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Jizz

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with a serious relationship!

exact words from a gal im into!

ok, but the worst thing is all i asked was if she would come down to my free house next weekend, and i said i liked her and shes not just some gal i wanna hook up with

she also gave distance as a reason for not having a serious relationship (we live qute far away)

so questions im asking are

1) no contact, letting her contact me, is the only way to go right?

2) is there anyway i could change her mindset from having a serious relationship, into "well we could just have some fun"

cheers
 

rockstar88

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is she a cool friend. some girls are good to keep around as friends. they work well to make you look better plus i have found that you can make most of them do gf things with out you having to be their bf. if she could be a useful friend patch things up and lose the feelings for her.
if you are starting to fall for her. dont talk to her again, dont reach out. let her contact you. and when she does always be busy for atleast a couple of weeks.
 

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Turn her female friends on first. When they think you're "HOT" they'll talk to her about it. Then she will open the other eye for you. Then start spending more time alone. Hug her, kiss her on the neck, lick her on the neck, whatever. Don't rush things with a good friend, play it smooth. :D
 

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Learn to listen

She didnt say that nothing could happen between you she simply said "I don't want a SERIOUS relationship"

All she saying is she is not looking for anything serious although she didn't not rule out casual sex!

Listen to what the words are saying to help you figure out what they are not saying!
 

Jariel

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i said i liked her and shes not just some gal i wanna hook up with
Big mistake! I'm sure you meant it as a compliment, but by saying that she may have took it a bit too serious.

Remember, people respond more to action and implied interest rather than verbal propositions.

I'm in a situation with a girl at the moment. I'm currently seeing someone else so if this girl asked me out or told me she liked me, nothing would have happened. Logically I can come up with other reasons too - she's too young, we're good friends etc etc. However, she has expressed it physically and we've been hugging, tickling each other, held hands and it has escalated (<--important point) to a kiss. These moments have played on my mind, I'm left craving her physical presence and I have to admit I'm starting to develop feelings for her as a result of this.

This is the route you need to take with your friendl! You should not speak a single word about your interest or her brush off (no explanations, no trying to take back what you said, no hinting). Just stay friends, but increase the physical flirting, good company and let her experience how good it would feel to be with you.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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