InvisibleMan
Don Juan
Exceptions for women who have no problem exchanging phone numbers? Geez, I wish I could meet some of those women. Whenever I ask a woman for her phone number, you'd think I was asking for their Social Security, credit card, & pin #s all rolled up in one package.insomniac said:If you're interested in making friends (which should be your focus right now, rather than meeting women), then there's a fundamental problem with the places you're looking. You'll see people at these things once or twice, and then that's it. Friendships are built over time, not instantly with one meeting (I make exceptions for women, who seem to have no problem meeting for the first time and be exchanging phone numbers within an hour).
My interests are reading, and cycling. I don't have much time for anything else. And I don't know if you've been to a book club group ever but they're filled with middle-aged Oprah watchers. Cycling clubs I have joined are mostly a bunch of guys but if there is a woman she is there with a spouse or boyfriend. That's why I've been TRYING to do stuff that I DON'T like to do, 'cause it gets me out more.insomniac said:You need to be going places where you're going to be seeing the same people over and over again, and who are there for the purpose of doing something together with other people. Yes, you might see the same people at the gym or library, but their main reason for being there is not to meet people.
Clubs are a great place for this. Not dancing/drinking clubs, but recreational/hobby type clubs. People go to these because they like to do something, and they like to do it with other people. If not, they'd just do it alone, right? It's the perfect environment.
Take me for example. I joined a sporting club a few years ago that met about once a week. It was a large mix of people, but I noticed a group of them who would get together apart from when the club met. I made an effort to talk to these guys and eventually became friends with them. On top of that, there were a lot of single women in this club. I ended up going out with four of them, and met my current girlfriend through another one. I'm not even that sociable or outgoing of a person, but I still made friends there.
My advice is this: Find out what you like to do, find a group who does also, and join it. You might have to initiate more at first, but these people are very open to making new friends.
- Invisible Man
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