Dont really know what's wrong with me (rant)

[Chamber36]

Since i started reading stuff on this site i learned that i had been screwing things up for myself a LOT. Since then I stopped caring about alot of chicks. (because at that point i learned they were screening me to see if i would fit the whole Alpha male persona). I believe i was born to love women, and that is sort of my downfall. I should reverse it to "born to be loved by women".

I've always been subconciously sabotaging my own plans. I learned when i was small never to lie, so i like to be myself. I had been given everything on a silver platter except poon.

I still sort of have that Nice Guy brain. I'm learning to think like a Don Juan though. I am overanalytical too though. Never had an LTR, so never had regular poon. I thought i was confident, but when people ask me about my poon influx, its like a cold knife.

I went to Newcastle, England for a while, and that place is 1 giant *****-house. On a friday night i made out with 2 chicks, 1 of which blew me in the middle of an alley/smoking section of a club. It was a real eye-opener for me to go there.

But now that i'm back home in the netherlands, i dont know how to apply these lessons. I'm becoming alot better at gauging their interest though. im getting the idea that 1/10 girls i approach in the club wants me. But when their friend tells me to **** off, i sort of just give up the chase.
For some reason i'm afraid to take risks.

I work at the club, so i get alot of c0ck-teases. I dont really know how to handle them. sometimes i wonder if i should tape myself at work and then review it.
I need to get out of the field of basics, and into Advanced Don-Juanism.

 

[Nygard]

Keep trying, bro. I've been stuck in the same spot for 6 years and have not progressed at all. If you find a way out, let me know.

 

[Jeffst1980]

Don't read too much; your tendency to overanalyze will cripple you.

Instead, simplify everything into just a few points:

-A random girl's opinion of you DOES NOT dictate your worth.

-Routines, etc. do NOT build attraction; they are simply ways to keep the interaction going. You should be able to tell right off the bat which girls are open to meeting and possibly hooking up with you.

-ALWAYS keep a smile on your face; you will receive much more attention from single females if you look approachable.

-Calling a girl "cute" is a perfectly calibrated method of signaling your intent, and a great opener--average to attractive girls will light up when they hear it, very attractive girls will read it as a slight neg; either way, you are setting the frame that you are judging her, instead of the other way around.

-She KNOWS what's up; if a girl stays in set with you, she likely has some attraction. Try to isolate her and go for a make out. Don't bail just because you ran out of things to say!!

-Go out to have fun and be SOCIAL. Talk to everyone, not just hot chicks! Building instant social proof is the key to cold approach night game.

Good luck!

 

[Chamber36]

Well i hadn't been on the site for like a week. I never really run out of things to say either. I'm not afraid of girls, i can switch into perv mode if i want. I told girls the craziest compliments drunk and sober. I just have a mental barrier somewhere, where im supposed to cross the line.

I just had a bad night last night and had to vent.

I got 2 numbers but i really would prefer to make more progress.1 girl i been working on for like 4 fridays. The second one used to be her best friend, but they dont talk anymore, and i havent seen her in years so i took advantage of that chance to ask the number quickly. Also met a HB8 who i agreed to see in the same spot again next friday. She also works in a club on saturday nights so we have something in common.

Since i started reading stuff on this site my whole mindset has changed though, and i noticed girls getting jealous just because im sitting next to a HB8 in class. I tried to mack on them both at the beginning of the schoolyear, before i heard of the site, and didnt get anywhere.

I'm not even really afraid to approach real HB9's. I think that my yearning for poon is working against me.

 

[Alle_Gory]

There's nothing wrong with you. You're just going through some changes. Things are going to be weird, you'll second guess yourself, you'll be unsure of the things you're doing and over analyze, you'll be aware of new things you've never noticed before... etc.

It happens, keep it up.

 

[Soyoushave]

Dutch girls are either normal and cute, but difficult or total sluts.

 

[JustWuzzle]

Hell I used to think there was something wrong with me because I use to run up huge porn bills. I'm young not getting any sex which I should be having every other day at least. There is nothing wrong with me I'm coming to realize. I'm just gonna live my life like Charlie Sheen and go from there.

 

[Soyoushave]

Hell I used to think there was something wrong with me because I use to run up huge porn bills. I'm young not getting any sex which I should be having every other day at least. There is nothing wrong with me I'm coming to realize. I'm just gonna live my life like Charlie Sheen and go from there.

Be Bi-Winning!
Just cure yourself with your BRAIN!

 

[DanelMadr]

I might have a cure for you. It is more of a clue because it depends on you how you approach it.

Advanced game was there in the beginning. When you did not care about girls and just wanted to be this super cool guy. Guy who keeps his head when shyt hits a fan and Sioux warriors surround your caravan. I know it was long time ago
This guy who sees things through his own eyes and nothing f@cking scares him.
He calculates future based on reason and not how he will look like.
He does not give a f@ck if his friends think he is gay when he does not chase skirts like mad.

This guy knows what he is worth on his own, because he knows how to kill a man with a one swing of his hand. (Learn that stuff). He knows he wont freak out and that he can depend on himself.

He is not afraid what future brings....number, kiss, *******, f@ck, wife. Not because he has 10 more plates but because he just can't stress about pvssy. Pvssy for him is not a thing of status, an ego stroke.

You made the first step. Being extremely honest with yourself and admitting you are afraid, ego driven and a little needy. It is time to cut the cr@p, stop acting and start to be the cool Man.

For now I live in Belgium. Dutch girls are somewhat hotter I have a thing for freckle nose.
F@ck the clubs, man. Not a healthy crowd in general.

 

[Chamber36]

I might have a cure for you. It is more of a clue because it depends on you how you approach it.

Advanced game was there in the beginning. When you did not care about girls and just wanted to be this super cool guy. Guy who keeps his head when shyt hits a fan and Sioux warriors surround your caravan. I know it was long time ago
This guy who sees things through his own eyes and nothing f@cking scares him.
He calculates future based on reason and not how he will look like.
He does not give a f@ck if his friends think he is gay when he does not chase skirts like mad.

This guy knows what he is worth on his own, because he knows how to kill a man with a one swing of his hand. (Learn that stuff). He knows he wont freak out and that he can depend on himself.

He is not afraid what future brings....number, kiss, *******, f@ck, wife. Not because he has 10 more plates but because he just can't stress about pvssy. Pvssy for him is not a thing of status, an ego stroke.

You made the first step. Being extremely honest with yourself and admitting you are afraid, ego driven and a little needy. It is time to cut the cr@p, stop acting and start to be the cool Man.

For now I live in Belgium. Dutch girls are somewhat hotter I have a thing for freckle nose.
F@ck the clubs, man. Not a healthy crowd in general.

alright. I think im just too direct because im too needy. I could kill a man though, I've been doing mma for 3 years, just no bouts in the ring. Last time i posted a thread here, the main conclusion was that i needed to grow a pair of testicles. I went to England i couldnt believe how slutty the girls were. And also, i really only want to get pvssy to prove to myself that i can. I dont really care about their reaction. If they make a fool out of me i'll make a fool out of them. And i want to know, why "do you come here often?" immediately turns them off. I macked on some girls at work and i can see how different girls react differently to everything. There's infinite possibilities.

It's like they're always just teasing me, and when i go in for the kill they're not real antilope but cardboard or something.

I'm also going for the real deal in terms of girls here. I know i could fvck ugly girls or fat girls, or young girls. I just want a proper one. And I feel like all the girls whose numbers i get are just gonna forget me once they get Any type of validation. I've started ignoring girls in chat though, so i'm making progress there.

Listen to this conversation i had at work while smoking a cigarette. I saw this flaring homo and a HB8.

Me: Are u having a good time?
Them: yeah.

HB8: are you allowed to 'play' at work?
Me: nope not allowed.(with a smile on my face)
Homo: what do u mean though?
Me: Well im not allowed to play with girls.
Homo: who can u play with then?
Me: Also not with myself.
Hb8: HAHAH, a man with a sense of humor.
Homo: what do you think when u see a girl like that?
Me: Im not gonna say that.(Cuz i was thinking of the #8. And i wasnt gonna say i thought of her as an 8. I realise now i should have said she's a #8. I bet she would have liked that.)
Hb8: I like your hair!

Me: Do you come here often?(I say to the girl)
She immediately breaks eye contact,laughs, and asks her gay friend what he would think of someone asked him that.
Homo: nothing.
Me: well i just figured i'd ask cuz i'd like to see u again.(i look up and to the side at this point, because im avoiding eye contact)
Hb8: well i come here every week.


She just basically laughed at me. Then she introduced me to her friends. They were obliged to meet me. But then she told them about my 'line'.
Me: that is cold.
Hb8: well sorry, its just funny.

Me: well if u wanna give me ur number, u know where to find me.(isn't that horrible?)

She just laughs and says ok.

When she came for her jacket i said: see u next week!

But that's basically how i'm doing with the ladies right now.
I feel like im doing as good as i possibly could in general life with what i've got at the moment, so i dont have many regrets.

My social validation is not a problem. I can be AMOG. I just screw it up with girls in mid-flirt. It's bullcrap. I'm too outcome-dependant. I need to learn how to pass these girls stupid tests.