I've been struggling a lot with physically escalating with a girl... and for what?
Because I thought she'd say, "what are you doing?!" or just squirm away?
After much advice from the brothahs on this board, it hit me that I was WAY too worried about wanting to be seen as a "good guy." Not really the dreaded "nice guy" you hear about, but just one who doesn't impose, easily makes compromises, basically someone who is beta.
It hit me like a ton of bricks when I realized "what the hell am I trying to portray myself like this for?" Girls aren't going to freak out at you for trying to escalate with them, unless it's obviously before she's turned on or attracted to you.
Seriously guys, once you get a girl in the sack, even if you aren't going for sex and just a hookup, she's comfortable with going further than just kissing you. It's YOUR decision whether you're going to capitalize or just let it pass.
No girl is going to break up with you or instantly get mad at you for trying to feel her up or down. As long as you got a solid amount of making out and caressing (and necking, if you really want to get her turned on) it's fair game.
So STOP WORRYING! Even if she does say "not yet" or pulls your hand away, who cares? She's depriving HERSELF of the pleasure you can give her. Roll away from her, say "yeah you're right, we shouldn't be doing this yet" (or any freeze out/LMR buster). If this chick really just wont put out, then either next her or be patient, because next time you hook up things will probably go down (in cases of LTR's which sexuality wasn't really initiated until later).
Reread this a couple times and GET IN THIS MINDSET. It will change you. All those times you were scared of making a move, all those times you KNEW she wanted you to take off her clothes, all GONE because you're a motha ****in PIMP who isn't scared to try.
Just remember, any time you don't do something because you're scared, is just as good as being rejected, so what's there to lose?
Because I thought she'd say, "what are you doing?!" or just squirm away?
After much advice from the brothahs on this board, it hit me that I was WAY too worried about wanting to be seen as a "good guy." Not really the dreaded "nice guy" you hear about, but just one who doesn't impose, easily makes compromises, basically someone who is beta.
It hit me like a ton of bricks when I realized "what the hell am I trying to portray myself like this for?" Girls aren't going to freak out at you for trying to escalate with them, unless it's obviously before she's turned on or attracted to you.
Seriously guys, once you get a girl in the sack, even if you aren't going for sex and just a hookup, she's comfortable with going further than just kissing you. It's YOUR decision whether you're going to capitalize or just let it pass.
No girl is going to break up with you or instantly get mad at you for trying to feel her up or down. As long as you got a solid amount of making out and caressing (and necking, if you really want to get her turned on) it's fair game.
So STOP WORRYING! Even if she does say "not yet" or pulls your hand away, who cares? She's depriving HERSELF of the pleasure you can give her. Roll away from her, say "yeah you're right, we shouldn't be doing this yet" (or any freeze out/LMR buster). If this chick really just wont put out, then either next her or be patient, because next time you hook up things will probably go down (in cases of LTR's which sexuality wasn't really initiated until later).
Reread this a couple times and GET IN THIS MINDSET. It will change you. All those times you were scared of making a move, all those times you KNEW she wanted you to take off her clothes, all GONE because you're a motha ****in PIMP who isn't scared to try.
Just remember, any time you don't do something because you're scared, is just as good as being rejected, so what's there to lose?
