stubbornlights
Don Juan
I'll preface this by saying I'm a rAFC.
Here's how I got the date: I met HB7.5 at college, she approached me when I was sitting outside. I busted her balls about her clothing style, she laughed and then we talked about stuff we had in common. I was the first to leave.
The next time she bumped into me, we talked for a bit, I bugged her some more and she asked for my number. I told her I don't give out my number to strangers, so right away she gave me hers. She told me to call her to go for coffee. I waited for four days.
At coffee, I tried my best to use DJ techniques. I neg'd her RELENTLESSLY, it worked really well. Her defenses were totally knocked down. When we went into the place, she was really nicely dressed and I tried to keep cool, and I wound up feeling pretty natural. Most of the things I said subtly forced her to prove her value. But I didn't have any kino! I feel dumb, but I couldn't bring myself to. We were sitting at a fairly large table, and I had the idea that it would be far too obvious and dumb if I did. Anyways, we talked for two hours. After I neg'd her so much, she started to neg me back a bit, but I called her on it. Not exactly my type. She talked a lot about her past relationships and her plans to move to LA to be a designer and how she wants just the right guy to go with her. This sketched me out! Too much for a first date!
I called the end of the thing. On the way out, she tells me she has a bit of a crush on me, and lowers her head a bit and blushes. As we say goodbye, she makes sure to ask me to call her.
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thoughts
Obviously, this girl was a lot more into me than I was her, and there won't be a second date. I have a feeling that the DJ techniques would be applied to greater benefit, help me learn/improve more, if I was out with a HB that wasn't already really interested with me. But at least half of the dates I go on are with HB's in this category. To make use of the time, what can be done for practice when you're with a girl that already is into you to help you learn? I should probably go for more challenging HB's, but for these sycophants, is there anything to try? I look at them as practice; just go out a couple of times and then cut it off, I'm not interested.
cheers.
Here's how I got the date: I met HB7.5 at college, she approached me when I was sitting outside. I busted her balls about her clothing style, she laughed and then we talked about stuff we had in common. I was the first to leave.
The next time she bumped into me, we talked for a bit, I bugged her some more and she asked for my number. I told her I don't give out my number to strangers, so right away she gave me hers. She told me to call her to go for coffee. I waited for four days.
At coffee, I tried my best to use DJ techniques. I neg'd her RELENTLESSLY, it worked really well. Her defenses were totally knocked down. When we went into the place, she was really nicely dressed and I tried to keep cool, and I wound up feeling pretty natural. Most of the things I said subtly forced her to prove her value. But I didn't have any kino! I feel dumb, but I couldn't bring myself to. We were sitting at a fairly large table, and I had the idea that it would be far too obvious and dumb if I did. Anyways, we talked for two hours. After I neg'd her so much, she started to neg me back a bit, but I called her on it. Not exactly my type. She talked a lot about her past relationships and her plans to move to LA to be a designer and how she wants just the right guy to go with her. This sketched me out! Too much for a first date!
I called the end of the thing. On the way out, she tells me she has a bit of a crush on me, and lowers her head a bit and blushes. As we say goodbye, she makes sure to ask me to call her.
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thoughts
Obviously, this girl was a lot more into me than I was her, and there won't be a second date. I have a feeling that the DJ techniques would be applied to greater benefit, help me learn/improve more, if I was out with a HB that wasn't already really interested with me. But at least half of the dates I go on are with HB's in this category. To make use of the time, what can be done for practice when you're with a girl that already is into you to help you learn? I should probably go for more challenging HB's, but for these sycophants, is there anything to try? I look at them as practice; just go out a couple of times and then cut it off, I'm not interested.
cheers.