Dude you can't blame us for 'making assumptions' about you and judging you, it is how you worded your post. The DJ Bible is for noobs. You are making assumptions about all of us insinuating that we all blindly follow it like it is never wrong and its rules can't be broken. The Bible is just a starting point. It's written as it is because most guys who come here are full blown AFCs! They are too nice for their own good and shower women with complements and gifts, not because they really want to but because they want her. Of course I am generalising. These guys need a good slap and some masculinity in them. That's why there might be some material that you find comes across as too strong. But have you read the DJ Bible? I'm pretty sure there's lots of posts about not being the nice guy AFC OR the jerk but being the genuinely good guy in the middle.
So when I say the Bible is a starting point it can have a lot of extremes because a lot of people need that. The extremes aren't supposed to be the end, they are balancing it out.
Secondly, when I say nice I don't mean getting walked over. I was always one of the louder ones in my group. Let me give you an example of what I mean. A couple years ago me and my buddy liked the same chick. My buddy went about getting her in the typical manner, eg. using Kino such as slapping her ass. I however, thought it was disrespectful to do this so I never initiated that kind of kino, not because I was shy but because it wasn't right. I'll give you one guess who got the girl.
Why is it disrespectful? Why is it not right? Did your buddy get the girls? Then what's the problem with what he did because she obviously enjoyed it? I think your being narrow mindset and hanging onto the beliefs society gave you without truly questioning them.
I apologize for saying hinting that you have to be a jerk to get chicks. But no one can deny the fact that this site does advocate hiding a lot of vulnerable parts of your personality for success. e.g. not showing interest.
That's because most people that come here are vulnerable and have no idea about how attraction works. It's not the desired end. It's the starting. It gives you the fundamentals and your supposed to go on your own journey and eventually end up a real authentic man. Once you get success will those vulnerabilities still be there? As strong? You may have even misinterpreted it. The Mystery Method says to fake disinterest, the DJ Bible says to have so much going on in your life that you honestly aren't too worried about women. It also says to have an abundance mindset so that you honestly don't care if she rejects you. How is that patching up vulnerabilities?
Lastly, I am not saying that people on this forum are jerks. However look at the majority of the guys that do pick up chicks and look at those who don't. Don't you feel that its unfair that it has to work that way?
Really? Don't you know any guys who aren't jerks but are popular and good with girls? I definitely know a lot. What kind of girls are the jerks attracting? Do you know any guys who aren't jerks but have good looking girlfriends? Who judges what is fair anyway? Why is it unfair? Is it unfair because 'you are the way you are' and it doesn't favour you? You can't sit there thinking it's unfair, the world isn't going to change, only you can. So you just have to choose your path.
What you see isn't real, it is just your reality. People's minds seek out whatever confirms their beliefs and disregards everything else. Compare it to a fish who can't see the water because it's swimming in it. Can a fish describe what it's like to be wet? I am not trying to force my reality on you. I am just trying to get you to question your and open your mind. It is a little hard for me to see where you are coming from but I went through a similar stage before. Eventually you come to realize you can be whoever you want to be and still attract girls, as long as you are confident and believe in it.
I think you need to ask yourself, what do YOU really want?
