LionOne said:
It's more about the guy having zero value to offer these hot chicks, that is what this b!tch implies. Why the hell would ugly b!tch tell a guy go and make urself more interesting? Guys who are interesting score hotter girls. Then she says go to develop yourself, make urself more interesting (read: attractive) and come back then. Yeah, I agree that "getting to know them as person" is big chick AFCism and doesn't really help anyone.
I agree with AlekNovi. If you are total dumbazz then go to hangout with other guys and befriend some girls just to get an idea of basic human interactions. The right road is to go and build social value first BUT this should be done while learning some "gaming". This is why the article is just half finished.
Sure a very good point. The trouble with most women's advice isn't that it's wrong. It's half finished. They tend to forget the alpha parts. Things they aren't very consciously aware of, for example they say
"I want a
man to approach me and make me feel like the most beatifull woman in the world" (unfinished part =but this has to be a strong, charismatic
man who doesn't take my ****, who isn't needy, and can dump me at any second, a man who isn't afraid to put me at my place where I get all testy).
What a guy reads it as: "Buy me 200 roses everytime we meet and tell me how much you like 23 times a minute"
Is it the woman's fault because she gave that advice? Well if you say she didn't finish it (by explaining that this only applies to an attractive man), than yes.
But when women say
man, they make a pressuposition that ASSUMES all those qualities like alpha, strong, doesn't take ****, doesn't care what the woman thinks.
A "male" who doesn't have those qualities... she doesn't even label a "man"... she terms him a "guy", a "boy".
It's somewhat guys' fault they read what women say wrongly. A woman doesn't do it on purpose.
Here's an example. If you were asked what would be the perfect way for a woman to seduce you... you'd say:
"Well.. she would come to my house with the sexiest possible lingerie, wearing nothing on top of it. Shé'd hold two beers in each hand... walk into the door... and immediately jump down and start sucking on my member, while making the sexiest imaginable noises... and then she'd call over her best friend and they'd both start groping you, and rubbing their tits in your face"
Ok... that's pretty correct right? You aren't lying when you give that advice are you? Ofcourse not. But you are ASSuming a playboy-like hot girl in your mind when you say that!
What if a 400 pounds 50 year old woman with moustaches and hairy body came and did that... you'd be yelling get the **** away from me. What if she and another woman like that started groping you? You'd be like aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah.... fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck get away from me b1tches... get away.
It's the same thing with women's advice... they assume an attractive man when they say it.
But here's the good news. An attractive man being attractive is only 10-15% based on his looks, and 90% based on his personality and social skills.
So when you read women's advice... assume "attractive man". How do you become attractive? Integrate the DJ bible.
