way if you want me to be honest.

But.. she is 3 months younger than me to the day.. she is not the smartest person on earth, but she's not dumb either and can hold a converstaion. She likes to hve fun, is open minded, loves animals and she will give any guy she dates 2 years.. even if she is fvcking me.. she 's not leaving him.

anyway.. I 'm glad I got that out my system. she's done for, it's just not worth it. for it to be, she has to prove to me something is different, meaning she needs to go out of her way. otherwise I will leave it where it is

 

[00Kevin]

sounds like she should spend a month in jail like paris hilton

ignore the hor. you are thinking to much.

What is this girl giving you for all these wasted brain cycles?

 

[backbreaker]

80% of the time she's actually a pretty reliable friend.s o the 80% sucks you in. She actually gives a damn about what I like, not because she cares, but because I care and she cares enough to care if that makes sense. When I had a small drug problem she is the one that helped me kick it, camping out at my house for a week and throwing away my stash and watching my every move until the urge was gone. so there's a little more there than meets the eye. it's the give for the take however. She's pretty damn good in bed too.

 

[KneghtRyder]

man thats crazy. i second what the other guy said 'you get yourself in crazy sh!t haha"