Dude chooses hockey play-offs over meeting single women

hockeyfreak79

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Truth. You live your life and invite women into your world. You love hockey.... then go watch hockey... As long as your whole world isn't hockey this is the way to go.
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Maybe he goes to a local bar to watch hockey and meets girl of dreams there. At least he has a hobby and interests. Might not be yours or mine, but that's what makes him, him. I know if the Mets or NY football Giants are in the playoffs I'm ditching meetup to watch.
 

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You have to admire the guy for doing what he wants to instead of chasing women. Unfortunately, it sounds like his passion is sitting in front of the TV set, which is not so impressive.
 

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Wow, but we all can't go to a singles' meetup session, announce we're gonna watch the Hockey/ NBA playoffs, and all these women are gonna be blowing us during Game 6 of the Stanley Cup.

Sure he put himself first, but it all depends on how the chicks viewed him. Maybe they're glad he's going to watch hockey so they could focus on dating that new personal trainer at Planet Fitness.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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I would like to return to the group quality point here.

In my experience (and the groups currently available in my area) the amount of decent women attendind those event is minimal and if a single hot woman capable of getting attention will attend, all the other cute but less goodlooking most likely will drop.

If you are into fat woman or older women you may find what you need but if you're into young hot woman do not expect anything to provide you easily a scarse resouce let alone groups organized from women.

Btw do you remember speed datings which unlike these meetups are date focuses? I read an article recently that speed dating 45+ do not exists cause they cant find enough men to attend...I wonder why.
 

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I would like to return to the group quality point here.

In my experience (and the groups currently available in my area) the amount of decent women attendind those event is minimal and if a single hot woman capable of getting attention will attend, all the other cute but less goodlooking most likely will drop.

If you are into fat woman or older women you may find what you need but if you're into young hot woman do not expect anything to provide you easily a scarse resouce let alone groups organized from women.

Btw do you remember speed datings which unlike these meetups are date focuses? I read an article recently that speed dating 45+ do not exists cause they cant find enough men to attend...I wonder why.
It's interesting you mention this and yes, sometimes speed dating events it's mostly women, but I thought it'd sometimes be at all ages that it would always be women mostly. But it would make even more sense in the 45+ crowd.

As far as attractive women in Meetups we do have our share. Some are "cute", but average. The average joes go after them, which is fine. But you'll never see REALLY attractive people, in general in these organized events.

Reason I say this is because on Facebook, I have this male friend that has a ton of very attractive women on his friends list. Most of which you see photos of them lined up like showgirls in Vegas with the rest of their hot friends, holding some wine glass or martini "raise your glass style". Typically wearing little black dresses or evening wear that will turn heads of the handsome hunks around them.

He would organize a gathering at a swimming area where they do BBQs, volleyball, jetskiiing boating, you know the typical. Sometimes our circles (the average looking people, both male and female) would skirt the "beautiful people" crowd. I would know people that sometimes a hot chick would show up with a hot friend to an event of average looking people if they were invited by the friend I mentioned on FB.

Most typically don't show up and I asked him why. He said 4th of July parties/Memorial Day picnics aren't their thing. They prefer more of the upscale night life venues. He didn't remark regarding how "Hot people only hang out with hot people", but it IS implied.

I recall being a part of a short-lived singles professional group in my area that didn't last all that long. There's a woman that's a school teacher there, apparently she had a friend on her FB that I had spotted on POF.

When I went to one of the events....I asked about her friend (didn't mention the dating site) and she told me that she's a co-worker at school. I had asked her, "Have you not invited her to join you for our singles group?"

Response: She tends to date airline pilots since she used to work for the airlines and prefers to "have fun".

So obviously not a good fit for that organized singles group?

I think someone implied Meetup groups are kind of meant for losers who can't meet people normally...you know, organically when out and about in normal networking situations. They tend to look down on people that attend events that are "organized" via a pre-determined time and date.

We'll get the occasional attractive woman that brings her one friend, but then..you never see them again. It's like they took a scan of the goods and gave up easily. I mean...should they have stuck around long enough then maybe their hot prince charming to show up?

Sadly, they just don't have the patience to stick around long enough to see if it'll occur.
 

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Speaking of speed dating Meetups, I like to join as a member, but since I know these Meetups tend to not last long and wind up abandoned, I enjoy messaging the ladies that join up. I mention to them that unfortunately the site's been abandoned, but it's great meeting the newcomers. That's my icebreaker.

It's kind of like another version of a free online dating site. lol
 

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You obviously never tried watching sports with women before. They talk all the way through, and ruin the whole thing.

I tried your idea once. It was ages back in a big semi-final match for the Champions League when Chelsea were against Liverpool. I had just got a new girlfriend and tried to mix my interests by taking her to a pub, so that I could kill two birds with one stone.

It was complete sh*t, and I missed a legendary game of football. She ruined the FA cup for me that year too. Never again.

Big games, big fights, I watch alone - or with male mates. No women.
My experience as well. About the only sport you can invite a woman to where she won't ruin it is baseball. Her constant blabbing about everything other that the actual game does not disrupt baseball since the game moves so slow. In a two hour game there might be 20 minutes of action. So it's easy to listen to her as she yaks about how much the 1st Baseman looks like her cousin. North American football has lots of stops, but the periods between action isn't really long enough for chick convo. There are lots of American chicks that dig American football, mostly because that game is such an important part of our culture, and in school, football is an intrinsic part of our social scene (ie. tailgating, Homecoming, after game parties... dances... et. al.) To most American chicks, going to a North American football game is only going so she can be seen... she will spend hours making sure all her clothes is perfect. We even have sports jerseys in the US that are fitted for chicks so they look good.

But Soccer or basketball.... forget about it. Unless she is a REAL fan, you are wasting a seat.
 

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I suppose that is biggest difference. A couple years ago, I just really didn't see the value in watching games any more. The game starts, the game ends, and at the end of the day... it means absolutely nothing, other than wasted time. I mean, think about baseball... 162 games, 3 hours per game (not including playoffs)... that is 486 hours or approximately 20 days of time!!! That is about 1.3 hours/day... enough to learn to play an instrument, learn a new language, even read books about growth, build a business plan, exercise, or take up some new hobby.... For basketball at 82 games, that is approximately 10 days of time. If you watch football frequently, it often ends up Monday, Thursday, and all day Sunday... tons of more wasted time...

I say wasted because what you do really get out of it? If they lose, you are upset or indifferent. If they win, you get a temporary high till the next game, which you have to wait for... But in the end, it is a game that does absolutely nothing for you. It is like videogames. I try to pick them up, but I just can't manage to spend more than 20 minutes without getting bored.
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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I suppose that is biggest difference. A couple years ago, I just really didn't see the value in watching games any more. The game starts, the game ends, and at the end of the day... it means absolutely nothing, other than wasted time. I mean, think about baseball... 162 games, 3 hours per game (not including playoffs)... that is 486 hours or approximately 20 days of time!!! That is about 1.3 hours/day... enough to learn to play an instrument, learn a new language, even read books about growth, build a business plan, exercise, or take up some new hobby.... For basketball at 82 games, that is approximately 10 days of time. If you watch football frequently, it often ends up Monday, Thursday, and all day Sunday... tons of more wasted time...

I say wasted because what you do really get out of it? If they lose, you are upset or indifferent. If they win, you get a temporary high till the next game, which you have to wait for... But in the end, it is a game that does absolutely nothing for you. It is like videogames. I try to pick them up, but I just can't manage to spend more than 20 minutes without getting bored.
Yeah,I never understood why people got depressed over a game. I mean, I see a sad ending to a movie...I think it's a great performance, but I don't let it impact me.
 

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Irony.

This guy is a better man than you in the realm of dating brother. He places his own enjoyment above women. If you are choosing women over every hobby, interest or passion in your life then you need to seriously reevaluate your focus.
This all day. Some of.my friends used to think I was crazy for not wanting to go out on the weekends/party when I was busy studying or training. Do what you love first and foremost. Women will always be there. If anything they should add a bit of spice to your life, not be the ONLY spice in your life.
 

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Women will always be there. .
Five of the most important words you'll ever read gents. And the reason why men should focus predominantly on investing in their own futures not chasing females, most of whom have nothing to offer but a pretty face. This is not an advocation to inaction but a call to prioritise your goals away from women to what is truly important to you as an individual - not just in the present day but in the future.

Women. Will. Always. Be. There.
 

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This all day. Some of.my friends used to think I was crazy for not wanting to go out on the weekends/party when I was busy studying or training. Do what you love first and foremost. Women will always be there. If anything they should add a bit of spice to your life, not be the ONLY spice in your life.
True, but the fact that he announced it to the ladies of the group...it didn't make them swoon, let me put it that way. That's like when someone on Facebook announces that they are deleting their FB account because they are tired of the drama. lol
 

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There's this singles Meetup in the area, it was a movie night for the group. Wound up being mostly women.

Some people will put in the comments section and say a reason why they can't make it, and one dude, single of course, says, "I can't make it, the hockey play offs are on! Can't miss 'em!"

With all this talk about "creating opportunities" is the an example of what NOT to do? lol And then brag about it on a social media platform?

Kind of glad I caught this as this could be an example of why some men are having problems with women. They are partaking in this kind of behavior.

"I'm manly, I prefer to watch sports on the couch...alone... and brag about it to all the single ladies who are actually getting out of the house. It'll make me come off as manly!"

Just something douche-baggy about it.

I dunno why he had to actually say ANYTHING if he wasn't going and just RSVP "No"
Hockey playoffs are far more exciting than most women. I honestly can't blame him.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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There's this singles Meetup in the area, it was a movie night for the group. Wound up being mostly women.

Some people will put in the comments section and say a reason why they can't make it, and one dude, single of course, says, "I can't make it, the hockey play offs are on! Can't miss 'em!"

With all this talk about "creating opportunities" is the an example of what NOT to do? lol And then brag about it on a social media platform?

Kind of glad I caught this as this could be an example of why some men are having problems with women. They are partaking in this kind of behavior.

"I'm manly, I prefer to watch sports on the couch...alone... and brag about it to all the single ladies who are actually getting out of the house. It'll make me come off as manly!"

Just something douche-baggy about it.

I dunno why he had to actually say ANYTHING if he wasn't going and just RSVP "No"
His behavior is not what's important to you right now...

The reason why his behavior triggered you is the key to unraveling a kink in your inner game.

Maybe you secretly covet his carefree attitude. The alpha buddha essence as some might call it...
 
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