Don't know what to do with future because of gf

[Dhoulmagus]

Help, I've been single most of my life so I planned on graduating and moving wherever job/whatever took me. However, my gf is a sophomore and the major cities near her aren't really ideal, but will save me a lot of money. I'm guessing yall were in this situation, so what did yall do. Breaking up with her is not an option either.

 

[skinnyguy]

Help, I've been single most of my life so I planned on graduating and moving wherever job/whatever took me. However, my gf is a sophomore and the major cities near her aren't really ideal, but will save me a lot of money. I'm guessing yall were in this situation, so what did yall do. Breaking up with her is not an option either.

6 months ago you were complaining about not getting laid and how your school hates black people. I'd suggest staying close to your gf cause if you move you'll be back at square one again.

 

[Poon King]

Help, I've been single most of my life so I planned on graduating and moving wherever job/whatever took me. However, my gf is a sophomore and the major cities near her aren't really ideal, but will save me a lot of money. I'm guessing yall were in this situation, so what did yall do. Breaking up with her is not an option either.

Breaking up is always an option.

Planning your life around a woman is weak and idiotic.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Breaking up is always an option.

Planning your life around a woman is weak and idiotic.

Lol expected/10. Planning my life around her would be me staying at my stupid pizza job instead of starting my career. The pros are that staying around here leaves me closer to my family and her and I will save more money. Ive already told her that we are moving further away once she graduates and shes okay with it.

 

[BrainDamage92]

You dont know what to do because of yourself, not your GF, dont blameshift this is female BS.

Work for yourself. If she loves you that much she will try to organise her life around you. But this wont work in the long run she will start feeling like she is sacrificing herself for you.

And it works both ways. If you organise your life around her, again you will be unhappy.

Sometimes life puts a wedge in a relationship just like that, or more like people like to set themselves for heartache because they are... well stupid. This is exactly why you should think very carefully before delving into a relationship, because this whole thing sounds like it was doomed from day 1 but your virginity clouded your logic. Love is dangerous, very very dangerous. Love is one thing, relationship is a whole other ball game. You have to take love abit more lightly and realistically so you dont lose your cool man.

Its forgiven, youre young, even little, go break your head and you will know better next time.

 

[El Payaso]

Do what is best for YOU. Don't plan your life around a girl you've only been dating for a few months. That's a very big mistake.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Breaking up with her is not an option either.

This is the root of your problem right here. You think she thinks the same about you? That breaking up with you is also not an option? Even if you say "yes, she'd never leave me" or "she'd never even consider breaking up with me" (both outrageously flawed assertions, by the way, and you should know this...), have you not been on this forum long enough to learn about the fickle nature of women's emotions?

Personally, I think you won't even entertain splitting from her for this very reason right here:

I've been single most of my life

I wish you the best, but should she ever decide to end things with you, the only words that would sting harder than "I told you so" are the ones you yourself wrote:

Breaking up with her is not an option either.

 

[Skyline]

I plan on using my job to get a car. Once I get a car, I'm going to college to get an associates in criminal justice. I'll be about 21 by then. I'm going to quit my job, if I haven't already, and enroll in the Police academy so I can become a Patrol Officer. I'll re-attend college for a bachelors in criminal justice after I graduate and get a job in a city.

After I graduate and become a patrol officer, I'm going to work my *ss off for about five years so I can become a sergeant by the time I'm about 26, I'll also have my bachelors by the time I'm 23.

I plan on having a medium size house worth around $180k in a nice neighborhood with a Masersti Ghibli and a Nissan GT-R in my garage by the time I'm 29.

No one is going to stop my from achieving that life that I want. Not my family, not my friends, not the media, not even myself, and certainly not any woman. I hate part time jobs. No one is going to hold me back from becoming a Sergeant and making more than $70k a year.

You need to lead your own life man... This "see wherever it takes me" doesn't fly with me...

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Again, I didn't say I was staying at mcdonalds. With my major I can get a job in plenty much any coordinate on the globe because everywhere needs logistics/supply chain. The area she goes to school and where my family lives is a huge logistics hub of the country, but it's Tn lol. However, I would just have to stay in the Tn/upper south area for 2-3 more years. I'd save more money and be closer to home because I'm coming out of college with student debts and will need a new car. I want to move out west, but that is pretty much impossible for me right now. Maybe this is telling me that going west is a bad idea right now and not to screw up. Some of yall are too pessimistic and will be hopeless. Y'all have the wrong attitudes and go for these crazy/okcupid girls and get all ****** when they pull a stunt. I have two friends that act like some of y'all that browse the misc, they all do the same **** and preach about how anything with a vagina is out to **** them over. Yet, they always choose the craziest/sluttiest girls to talk to. Having a good partner will help out financially. NOTE, I SAID GOOD, NOT some penny stock okcupid girl you tried to date after having sex for a week.

 

[Tictac]

Your mission comes first.

 

[Leaf]

All excuses. And what would you do if she breaks up with you down the track and all your plans now go down the drain? I remember reading an article about a boxer who beat an up and comer who decided not to sign a contract with a big boxing corporation and they offered the contract to the loser. Think the loser was Mayweather (?) or someone and he's now a multimillionaire while the bloke ended up heading back to his home country, living in a run down apartment with his kids still at home.

What I am saying is if an opportunity presents itself, go for it and don't look back. It's comfortable to think yep, I've got a girlfriend, I've got family, I can save up money but how many people then get use to that monotony and some way or another sh*t hits the fan and they wonder what could have been. THAT is heading back to square one.

 

[Starwolf]

I plan on using my job to get a car. Once I get a car, I'm going to college to get an associates in criminal justice. I'll be about 21 by then. I'm going to quit my job, if I haven't already, and enroll in the Police academy so I can become a Patrol Officer. I'll re-attend college for a bachelors in criminal justice after I graduate and get a job in a city.

After I graduate and become a patrol officer, I'm going to work my *ss off for about five years so I can become a sergeant by the time I'm about 26, I'll also have my bachelors by the time I'm 23.

I plan on having a medium size house worth around $180k in a nice neighborhood with a Masersti Ghibli and a Nissan GT-R in my garage by the time I'm 29.

No one is going to stop my from achieving that life that I want. Not my family, not my friends, not the media, not even myself, and certainly not any woman. I hate part time jobs. No one is going to hold me back from becoming a Sergeant and making more than $70k a year.

You need to lead your own life man... This "see wherever it takes me" doesn't fly with me...

You have your life all planned out at the age of 19. How?

 

[Skyline]

You have your life all planned out at the age of 19. How?

SS has taught me that my life is more important than anything... Plus I want a Nissan GT-R and at least one project car while still being financially stable. I picked the Ghibli because of the villainous look it has. I already know Maserati is blatantly ripping you off with the $60-$70k price tag- but I want to make it a sleeper car.

I want a job I love, I can't stand doing the same thing every day so law enforcement feels right to me since I travel and interact with a lot of different people daily. It will be toned down when I'm a Sergeant but I still won't be doing the same thing everyday.

It's weird because almost all of my friends are trying to find their direction in life and end up worrying about stuff that I either don't care about or have already thought about a year and a half ago. I still remember my boss telling me that he makes $43k a year at the age of 22, and I'm just thinking:

"Is this really what you want to do with your life? Be a boss at some crappy part time job?"

Working there alone makes me sick but it will get me where I want to be. He made it sound so great too and I'm like dude, this "life" is not for me. It kind of blows my mind to be honest.

I guess you could say my main motivation is for the cars...

 

[Dhoulmagus]

They are all excuses. Yes, there are positives of you staying close to home, but there are many more positives to leaving and broadening your horizons.

And look, you didn't even consider what I said about asking her to join you on your life journey or putting things on hold until she gets out of college. And let's just say she is the one and only for you... Congrats you found the love of your life and that's part of becoming a better man is surrounding yourself with good people. But your future wife should support you in any venture you chose to pursue. Maybe she could tranfer schools? You could do a LDR and see her every weekend? I don't know. Be creative.

Broaden my horizons I want to do and I plan on doing it in my future. I've already told her that and I will emphasize it more if the relationship lasts through this summer. She travels like I do and we have been on plenty of trips together. In other words, I have made it clear that if she wants to be with me longer than she will have to move out of Tn. However, the only place I'm really open to moving to is west which is too expensive for me right now. I'm not going to move to the most expensive part of the country with an entry level income, student debt, and potentially a car payment. I was going to do, but maybe she was natures way of telling me that's a bad idea right now lol. Hopefully I can in the future, but right now wouldn't be economically feasible. Living in a cheaper area means I can take more vacations and hopefully travel the world. She has already been to 4 other countries that weren't western europe lol, so she is on par with what I want to do. I'm considering the military in my field and doing 6 years of that first. I'm not moving up north/midwest because it's too cold and everybody there is some workaholic drone. I hate winter and I can't do yalls winters. I can barely handle the winters here lol.

 

[El Payaso]

Again, I didn't say I was staying at mcdonalds. With my major I can get a job in plenty much any coordinate on the globe because everywhere needs logistics/supply chain. The area she goes to school and where my family lives is a huge logistics hub of the country, but it's Tn lol.

Off topic but my major was supply chain management as well. I can tell you first hand that you made a good career choice with that major.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Off topic but my major was supply chain management as well. I can tell you first hand that you made a good career choice with that major.

Ya my school has a top 10 program in scm, so I switched to it. Best college decision I have made so far lol. Is it better to do military logistics in the Navy/Air force for 6 years than start applying to major companies, or just start out entry at a 3PL or wherever I can get a decent job at?

 

[No.Danny]

You're pathetic. No way around it, hopefully the harsh words wake you up.

 

[El Payaso]

Ya my school has a top 10 program in scm, so I switched to it. Best college decision I have made so far lol. Is it better to do military logistics in the Navy/Air force for 6 years than start applying to major companies, or just start out entry at a 3PL or wherever I can get a decent job at?

Logistics is logistics. It doesn't matter where it's done so go with whatever you get right away whether it's military, 3PL, major corporation etc.

A lot of young people these days don't stay at one job for long especially out of college so after your first or second job, you will find yourself being able to apply to major companies like Nestle, P&G etc.

As long as the job will give you the skills you need for the jobs you want in the future, you'll be fine.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Logistics is logistics. It doesn't matter where it's done so go with whatever you get right away whether it's military, 3PL, major corporation etc.

A lot of young people these days don't stay at one job for long especially out of college so after your first or second job, you will find yourself being able to apply to major companies like Nestle, P&G etc.

As long as the job will give you the skills you need for the jobs you want in the future, you'll be fine.

What did you end doing out of it? if I may ask?

 

[El Payaso]

What did you end doing out of it? if I may ask?

Right now I work in procurement at one of the biggest auto companies in the world.