Bible_Belt said:
Luke, you and I believe in the same bible, and I know that the commandment to 'honor thy mother and father' has to come into your mind. I bet your mom uses it as a guilt trip if you ever stand up to her.
How much do you want to bet because you owe me money? She never says that line. The most she'll say if there is a real problem is that I'm free to move out of here, but nothing has ever got to that stage, and really, they are paying most of the bills anyway.
Bible_belt said:
Women are the same way and will push you like a child to find your limits. Mothers and girlfriends are no different in this regard.
Luke, you don't honor your mother by being a pvssy.
Not her chauffeur, not her personal assistant, not her husband, nor her best buddy. And not your dating coach. You honor her by being a man. That includes standing up to her.
Sure, but if I'm doing nothing, I'm not going to favour being an internet bum (I pay for the internet in here at least) over taking her out, and some of the stuff is really situational anyway. There is not really much to stand up to her on since we are in agreement most of the time.
Bible_belt said:
By letting any woman push you around, even your own mother, you violate the principles of the male-female dynamic as set forth in that same bible that seems to mean two different things to you and me. Look at the great men of the bible and see if they let any nagging woman push them around. They don't, and when they do, their lives start turning to sh!t, like David with Bathsheba and Sampson with Delila. Yours is sh!t right now, because you let a woman push you around.
My mom wears the pants in here, my dad because he has NO self-control is messed up. He gave up his control a long time ago. So, you can talk all you want about the male-female dynamic, but it ain't in this environment where my dad is more of an older brother than a father in a single parent family of my mom.
Secondly for the OP, I think a set-up where you are obeying your parents or being a good boy to seek their approval makes characteristics that may be approval-seeking just from sort of being under someone, and you just become a natural approval-seeking AFC. So, in regards to this, what the OP is saying, seems to jive with theory. I actually did a search with 'approval-seeking' on posts, and from what I read, most of those posts describe me to some degree or another and have 'approval-seeking' virtually written on my forehead which is also probably why I'm not very successful with girls.
However, if you are obeying your parents because they are talking common sence and are sort of anchoring you from doing something you know is stupid then, which is usually the case, then they are acting more like council rather than authoritarian.