dont know how to progress with this girl help plz

[smoothtalker72]

ok i've been talking to this girl for a couple of months, i know shes interested but i feel like im stuck. i did ask her out but like i said in another topic theres a lot in the way of that (work school sports). how should i work on progressing this past just talking. i dont want her to get bored with me and just move on.

 

[smoothtalker72]

anyone?

 

[john paul]

Have you hung out with her on like a date yet?

 

[ARrocket]

Look man...I don't really understand your question. Do you have a specific problem or what?

 

[smoothtalker72]

we hang out at work and on breaks but nothing outside of work because of school work sports and her parents. i guess what im trying to say is, is she going to end up bored with me if we dont get the chance to go out relatively soon? like initially we used to talk almost daily but now we talk less and less. i can tell shes still into me but getting bored because we havent been able to do much in the form of dating.

 

[john paul]

aka Shes getting bored because she isnt getting any

I know it sucks but that means you have to make a move on her and possibly even get head, God forbid.

Gotta hang out with her alone and show her why it would be dumb to get bored of you.

 

[smoothtalker72]

thats whats so difficult about the situation, i cant get her alone too often because we only see each other at work, we go to different schools. and even at work its only for a few minutes at a time because we work in different areas. they stopped letting us go on breaks together and it looks like we wont be scheduled together anymore either because someone "hinted" to the managers that there was something going on between us.

 

[Cry For Love]

is there any reason to keep trying it with her? if its too much trouble to go through just seek the next one (away from work, that is!).

 

[smoothtalker72]

we get along well and have alot in common. i really wanna give her a try but i know it shouldnt be this difficult.

 

[Bryce556]

hang out outside of work or school.... give her a ride home. or just simly ask her to come hang out at a movie or when your doing somthing with friends. encorperate her into your daily things or events you go to. Going to a thing (sports,golfing,shopping) with your dad or mom or friends? invite her along.

 

[Teh_Wolf]

dude i just went ice skating with some girls this weekend. they hadnt done it very many times and were terrible, its alot of fun lol

 

[smoothtalker72]

ok so i was talking to the same girl today, told her i was going to the movies and invited her to come along but i never got an answer. the conversation took place via texts, she texted me after she got home from work. anyway that kinda pissed me off so i figured id just ignore her for the rest of the week. normally id see her on saturday but im not going to be working this saturday so i may not see her until next week. i dont know the circumstances as to why i never got an answer, i just pretty much assumed she ignored me. should i just wait a couple more days and try to call her or should i go through with my original plan and just put her on ice until the next time i see her or the next time she tries to get in contact with me? and if i do decide to call her should i ask her why she didnt respond to my invitation or just play it off?

 

[smoothtalker72]

need help asap

 

[2.0]

I think it's pretty obvious that you should definitely not initiate contact with her until she contacts you first. Also, being the confident man that you are, you don't really care that she didn't respond to your offer about the movie... she has no effect on your self-worth. Thus, you have no reason to bring it up because you are not insecure about it.

 

[smoothtalker72]

thanks, that was my original plan. i've decided that i should sit her down and straighten things out when we do eventually see eachother. i plan to say something like this "im really interested in you but im not interested in playing games. if you really do want to try to work something out let me know now before i spend time trying to develop something that just isnt there." any thoughts on this?

 

[Jokerlsk]

Ugggh. That turns them off man. Your overanalyzing it. I would just flirt with other girls and keep your options open. It's not worth it if she doesn't care about you

 

[smoothtalker72]

i've been doing that, but i get the feeling that shes only reluctant go out with me because of the rumors that some jealous dude at work has been spreading. and its pretty hard when you've got a hectic schedule along with parents who are semi strict. maybe i am just excusing everything.

i've been tempted to call her, i havent tho. i guess you could say i cant get her off my mind. don't get me wrong, im not obsessing over her. its just that when talking to other girls im not as interested as i was before. im just not inclined to try to chat it up with them like i normally would be.

 

[smoothtalker72]

im not going to see her until next weekend. i feel like i should just suck it up and call her. any thoughts?

 

[smoothtalker72]

havent seen her or talked to her in about two weeks. think i should call her to at least show her that im still interested or just call it quits?

 

[smoothtalker72]

anyone? i know im hopeless in these types of situations but any advice is welcome