Fuglydude
Master Don Juan
I don't post much on these forums much anymore and have relegated myself to the Health and fitness forum. Lately I've seen many guys investing time in women that are just not good news. I don't think there's anything wrong with fooling around with many women, providing its consensual, and its what makes you happy. What really chaps my a$$ though is when I see guys who are exclusive with a woman who is just not good news. By bad news I mean has significant issues with drugs, mental stability, serious emotional baggage/self esteem issues, doesn't respect people, etc. I make the analogy that invest in a poor quality woman is like continuing to throw money into a bad investment that eats up your resources and gives you nothing in return except stress.
Here's my story in a nutshell, and it will show the importance of a good girl and a good relationship.
I think many guys also had/have the same problem as me. Prior to becoming exclusive with my girl, I was quite promiscuous, did drugs regularly, and would be out on dates, out to clubs etc, most nights of the week while taking 6 courses at university. Stripping was my only source of income, as well as student loans, and having cash on you at all times also made it easy to spend and be fiscally irresponsible.
Generally speaking I would engage in STUPID high risk behavior that could hurt me. Basically it was the antithesis of my values about constant self improvement. Being in school made the problem even worse because I wouldnt' really study.
I'm not sure why I did stuff like that. Needless to say it was a lot of fun, but I knew I couldn't continue to live like that. I knew it was hampering my progress in life. I used to be high on marijuana all the time, and I know hurt my academics as well as body. It would hurt the intensity of my work outs, and made me feel more socially awkward and shy.
Promiscuousity was fun. Like most guys I enjoy sexual variety, but dating multiple women made it tough to really get to know them as people beyond the physical stuff. I enjoy meeting new people. I wasn't really looking for a relationship when I met my gf, but we became really close friends, and we knew there was strong mutual sexual attraction so we took it to the next level.
Even after me a my gf became exclusive, it was tough to get away from wanting to party and do drugs. My natural hedonistic and candid tendencies also caused lotsa friction at the start of our relationship. I've been called a "troll" and flamed for posting problems that I've had with her in the past. I'll try and dig up an old thread. Anyways, things slowly got better and she was patient with me and I was sensible enough to slowly change my lifestyle.
Today we are both very happy. I'm 26, and almost have 2 university degrees. I'll be graduating in 2 months and have TONS of career options, and can easily earn 6 figures. My gf is a model. I just started my personal training business, and still strip part time. I'm happy and in the best shape I've ever been in. My gf really helped me to get here today. I know I could have gotten here on my own, but she definitely made it a lot easier.
I think a good relationship with a quality girl is EXTREMELY important (providing you wanna be monogamous) to maximize your natural potential and be happy. Gentlemen, please please please dont' waste your time on women that aren't worth it.
Its WAY better to be single and enjoy the single life than try and make a relationship work with some b1tch who isn't worth your time...
Just my 2 cents.
Here's my story in a nutshell, and it will show the importance of a good girl and a good relationship.
I think many guys also had/have the same problem as me. Prior to becoming exclusive with my girl, I was quite promiscuous, did drugs regularly, and would be out on dates, out to clubs etc, most nights of the week while taking 6 courses at university. Stripping was my only source of income, as well as student loans, and having cash on you at all times also made it easy to spend and be fiscally irresponsible.
Generally speaking I would engage in STUPID high risk behavior that could hurt me. Basically it was the antithesis of my values about constant self improvement. Being in school made the problem even worse because I wouldnt' really study.
I'm not sure why I did stuff like that. Needless to say it was a lot of fun, but I knew I couldn't continue to live like that. I knew it was hampering my progress in life. I used to be high on marijuana all the time, and I know hurt my academics as well as body. It would hurt the intensity of my work outs, and made me feel more socially awkward and shy.
Promiscuousity was fun. Like most guys I enjoy sexual variety, but dating multiple women made it tough to really get to know them as people beyond the physical stuff. I enjoy meeting new people. I wasn't really looking for a relationship when I met my gf, but we became really close friends, and we knew there was strong mutual sexual attraction so we took it to the next level.
Even after me a my gf became exclusive, it was tough to get away from wanting to party and do drugs. My natural hedonistic and candid tendencies also caused lotsa friction at the start of our relationship. I've been called a "troll" and flamed for posting problems that I've had with her in the past. I'll try and dig up an old thread. Anyways, things slowly got better and she was patient with me and I was sensible enough to slowly change my lifestyle.
Today we are both very happy. I'm 26, and almost have 2 university degrees. I'll be graduating in 2 months and have TONS of career options, and can easily earn 6 figures. My gf is a model. I just started my personal training business, and still strip part time. I'm happy and in the best shape I've ever been in. My gf really helped me to get here today. I know I could have gotten here on my own, but she definitely made it a lot easier.
I think a good relationship with a quality girl is EXTREMELY important (providing you wanna be monogamous) to maximize your natural potential and be happy. Gentlemen, please please please dont' waste your time on women that aren't worth it.
Its WAY better to be single and enjoy the single life than try and make a relationship work with some b1tch who isn't worth your time...
Just my 2 cents.