From someone that's been around the block a time or 5:
I really don't think there is any way for a man to totally protect his heart. Having 2 in the kitty, Roissy style, helps. But that woman that you really dig, that you are really 'into', well unless you are a total AFC, she only comes around once in a great while. When she does, if your feelings are reciprocated, all of this seduction shiznit is pretty much unnecessary. Her interest is going to feed your confidence in such a way that you are going to win that game going away and you'll never even have to sweat it. That's the thing about confidence, it's real easy to have when the situation verifies 'demonstrated ability'. That's our social proof. It's proof in the value of ourselves.
But it doesn't always go down like that. Eventually, you run into that woman that you are really into and she is hot/cold, changing her mind, unsure. And you go to work, and you tell yourself: "I am above what she thinks of me. My confidence is unshakable. I believe in myself. I will not falter."
LOL. All BS, just give it some time, brother. I don't care how cool you think you are. It will wear on you, and it will grind you down. And if you let it, it will ruin you. And you might have some success with some of the techniques that are out there, but that success will sure as shiznit be temporary and you will just be setting yourself up for a greater fall. And you can have 10 in the kitty, 50, 100... it doesn't matter because deep down you really don't care that much about those other birds.
Pretty soon you're in over your head, and now it's just a matter of time. All of that emotion, it's gotta go somewhere. You'll be acting like an AFC soon enough, and then you will blame yourself, and you'll end up way out there. Humiliated. Beaten. And a hell of a lot worse for the wear.
Don't go chasing waterfalls, friends. Go for the ones that like you right now, as you are. Go for the ones that you don't always have to be at your best to get with. You are not going to be at your best all the time. No one is! If you have to be at your best to get with a woman, you will fail. I promise you, you will fail.
I really don't think there is any way for a man to totally protect his heart. Having 2 in the kitty, Roissy style, helps. But that woman that you really dig, that you are really 'into', well unless you are a total AFC, she only comes around once in a great while. When she does, if your feelings are reciprocated, all of this seduction shiznit is pretty much unnecessary. Her interest is going to feed your confidence in such a way that you are going to win that game going away and you'll never even have to sweat it. That's the thing about confidence, it's real easy to have when the situation verifies 'demonstrated ability'. That's our social proof. It's proof in the value of ourselves.
But it doesn't always go down like that. Eventually, you run into that woman that you are really into and she is hot/cold, changing her mind, unsure. And you go to work, and you tell yourself: "I am above what she thinks of me. My confidence is unshakable. I believe in myself. I will not falter."
LOL. All BS, just give it some time, brother. I don't care how cool you think you are. It will wear on you, and it will grind you down. And if you let it, it will ruin you. And you might have some success with some of the techniques that are out there, but that success will sure as shiznit be temporary and you will just be setting yourself up for a greater fall. And you can have 10 in the kitty, 50, 100... it doesn't matter because deep down you really don't care that much about those other birds.
Pretty soon you're in over your head, and now it's just a matter of time. All of that emotion, it's gotta go somewhere. You'll be acting like an AFC soon enough, and then you will blame yourself, and you'll end up way out there. Humiliated. Beaten. And a hell of a lot worse for the wear.
Don't go chasing waterfalls, friends. Go for the ones that like you right now, as you are. Go for the ones that you don't always have to be at your best to get with. You are not going to be at your best all the time. No one is! If you have to be at your best to get with a woman, you will fail. I promise you, you will fail.