justiceseeker said:
I can very much relate to your situation. I also was with a girl who was depressed when I met her. Not only was she ungrateful for all the help I gave her, but she tried to blame me for some of her troubles.
Anytime she was depressed or was having a bad day, I would try to talk to her and tell her how much I loved her. I would buy her medications for her since she couldn't afford it. I would take her to her appointments and encourage her to go to them. One time when she tried to committ suicide, I stayed all night with her in the intensive care unit to make sure she was alright. On the other hand, her parents didn't even come to see her and acted very callous about the situation.
So what ended up happening? She left me and is living with her parents now. Talking about how great they are and never mentioning what I did for her. I swear, women love to be treated like ****. Anytime you show kindness or take their problems seriously, they lose respect for you. It really shows how fvcked modern women's psyche's have become. Belive me, if you're selfish and don't maker her a priority in your life, she'll reward you handsomely for it.
Do you notice on those talk shows or T.V. Judge shows how women end up with these friggen losers that mooch off them and don't pay child support? They come into court crying about what a bad guy he is. How he's selfish and doesn't respect her, yet she stays with him????? Then when they finally realize how stupid they've been, they're too old, fat and ugly for any guy to want them. That's when they wish they would have stayed with the decent guy who respected them. Women are only hurting themselves when the do this. Unfortunately, for most of them, only time and experience will show them the error of their ways. Sadly, it's usually too late and they end up bitter old crows.
PERHAPS THEY'LL BEGIN TO REALIZE IT SOONER.
Think about it, when you first meet a girl that you really want to get with, you never ever shower her with attention or show how you feel.
However, as the relationship continues, and you get more comfortable with eachother, you will tell her how you feel, begin to care, want to help her, etc.
What attracted to her in the beginning was the fact that you didn't care. The fact that you were never her number 1 priority. While a man expects to see and will be more attracted to a girl who shows commitment after some time into the relationship, a girl would much rather see a man stay the way he was when you first met.
If I would of stayed doing my thing, not seen her every day, not went to pick her up whenever she wanted to, etc, we'd probably still be together. But no, I did what you would THINK a woman would like, I became caring, nice, concerned with where she was when I was not around, etc.
The result is a woman taking as much from a man as possible before she is tired or has find a better way to occupy her time. Since my girl and I have broke up, she's been hanging out with her friends, doing nothing special. She even showed up at a party last night that I was at, and she left immediately. She just wants to do her thing, because she completely wore me about because I:
1. Took her seriously.
2. Tried too hard to make her happy.
3. Cared about her so much that I would even yell at her times when I felt she needed to get her sh!t together.
Now for next time I know, keep doing my thing. Go fishing alone. Go to the movies alone. Go to the bar with friends. Don't try to include her in everything or she will have unrealistic expectations from you. She'll be expecting me to tell her where I am all the time, and by telling her I am only appearing less attractive. By treating a girl like sh!t and doing your own thing, never showing care for her, she'll stay with you forever because anytime she gets any kindness out of you she will appreciate it so much more because she had to work for it.
Whatever, I'm still moving on from my ex. I learned my lesson, but now I'm going to remodel my apartment a little bit, go back to school and work on getting my B.A, and keep working where I work while saving a lot more money then I was when I was with her. I learned a great lesson, and I think your post here shows that I'm not the only one who learned it.
