Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
I realized something today, the DJ bible goes into very much detail about many situations and how to act towards women. But in the end, sometimes I think that it might just make things more difficult, guys start thinking they have to act EXACTLY a certain way, which creates a lot of pressure and might even make them MORE nervous.
One example is this:
Wait at least 3 days before you contact a girl after getting her number.
I must say I used to follow this rule, and found no need for it. I never had a bad reaction from calling a girl sooner, even the same day. I never had a girl suddenly lose interest by me calling too soon. If the girl was interested in you in the first place, I don't think you'd ruin any chances with her by calling too soon. So I'd say you can call a girl whenever you feel like it.
Another that I just wrote about in the discussion forum:
Whenever a girl does something you don't like, the best thing to do is to act like it don't bother you.
If you act like it doesn't bother you, wouldn't that mean the girl will THINK she can get away with anything, and treat you like a rag doll. In my opinion, you should confront a girl when she does something you don't like. Don't make it a huge issue, but just let her know that what she did was unacceptable to you.
Those are just a few things I can think of off the top of my head. With all these tips and stuff that are too specific, some guys tend to forget the basics. It's really quite simple to be a real DJ, all you need to have is confidence, everybody has their own unique way with girls. So don't think you have to approach a certain way, develop you're own style, and keep trying til you figure out what works for you.
Conversation is something a lot of guys have trouble with, I'm putting a little post about conversation because that seems to be what can make a lot of guys extremely nervous. They see a girl, and they don't know what to say, they don't approach. There's something you really need to remember when you want to approach a girl and can't think of anything to say. You need to remember that you know NOTHING about that girl you want to approach. You should have tons of things you would like to find out about her, you should EASILY be able to come up with a few things to say. Basically, you're just trying to see what that girl is like. You could even say that, "Hi, I just seen you here and wanted to see what you were like."
Even just a simple "Hi" will do wonders, never underestimate what that little word can do. After saying that little word, you can probably even judge by her response if she will be willing to talk to you or not. If she says "Hi" back in a nice, upbeat voice tone with a big smile, chances are she's going to be a friendly girl. So you now know that you won't get some painful rejection from her.
After that initial opener, just remember you can find out anything you'd like to know about her, all you have to do is ask. You wanna know where she's headed? Just ask! You wanna know if she has that dreaded boyfriend around who might beat you up? Just ask! You wanna know if she'd like to go on a date with you? Just ask! See how simple this can be? Don't make things more difficult than they are.
And one last thing I'd like to share, is about the whole mindset. Here's a simple technique:
Think about the type of girls you want to attract. Think about every detail, her personality, how she dresses, everything....... After you did that, now think about the type of guy that would attract that girl, think about how he would act around her, how he's dressed, his voice tone he's using, how confident he is, how charming he is, how he stands, EVERY little detail you can think of. And the last step, work on BECOMING THAT GUY. Cause chances are, you WANT to be that guy. You want to be that guy that the girl is looking up to.
So just remember, don't fall into overanalyzing all of the advice on this website. Of course, the advice is all very helpful, just don't forget to keep things simple.
Danny
One example is this:
Wait at least 3 days before you contact a girl after getting her number.
I must say I used to follow this rule, and found no need for it. I never had a bad reaction from calling a girl sooner, even the same day. I never had a girl suddenly lose interest by me calling too soon. If the girl was interested in you in the first place, I don't think you'd ruin any chances with her by calling too soon. So I'd say you can call a girl whenever you feel like it.
Another that I just wrote about in the discussion forum:
Whenever a girl does something you don't like, the best thing to do is to act like it don't bother you.
If you act like it doesn't bother you, wouldn't that mean the girl will THINK she can get away with anything, and treat you like a rag doll. In my opinion, you should confront a girl when she does something you don't like. Don't make it a huge issue, but just let her know that what she did was unacceptable to you.
Those are just a few things I can think of off the top of my head. With all these tips and stuff that are too specific, some guys tend to forget the basics. It's really quite simple to be a real DJ, all you need to have is confidence, everybody has their own unique way with girls. So don't think you have to approach a certain way, develop you're own style, and keep trying til you figure out what works for you.
Conversation is something a lot of guys have trouble with, I'm putting a little post about conversation because that seems to be what can make a lot of guys extremely nervous. They see a girl, and they don't know what to say, they don't approach. There's something you really need to remember when you want to approach a girl and can't think of anything to say. You need to remember that you know NOTHING about that girl you want to approach. You should have tons of things you would like to find out about her, you should EASILY be able to come up with a few things to say. Basically, you're just trying to see what that girl is like. You could even say that, "Hi, I just seen you here and wanted to see what you were like."
Even just a simple "Hi" will do wonders, never underestimate what that little word can do. After saying that little word, you can probably even judge by her response if she will be willing to talk to you or not. If she says "Hi" back in a nice, upbeat voice tone with a big smile, chances are she's going to be a friendly girl. So you now know that you won't get some painful rejection from her.
After that initial opener, just remember you can find out anything you'd like to know about her, all you have to do is ask. You wanna know where she's headed? Just ask! You wanna know if she has that dreaded boyfriend around who might beat you up? Just ask! You wanna know if she'd like to go on a date with you? Just ask! See how simple this can be? Don't make things more difficult than they are.
And one last thing I'd like to share, is about the whole mindset. Here's a simple technique:
Think about the type of girls you want to attract. Think about every detail, her personality, how she dresses, everything....... After you did that, now think about the type of guy that would attract that girl, think about how he would act around her, how he's dressed, his voice tone he's using, how confident he is, how charming he is, how he stands, EVERY little detail you can think of. And the last step, work on BECOMING THAT GUY. Cause chances are, you WANT to be that guy. You want to be that guy that the girl is looking up to.
So just remember, don't fall into overanalyzing all of the advice on this website. Of course, the advice is all very helpful, just don't forget to keep things simple.
Danny
