doyou guys believe in attraction=not a choice?

[kickureface]

how haveyour experiences panned out? it works pretty well for me, as long as they are people i haven't met yet.

 

[Ace of Flames]

Yep. My best friend's gf is attracted to me like gangbusters, but she won't do anything because of him, and I don't want her to do anything anyway. If they break up, I won't go out with her. But she still likes me a lot, and its making this inner turmoil thing for her. lol, messing with chicks heads is crazy.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I think for girls most of the time it is.Not so much for guys.There's some banging ass hoes I wouldn't ever touch because of what they've said or done to other guys and they generally piss me off.

I think men can probably controll it.

 

[Shiftkey]

Attraction is not a choice, but acting on it is.

I may be physically attracted to the ***** with herpes, but that doesn't mean I'm going to do anything with her.

 

[God_of_getting_layed]

attraction is not a choice, but neither is a fear of herpes or any other emotion you are feeling. what decisions you make is a consequence of which of your no choice emotions is strongest. if your fear of herpes is stronger than your desire to **** her, then youll choose not to bang her. IF it is the reverse where your desire to **** her is stronger than your fear of herpes, then youll choose to bang her all while knowing youll get herpes. theres really no choice involved, just a mechanical process going on; our brains doing what they do.

 

[Delta]

attraction is indeed not a choice.

just look at your own response as you walk around at the beach. you don't have to think about whether you are attracted to hot women. it's pre-conscious and instantaneous.

no reason to believe it is any different with women - but with different criteria.

delta

 

[God_of_getting_layed]

Id also like to point out, if it was choice, what would be driving this independant choice? decisions dont come out of nowhere, it has a cause. The cause is out of the choosers control, thus questioning if his choice is really a real choice, but rather, a "no choice".

 

[Shiftkey]

attraction is not a choice, but neither is a fear of herpes or any other emotion you are feeling. what decisions you make is a consequence of which of your no choice emotions is strongest. if your fear of herpes is stronger than your desire to **** her, then youll choose not to bang her. IF it is the reverse where your desire to **** her is stronger than your fear of herpes, then youll choose to bang her all while knowing youll get herpes. theres really no choice involved, just a mechanical process going on; our brains doing what they do.

Good point.

 

[Triumph]

Yes Attraction isnt a choice, I think to many guys take to much time trying for attraction.( I know I did ) this isnt the real Game. make the woman prove herself to you, chase you. Why should you be attracted to her? just because she has puzzy?

 

[blueguy]

Yes and no. Physical attraction isn't a choice. But a large portion of attraction is a choice. You are attracted to those who are like you. Whatever you choose to be, you attract the same in kind. Even physical attraction can be a choice to an extent in that you attract the same kind of people that have similar hygiene and style as you. Body builders attract body builders. Fat people attract fat people. Preppies attract preppies. So yes, attraction can definitely be a choice.

Most guys who go on this site can get girls. Maybe they think they can't. But they can. They just don't like the kind of girls they can get. Why? Because they are attracting people similar to themselves. Or in other words, they don't like themselves.

 

[KillaCam]

Attraction is not a choice. How you react to it is.

 

[The Juan and only]

Yes and no. Physical attraction isn't a choice. But a large portion of attraction is a choice. You are attracted to those who are like you. Whatever you choose to be, you attract the same in kind. Even physical attraction can be a choice to an extent in that you attract the same kind of people that have similar hygiene and style as you. Body builders attract body builders. Fat people attract fat people. Preppies attract preppies. So yes, attraction can definitely be a choice.

I don't agree.

If you're a preppy, you are predisposed to liking that mentality and behaviour, else you wouldn't be one. You cannot look at someone and make a logical decision to be attracted to them.

We may like people who are like us, but it's a subconscious process.

 

[DonJuanForever]

Lol, guess I'm about to play the devil here.

ATTRACTION IS ALLLL A CHOICE, what are you guys thinking?

At a very young age, we were PROGRAMMED AND TAUGHT, that boys like girls, and girls like boys. A guy could easily BE GAY, and just CHOOSE TO LIKE GUYS.

All of this pre-set, Mother Nature thinking, is probably what's causing you guys a lot of hangups. You think, WELL I'LL JUST BE A MAN, and because you are a man, women automatically want you?

Well wtf is a man? I bet I'll get a million different answers.

Women fvck guys who are sexual around them, that's it, period. They fvck them because they CHOOSE to, because they are thinking in their minds about how good he must be in bed, and how he's turning me on, and " oooh hell, I guess he can eat me out."

It's a CHOICE based on what you can get out of it. If attraction WAS NOT A CHOICE, this site would not be here, because women would just go fvckin crazy fvcking everybody.

- John

 

[Delta]

At a very young age, we were PROGRAMMED AND TAUGHT, that boys like girls, and girls like boys. A guy could easily BE GAY, and just CHOOSE TO LIKE GUYS.

no.

wrong.

nobody has to teach animals how to reproduce.

sexual attraction is the mechanism by which animals are induced to propagate the species.

this is as INGRAINED in us as the instinct for a mother to protect her young or some animals to migrate during seasons.
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just as it is ingrained, the CRITERIA of what we are attracted to is also ingrained.

we are attracted to women with big t!ts and wide hips not because we are trained to like that by the media - it's millions of years of human experience telling us that that is a trait of fertility.

sure, throughout history, different emphases of shape and form have been stressed... but there is a "golden proportion" that doesn't seem to deviate, whether we are attracted to "rubinesque" chicks in classical impressionist paintings or jenna jameson.

(just check out chicks or pinups from the 50s... they are MUCH heftier than chicks in media these days. but i daresay everyone of us would still like very much to plow our way through the 50s!)
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women are attracted to dominance and confidence also because nature has trained them to recognize virility and strong genes, etc etc etc.

attraction is NOT a choice.

it is as ingrained as it can possibly be.

delta

 

[The Juan and only]

no.

wrong.

nobody has to teach animals how to reproduce.

sexual attraction is the mechanism by which animals are induced to propagate the species.

this is as INGRAINED in us as the instinct for a mother to protect her young or some animals to migrate during seasons.
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just as it is ingrained, the CRITERIA of what we are attracted to is also ingrained.

we are attracted to women with big t!ts and wide hips not because we are trained to like that by the media - it's millions of years of human experience telling us that that is a trait of fertility.

sure, throughout history, different emphases of shape and form have been stressed... but there is a "golden proportion" that doesn't seem to deviate, whether we are attracted to "rubinesque" chicks in classical impressionist paintings or jenna jameson.
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women are attracted to dominance and confidence also because nature has trained them to recognize virility and strong genes, etc etc etc.

attraction is NOT a choice.

it is as ingrained as it can possibly be.

delta

 

[DonJuanForever]

No, no, no, lol

You said this buddy,

"Women are attracted to dominance and confidence because nature has trained them to recognize virility and strong genes."

You are just repeating what you heard someone else say. Let me show you why you are wrong buddy.

Have you ever seen some quality chicks with dead beat boyfriends? I mean guys with NO ambition, NO type of courage or sense of self, NO nothing going on in life. They are eating and feeding off of her azz, I am quite sure you have seen it buddy.

What's dominant about that guy? Wheter you believe dominance is being superior over everyone else, OR, dominance is being superior over yourself and your life...what dominance does this guy have? But he gets laid all over the place and WOMEN take care of HIM.

Where's his confidence? He doesn't even believe in himself to have ambitions.

But can I tell you what the guy DOES HAVE? Sexual state. Lol, hahah. Seriously, he's very sexual. He's not afraid to be sexual, grab his dyck, lick his lips, pull a girl closer, than fvck her...and here's the catch... after he fvcks her, he's got her! She's providing for him.

You guys better SNAP OUT, of this Nature's will stuff, and get back with the program, lol.

You guys really think you have to do ALL THIS STUFF TO GET SOME AZZ? Lol, lol.

You have to have a social life, has a nice car, nice life, nice clothes, nice body, nice everything......to get a QUALITY WOMAN? Lol.

Getting women is so fvcking easy guys!

1. You be sexual, high sexual flow. Lick your lips, be subtle, talk in a low voice tone, pull her close to you.
2. Then ya'll fvck.
3. After that, the bytch WILL NOT get off your dyck.

What planet do you guys live on, lol? Just want to know, is it Earth or the www.sosuave.com planet?

- John

 

[The Juan and only]

No, no, no, lol

You said this buddy,

"Women are attracted to dominance and confidence because nature has trained them to recognize virility and strong genes."

You are just repeating what you heard someone else say. Let me show you why you are wrong buddy.

Have you ever seen some quality chicks with dead beat boyfriends? I mean guys with NO ambition, NO type of courage or sense of self, NO nothing going on in life. They are eating and feeding off of her azz, I am quite sure you have seen it buddy.

What's dominant about that guy? Wheter you believe dominance is being superior over everyone else, OR, dominance is being superior over yourself and your life...what dominance does this guy have? But he gets laid all over the place and WOMEN take care of HIM.

Where's his confidence? He doesn't even believe in himself to have ambitions.

But can I tell you what the guy DOES HAVE? Sexual state. Lol, hahah. Seriously, he's very sexual. He's not afraid to be sexual, grab his dyck, lick his lips, pull a girl closer, than fvck her...and after he fvcks her, he's got her! She's providing for him.

You guys better SNAP OUT, of this Nature's will stuff, and just OPEN YOUR EYES.

- John

so you are saying that, if you take a child at a very young age and brainwash them to be attracted to certain things, they will be? yeah probably....but does that really mean attraction is a choice?

Can you look at someone and make yourself attracted to them? there and then?

It's a subconscious process, no doubt about it.

I don't think you understand the context of the question.

 

[Delta]

the only women that are with guys like that are DAMAGED CHICKS.

you go talk to those women and see what the condition of THEIR LIVES and minds are like.

you will find that they have horrible self esteem and seek out abusive relationships because perhaps that is the only thing they've ever known. the BIOLOGICAL PRECEPT to seek out good genes is there. but the complex human mind/psyche can be DAMAGED. complex INTERRELATIONSHIPS exist but the core internal drive to mate and the qualities that it seeks - these are preprogrammed in our meat.

also - the thing that you are arguing here is that nature takes a laissez faire attitude towards reproduction. you are arguing that there is no imperative to make viable animals. there is no evolutionary predisposition toward good genes such that future generations will be best fit for survival.

you are denying the very reason that sex exists at all. sure, we humans create an entire construct (filled with poems, notions of love, songs, tv dramas and movies even) around this impulse to reproduce but that impulse, the reason why its there, and the criteria for seeking out good genes - NONE OF THAT IS CHOICE!

again, all i have to do is point at penguins or flies or dogs or elephants to prove you irrevocably and instantly wrong.

delta

 

[DonJuanForever]

Hey Juan, you said,

"Can you look at someone and make yourself attracted to them? there and then?"

Juan, why do you like fast food? Why do you like fries?
In this country, we've been TAUGHT to like it. One person got sold, then everybody else started buying it, now everybody thinks it was ordained. In other countries, they NEVER HEARD OF FAST FOOD.

With women, why do you like women Juan? Have you ever wondered why? When you were young you watched t.v., you saw the boy and the girl kissing, everybody is doing it as well, now you think it was ordained.

Think about this for a minute, if you NEVER HEARD OF A WOMAN before, do you think you would die? If what you guys are saying is correct, that "Mother Nature" ordained you and women to fvck each other.....then guys who have to sit in prision cells for years, WOULD DIE...because their bodies couldn't take the "pain" from not having sex.

You need food and water. Without those 2 things, you die.
Think about it.

 

[Delta]

i point at two dogs fvcking and you lose your argument.

come on man. this is like 3rd grade sex education on the level of BIRDS AND BEES! birds and bees spend very little time watching tv!

delta

p.s. the imperative to reproduce is EXTREMELY STRONG. but the inability to satisfy that impulse does not result in death. don't you ever watch the animal channel? do you have no idea where the term "alpha male" comes from? and that it implies non alpha males that do not get to reproduce and yet are not dead?