Dude gets on his knee with a ring, asks my friend to be his GF. Thoughts?

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backseatjuan said:
Haha. He's pretty wealthy. The b'tch likes the gifts.
I mean it seems like she likes him, but I guess its hard to tell if its genuine affection or if she just likes the monetary stuff.

I agree with what Naughty Ninja said, she likes what shes getting out of the relationship. He puts in the effort and provides the expensive stuff and all she has to do is look pretty and occasionally buy him stupid stuff like a picture frame with their picture in it, he went ballistic over that. Im not hating here, Im still learning about how women work so I'm trying to analyze this relationship/situation.

Thanks for the advice and thoughts on my post guys, it helps me as well
 

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RustleYourJimmies said:
Do girls really fall for this? Theyre 20.

Theyve known each other for a month and apparently they just hit it off right from the start. This dude got on his knee with a Tiffany ring and asked her to be his GF. She said yes and is all happy and whatever.

This just screams beta, why do certain girls fall for this? Every girl of the same age (20) I've asked has said it was desperate and a little pathetic, do some girls just fall for this cheesy stuff?

He's also purchased her $100 sunglasses and taken her out to dinner tons of times to these very nice restaurants (nothing wrong with taking a girl out though I guess)

You think shes out of there once the gifts and stuff stops coming in?
Why do you care?
 

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I'd be interested in seeing how this relationship turns out. I'd like to know if this can actually be a 'valid' way of establishing a good relationship. It doesn't seem like it to me. But who knows. One knee with a ring and asking to be his gf? That seems like he's asking her to be his wife, not a gf. Usually it's not so... dramatic. And to give her a ring for it. I'm predicting that she's going to end up losing respect for him, if he's not even allowing her to contribute. Having her input means she's part of this process. Not just tagging along because she's a girl and he likes that.
 

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perseverance said:
Whatever floats his boat, you may mock him, but he's gotten what he wanted; the girl.

It's not what I'd do, but everyone's different. I get the sense that you seem a little butthurt, not sure why that is if you're just friends?
Exactly.
 

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Some people just have to learn the hard way

Lets maybe have some faith that will be married for 50+ years with children and grandchildren

All the best to your friend OP

1 month though is too damn short though
 

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RustleYourJimmies said:
Lol trust me, im not butthurt. I dont care, I'm just curious because I was taught this type of behavior doesnt work
Any behavior can work. Depends on the girl. Depends on the guy.

Sosuave is opinions. Not facts.

If you listen to sosuave like it's 100% truth, then you'd believe that only 6'5", athletic, rich, ****y&funny douchebags were getting laid. And then you look around your town or city, and what do you see? People of every size, personality, and economic class walking around with a girlfriend on their arm.
 

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Iceberg said:
Any behavior can work. Depends on the girl. Depends on the guy.

Sosuave is opinions. Not facts.

If you listen to sosuave like it's 100% truth, then you'd believe that only 6'5", athletic, rich, ****y&funny douchebags were getting laid. And then you look around your town or city, and what do you see? People of every size, personality, and economic class walking around with a girlfriend on their arm.
hard to believe you are being serious here. the last part has nothing to do with the DJ idea or even PUA. even the part about opinions is questionable, most of the concepts etc are the result of experience and common patterns. and the first part is not really convincing either.

NO not ANY behavior can work. that is just not true. this is a 20 year old kid with lots of money behind who has no clue or game and the girl he "gets" is also 20 and would be a fool not to accept all the gifts he is giving her. if that ring hasnt been from Tiffanys but something alot cheaper, she would have kicked him to the curb. that is not something that "works", just pure economics. maybe bying broads with goats also works? at least for some people? what does "work" mean then? this way prostitution also "works". it really is not that different here. he gets a few lays and pays dearly for them. until it is over.

this is no game. or anything anyone should aspire to. or would you sincerely think and also judge from experience that this girl will love him forever just because of all the stuff he buys her? like 50% of PUA came into existence because exactly the opposite has happened with so many guys who had to learn it the hard way that you cant buy love. the other 50% stem from dudes that had no game and no money either. like i said, you cant be serious here.
 

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flashpoint said:
hard to believe you are being serious here. the last part has nothing to do with the DJ idea or even PUA. even the part about opinions is questionable, most of the concepts etc are the result of experience and common patterns. and the first part is not really convincing either.

NO not ANY behavior can work. that is just not true. this is a 20 year old kid with lots of money behind who has no clue or game and the girl he "gets" is also 20 and would be a fool not to accept all the gifts he is giving her. if that ring hasnt been from Tiffanys but something alot cheaper, she would have kicked him to the curb. that is not something that "works", just pure economics. maybe bying broads with goats also works? at least for some people? what does "work" mean then? this way prostitution also "works". it really is not that different here. he gets a few lays and pays dearly for them. until it is over.

this is no game. or anything anyone should aspire to. or would you sincerely think and also judge from experience that this girl will love him forever just because of all the stuff he buys her? like 50% of PUA came into existence because exactly the opposite has happened with so many guys who had to learn it the hard way that you cant buy love. the other 50% stem from dudes that had no game and no money either. like i said, you cant be serious here.
If you spend a bunch of money on every woman on Earth as a show of affection, I'm sure you would still get your fair share. There are things out there called gold diggers. He would be getting taken advantage of, but hey, he got the girl. Which is exactly what happened here.
 

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flashpoint said:
hard to believe you are being serious here. the last part has nothing to do with the DJ idea or even PUA. even the part about opinions is questionable, most of the concepts etc are the result of experience and common patterns. and the first part is not really convincing either.
Common patterns? Hah. Yeah, common patterns amongst guys who had serious and ongoing issues getting with women.

Damn near every one of my male friends has a good girlfriend. And got that girlfriend while doing things that sosuave would designate as "AFC." People forget that the vast majority of the world gets laid without reading PUA.

This is human interaction. Not arithmetic. There is no formula.

NO not ANY behavior can work. that is just not true. this is a 20 year old kid with lots of money behind who has no clue or game and the girl he "gets" is also 20 and would be a fool not to accept all the gifts he is giving her.
We're talking about two 20 year olds. They're both fools. Just by the nature of their age. It's not about the money. Hell, man...guys on this site have money. It isn't the cure-all for getting women.

The thing is, this girl has to like his game. Even on a temporary basis. He might have kicked this "money and a ring" routine with 9 other girls. This particular girl just happened to buy into it.

if that ring hasnt been from Tiffanys but something alot cheaper, she would have kicked him to the curb.
Meh. Typical cynical sosuave logic. If she's into a guy with money, its because she's a gold digger. If she's into a guy without money, then she's cheating. No one ever thinks "Oh hey...wait a minute. She might actually be attracted to this dude." Why? Because he doesn't follow the rule book written by a bunch of guys who admittedly have issues with women.

this is no game. or anything anyone should aspire to. or would you sincerely think and also judge from experience that this girl will love him forever just because of all the stuff he buys her? like 50% of PUA came into existence because exactly the opposite has happened with so many guys who had to learn it the hard way that you cant buy love. the other 50% stem from dudes that had no game and no money either. like i said, you cant be serious here.
Man, all I'm saying is this - there's the possibility that the girl LIKES him. It ain't all about ****y&funny or being alpha or having 3% body fat.

Sosuave has helped me alot. And I've been here for a LONG time. The stuff I learned here helps me get multiple girls. However, with the girlfriends who stick around, it comes down to chemistry. Both of us liking each other. Not tactics.

So it annoys me when people think that attraction follows our rules. It's human emotion. There are no rules.
 

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Burroughs said:
How will he feel when she gets gangbanged at a party during homecoming week? :crackup:

Will she be thinking about his tiffany ring when she is taking three cawks in every hole?


this is so on the money it's not even funny!
 
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this is so on the money it's not even funny!
Yes because every woman in the world is raging sl*t who loves to be gangban*ed. Seriously come on, quit watching porn and enter the real world.
 

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There is nothing surprising in this situation, what is your cognitive malfunction?

Of course she likes this guy~ He's got money, which == high status, of course she's going to be attracted to a high status guy who's showing interest in her.

But don't be fooled, the initial burst of chemicals in her brain will wear off after about 3 months, and after that his supplicating weakness will start to grate. Instead of being grateful that this guy pays for everything and buys her lots of gifts, she will start to take it for granted, and find herself sneakily desiring for a dangerous bad boy to penetrate her with his disrespectful alpha cawk.

Whether or not she acts on that desire will determine whether or not she's a $lut or genuine gf material, but that's not the point. The point is, why, as a guy, put yourself in that situation? Be alpha, be the man, never supplicate, keep the relationship alive with danger and unpredictability, make her work for your attention and your affection, ignore her sometimes, go ghost sometimes, work Dread game on her often. Why risk letting the relationship go stale and having her start craving on alpha cawk by being too beta?
 

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I love monopoly. we play it at least once a week in my house, at least, and I have it on ps3 and play by myself alot when no one wants to get beat lol.

everyone here should be familiar with the game and the rules of the game. Once you get past the general rules of the game and you start playing really good people who play a lot, one of the smartest strategies to the game, is when you start out, unless you land on a property that you really really want, you let it go up for auction and you let the other players bid out the property which drives the price well over the normal value.. Say someone already owns st charles place and you land on states ave, the normal price it hink off the top of my head for that is 160, but someone who already owns 1 purple will bid much more than that as they are one step closer to getting the entire set, so it will drive the price up sometimes even as high as 2x the normal amount for the property. they don't have the patience or the foresight to sit and let the game play out, to wait for a better time to do some trading when it's more financially feasible to do so

if done properly, even if they were to get all of a set, they dno't have any money to pay for when they land on railroads and can't even think about buying houses and arent' anywhere near being able to buy hotels.


this is the exact principle that is going on in the OP. the guy spends so much money tog et his foot int he door that he has no more money left at the end of the game.

people asking 'does it work or not' are in the wrong playing field that's not hte right question you have to ask of course it will work. i don't know a woman who doesn't like being swept off her feet in one way or another. no, the REAL question you have to be asking is, if i have to buy a ring and propose to get a girl to date me now, what am i going to have to do 2 years from now to keep her interested? buy her a sports car? buy her a house? vaction every other month?

you have to have foresight? let the guy have his day, because that's all he's going to get. he can't keep up with the inflation of the ***** market value that he has himself created.
 

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I would not even consider asking a female to be my girl much less wife until after the honeymoon part is over. Because what you are in love with now may not really be sustainable for both or at least one of you...

Guy meets girl.

They go out and have great times.

Explosive sex.

Things calm down a bit, real life priorities start to kick in.

<== Here is where I like to see where the relationship goes. It's easy to be happy with someone going broke to cater to your every need and desire. You have to wait till the novelty wears off to see what's really going on.

Get to know the person a bit more intimately.

Pass a couple shat tests, etc, etc..

See what happens when things aren't so honky dory.

Maybe take the next step now, make her your girl...
 
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One thing I forgot to mention is that this is the type of girl who preaches waiting until marriage for sex and has only gone as far as kissing.

Laugh at me all you want but I actually believe her, I grew up with her and pretty much everybody knows this about her. Just throwing this in, a little late, but not sure if it will change your perception of anything.
 
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