Drake: Is 37 too old to be womanizing and sleeping around?

[Jesse Pinkman]

Some of you may have heard or kept up with the beef between Drake and Kendrick. However, as I was watching commentators in the black community give their take, people are really jumping on Drake for being 37 and not being committed to an LTR.

It had me thinking as I enter my thirties now, is there an age at which being a womanizer or guy that just racks up the notch count becomes a serious issue in society compared to being settled down with a wife and kids?

Like I know Drake deserves his backlash for some of the things he does but one thing he kept on getting hate for is how he is 37 and not properly settled down with a woman.

@Solomon
@SW15

 

[SW15]

Drake deserves his backlash for some of the things he does but one thing he kept on getting hate for is how he is 37 and not properly settled down with a woman.

Drake hasn't settled down with a woman, but he had a child born in 2017 when he was 30 with some random woman.

It is better to have children in a more settled arrangement than what he has done.

Plenty of beta males go into marriages or even non-marital LTRs and expect to raise a child with some woman. Doesn't usually work out. For the men that bother to get married, it usually doesn't last until the first child turns 18.

is there an age at which being a womanizer or guy that just racks up the notch count becomes a serious issue in society compared to being settled down with a wife and kids?

On an individual level, it's not an issue to be a late 30s/early 40s man who is a never married, childless, and interested in attracting, seducing, and sometimes retaining women. That's been me in recent times. I've gotten to my early 40s and based a lifestyle around attracting women.

In 2021, the Pew Research Center conducted research about the never married 40 year old. A record number of 40 year olds in the early to mid 2020s have never been married. In examining the research linked below, the never married 40 year old isn't who you think it might be. A more typical never married 40 year old male is a Black or Hispanic male who has had at least one child out of wedlock. It isn't some bougie White male like me.

A record-high share of 40-year-olds in the U.S. have never been married

As of 2021, 25% of 40-year-olds in the United States had never been married, a significant increase from 20% in 2010.

www.pewresearch.org

On a collective level, there are problems with unstable relationships and unhealthy marriages not lasting until the children reach adulthood.

A lot of the problems have been caused by women and feminism encouraging the worst of their hypergamy. Women have rejected the beta males who would make good husbands or cast aside boring beta male husbands while their children are in their formative years to chase more exciting alpha and sigma males.

Numerous psychological problems arise from women riding the penis carousel and children are affecting by their parents getting divorced.

 

[DarwinTaurus]

I'm 47, never married, no kids. I've only gotten back into dating during the past three years, after being single for a LONG time.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Jesse,
I never got into my dating stride till 37,judging by Taurus' experience,must be something they put in the Beer down here LOL.

 

[DarwinTaurus]

Hi Jesse,
I never got into my dating stride till 37,judging by Taurus' experience,must be something they put in the Beer down here LOL.

I work shift work, good money, but can get in the way of meeting people / dating.

 

[Learning Curve]

Some of you may have heard or kept up with the beef between Drake and Kendrick. However, as I was watching commentators in the black community give their take, people are really jumping on Drake for being 37 and not being committed to an LTR.

It had me thinking as I enter my thirties now, is there an age at which being a womanizer or guy that just racks up the notch count becomes a serious issue in society compared to being settled down with a wife and kids?

Like I know Drake deserves his backlash for some of the things he does but one thing he kept on getting hate for is how he is 37 and not properly settled down with a woman.

@Solomon
@SW15

When you have the success that Drake has, you don't really care about women.

Think about it. If he had a LTR do you think it would be sustainable?

Probably not.

Unless he finds a woman that's in his space, industry, probably a celebrity that's also busy as f1uck and she is not sitting around home and waiting for Drake to come back from his tour. I get why he is not in a long LTR, it does not make any sense. He does not need too.

At some point though, maybe in 10 years he might get tired of f1ucking around and realizes that hey, i might need a woman to have a good time. But if i would be in his shoes, i would probably do the same thing.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I think it's an issue when these men are actively pursuing 18-year-olds and questionably younger women too.

 

[Gamisch]

Why compare yourself with drake ?( easily most sought-after men passed decade).

Working at a dude's crib who is 47, white, and looks like he is mid 30s. Has a HOT baby momma who is 20 years younger..he was 43 when he impregnated her.

The game as it is nowadays ? You better off being player for life. The best time to get a steady gf is when you are mid 20. Because wonen around end 20 begin 30 and up are NUTS. Riding the c0ck carousel and getting alpha widowed tine and time again breaks something, or even a lot, inside of them.

Any man who thinks he can "just settle" because he is mid 30 is a fool. Even money won't cut it anymore. Even pro ballers been saying this now.

Just keep working on yourself, LIFT, MAKE MONEY, and work on a rotation. Maybe,maybe maybe along the road you find a great woman who doesn't wanna let you go.

 

[Solomon]

Some of you may have heard or kept up with the beef between Drake and Kendrick. However, as I was watching commentators in the black community give their take, people are really jumping on Drake for being 37 and not being committed to an LTR.

It had me thinking as I enter my thirties now, is there an age at which being a womanizer or guy that just racks up the notch count becomes a serious issue in society compared to being settled down with a wife and kids?

Like I know Drake deserves his backlash for some of the things he does but one thing he kept on getting hate for is how he is 37 and not properly settled down with a woman.

@Solomon
@SW15

Drake's issue isn't womanizing per se but who he is womanizing with
If Drake didn't have suspicious text messages with a then 14-year-old Millie Bobbi Brown
Or sliding in 16 year old DM"s and going to high school basketball games

Or painting his nails like a weirdo

No one would care, but Drake is very sus with underage girls

 

[Divorced w 3]

I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural issue. Successful men in the black community are in extremely high regard. The culture is always looking for their best and brightest to be role models. Entire retreats of hundreds of black professionals are constantly taking place in black corporate America looking to encourage, foster and drill home the idea of black success and mentorship. It’s a very black American thing, and you have to realize we’re only 60 years removed from segregation. That’s my two cents as a white guy in a major corporation that grew up with and remain relatively close with a ton of black guys, but I could be totally off the mark.

 

[Pandora]

If you are still womanizing at 37 then you lack compassion. You also have deep validation issues and a possible sex addiction. At some point you just get tired of the crying, drama and generally messing up these woman's lives. If you are doing sex the right way it is a deep connection. Imagine seducing dozens of women a year. Normal idiot girls with expectations of you wifing them up etc. Thats sociopathic.

He should just stick to being a good father and smash the occasional Hollywood escort on the side. Thats what normal celebrities do.

 

[Pandora]

Why compare yourself with drake ?( easily most sought-after men passed decade).

Working at a dude's crib who is 47, white, and looks like he is mid 30s. Has a HOT baby momma who is 20 years younger..he was 43 when he impregnated her.

The game as it is nowadays ? You better off being player for life. The best time to get a steady gf is when you are mid 20. Because wonen around end 20 begin 30 and up are NUTS. Riding the c0ck carousel and getting alpha widowed tine and time again breaks something, or even a lot, inside of them.

Any man who thinks he can "just settle" because he is mid 30 is a fool. Even money won't cut it anymore. Even pro ballers been saying this now.

Just keep working on yourself, LIFT, MAKE MONEY, and work on a rotation. Maybe,maybe maybe along the road you find a great woman who doesn't wanna let you go.

Yes this is true 100%. I agree man. I agree that after you have your kid then you can do that.

Like you said after mid 20s she has already been alpha widowed and its ovahhhhh. You prob aint gonna be her high score.

 

[Pandora]

I’m pretty sure it’s a cultural issue. Successful men in the black community are in extremely high regard. The culture is always looking for their best and brightest to be role models. Entire retreats of hundreds of black professionals are constantly taking place in black corporate America looking to encourage, foster and drill home the idea of black success and mentorship. It’s a very black American thing, and you have to realize we’re only 60 years removed from segregation. That’s my two cents as a white guy in a major corporation that grew up with and remain relatively close with a ton of black guys, but I could be totally off the mark.

You would be surprised how difficult it is for a good black guy to get a black woman. Black women have a certain type and it is often the bad boy type. This varies wildly by region though.

These women often call the successful black men " lame" but once they reach the wall they are ready to look for a successful black man. By that time black men are dating other cultures or overseas.

 

[itouchyou]

I think everyone has their own timeline. There are no rules.

Especially when you consider the massive difference in how people look in their mid 30s.

To be blunt though, yea 37 is late for that type of behavior.. I'd want to be married at minimum by then. I recently turned 36 and feel like it's getting late, but the silver lining is my youthful looks/physique which keeps me in the game.

 

[BPH]

It's interesting reading some of these responses...

Drake is a good-looking multi-millionaire who earned his success while young and managed to maintain it. Of course he's going to continue enjoying the single life...

Do you think he cares whether some nobodies think he should be settling down? Do YOU think you would be settling down if you were in his shoes?

Brad Pitt, Leonardo DiCaprio, Garrett Hedlund, Matthew McConnaughey - ALL older than Drake and ALL single.

This is just a classic case of those with the means doing what they WANT, while others do what they CAN.

 

[Gamisch]

I think everyone has their own timeline. There are no rules.

Especially when you consider the massive difference in how people look in their mid 30s.

To be blunt though, yea 37 is late for that type of behavior.. I'd want to be married at minimum by then. I recently turned 36 and feel like it's getting late, but the silver lining is my youthful looks/physique which keeps me in the game.

So you give yourself ONE year to get married? Being 36??

I never understand this need men have to get married..one homeboy now passport bro-ed his way into an arranged marriage, but I can't take it seriously. Everytime he mentions his " wife " I just talk passed it. (She isn't here yet to be clear). These are the types who end up with an abusive wife but can't talk about it because of "honor" and thus keep getting abused in order to keep portraying a sunny picture to the outside world.

Why do men think that a ring/ child/ house will magically change the game? As in, you ( not you ,but the general you) are not popular and sought-after by the opposite sex. Having a woman to participate in such a deal won't change that unless you address the big ,real issues you have in life.

To be honest, 37 is also kinda late to get married. I, for example, am around your age and I've lived with three wonen, have a kid ,high body count ect. Don't forget that most women around this age want younger men in order to keep feeling young. Gone are the days that a 37 y.o woman wants a 42 y.o man. She rather dates a 22 y.o stud

(To be clear, this is NOT a personal attack)

 

[Gamisch]

You would be surprised how difficult it is for a good black guy to get a black woman. Black women have a certain type and it is often the bad boy type. This varies wildly by region though.

These women often call the successful black men " lame" but once they reach the wall they are ready to look for a successful black man. By that time black men are dating other cultures or overseas.

True. Black dating is the WORST. ( arguably Latin dating is similar..I'm a afro Latino for example, but my culture has a lotta similarities with afro Americans too)

Black women want the "tupac with a degree" after being like 32,35. Before that ? They won't appreciate a hardworking career-oriented man by any means. Being that man while soley going after Black women = catching your wife sleeping with another man one day. A man that has NOTHING going for himself (In the eyes of a ambitious, driven man)

If you are still womanizing at 37 then you lack compassion. You also have deep validation issues and a possible sex addiction. At some point you just get tired of the crying, drama and generally messing up these woman's lives. If you are doing sex the right way it is a deep connection. Imagine seducing dozens of women a year. Normal idiot girls with expectations of you wifing them up etc. Thats sociopathic.

He should just stick to being a good father and smash the occasional Hollywood escort on the side. Thats what normal celebrities do.

With this one I gotta disagree.

At 37 you SHOULD be lacking compassion because you've ran through so many shoots , heard so many stories and perhaps have several (female) family members that RPed the FECK out of you.

Imo there are only two flavors; you are either the azzhole that sells them a dream, or you are the beta that wants t buy a dream from her. That's it.

Believe me, even Drake won't be able to find a woman that checks all of HIS boxes. Even Drake girl will have red flags, male friends, toxic girlfriends, orbiters ect.

Men shouldn't put a age limit to their dating life because all it does is setting you up to become a SIMP for the WRONG woman.

 

[pipeman84]

To be honest, 37 is also kinda late to get married.

I strongly disagree, and Aristotle would too. In fact he said:

Therefore it is fitting for the women to be married at about the age of eighteen and the men at thirty-seven or a little before

Don't forget that most women around this age want younger men in order to keep feeling young.

What guy in his right mind interested in getting married would look at women around 37yrs old?

 

[Gamisch]

I strongly disagree, and Aristotle would too. In fact he said:


What guy in his right mind interested in getting married would look at women around 37yrs old?

The modern game does( to adressen the last question). Nowadays a man at end 30 should be happy if he can get a decent, good-looking approx 37 y.o woman. By eliminating that age group he'll make shyte even more difficult.

Well,for every aristotle there's another man who thinks the opposite. I do admit that37 is necessarily too old ofcourse. But you better be having plenty of experience with women ,and as far as i can tell no one man with tons of experiences with women " can't get wait" to get married with a woman that he doesn't even have. If you have a lasting LTR and feel like getting married...okay. But to be single ,having no woman and little experience with women, but STILL dreaming of a marriage?? That's odd...

 

[itouchyou]

So you give yourself ONE year to get married? Being 36??

I never understand this need men have to get married..one homeboy now passport bro-ed his way into an arranged marriage, but I can't take it seriously. Everytime he mentions his " wife " I just talk passed it. (She isn't here yet to be clear). These are the types who end up with an abusive wife but can't talk about it because of "honor" and thus keep getting abused in order to keep portraying a sunny picture to the outside world.

Why do men think that a ring/ child/ house will magically change the game? As in, you ( not you ,but the general you) are not popular and sought-after by the opposite sex. Having a woman to participate in such a deal won't change that unless you address the big ,real issues you have in life.

To be honest, 37 is also kinda late to get married. I, for example, am around your age and I've lived with three wonen, have a kid ,high body count ect. Don't forget that most women around this age want younger men in order to keep feeling young. Gone are the days that a 37 y.o woman wants a 42 y.o man. She rather dates a 22 y.o stud

(To be clear, this is NOT a personal attack)

I made my post in haste, I don't mean to say I'll be married by 37. It would be ideal, but I'm not counting on it.

Thing with me is that I aged extremely well. I'm one of those guys that took really good care of himself. Single digit bodyfat, decent physique, pretty solid head of hair, I'm mistaken for late 20s every single time, and in some cases even mid 20s. Combine that with my income and stress free life, I don't think I'll have too much trouble settling down.

It's the reason I haven't committed yet, because I truly don't see the decline in myself. The only thing that bothers me even a little bit is my actual age in terms of the number. If I looked the same now but was 30, I wouldn't think about settling for another 5+ years probably.

Age for a man who constantly leveled up in life is a plus, not a minus. It's only a problem when either the income is low, looks are low, etc, but when everything is good, there's nothing wrong with it. I think I'll end up with someone in their late 20s realistically, or worst case, early 30s.