squirrels
Master Don Juan
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Be careful where you focus your thoughts, especially when it comes to women. If you don't, you run the risk of getting addicted to a bad situation.
One-itis is the classic example of this. You fall head-over-heels for some girl, but for whatever reason, you don't hit it off with her right away. Maybe you were shy. Maybe you got rejected. Maybe she would go out with you, but she lives too far away, or she has a boyfriend/husband she's trying to get rid of, or her job, etc, etc...
So you try to work on it, try to "make the situation right", but after a while, you've been turned away and frustrated so many times that you become ACCUSTOMED to the feelings of failure and frustration. You may even become addicted to them...they become so much a part of your interaction with women that you actually seek them out! You start subconsciously failing on purpose because your mind has developed a habit...subconsciously you start thinking, "failure and frustration = love".
Maybe you've been married to a girl for 2 or 3 years and she's constantly nagging and starting drama. If you stay IN that situation, if you become accustomed to it, you may find yourself thinking, "drama + misery = love". Then you're STUCK. You become addicted to a bad situation...and even if you break up with the woman at the center of the problem, unless you exert some will-power, you will simply seek out another woman who provides the same kind of stimulation for you.
STOP forming these bad habits. Stop falling in love with women who make you feel bad. Exert some will-power and demand women step up to YOUR level. If you feel unhappy in your relationship or in an association with a woman, GET OUT. Don't stay until you start to identify with the stimulus and accept the misery as part of who you are.
Set the standard of how you want your life to run. Be free, be happy, and be strong, and any woman who offers you anything less, kick her to the curb. Women aren't serious enough business to suffer the rest of your life, to WASTE your life for.
If she's not willing to rise to your level, to reflect the level of freedom, happiness, and strength you show in your own life, she's not compatible with you in the first place. And if she does...can you think of a better situation to be addicted to?
Every feeling you bring into your life, every person you associate with, is like a drug. Choose carefully the ones you want to be hooked on for the rest of your life.
One-itis is the classic example of this. You fall head-over-heels for some girl, but for whatever reason, you don't hit it off with her right away. Maybe you were shy. Maybe you got rejected. Maybe she would go out with you, but she lives too far away, or she has a boyfriend/husband she's trying to get rid of, or her job, etc, etc...
So you try to work on it, try to "make the situation right", but after a while, you've been turned away and frustrated so many times that you become ACCUSTOMED to the feelings of failure and frustration. You may even become addicted to them...they become so much a part of your interaction with women that you actually seek them out! You start subconsciously failing on purpose because your mind has developed a habit...subconsciously you start thinking, "failure and frustration = love".
Maybe you've been married to a girl for 2 or 3 years and she's constantly nagging and starting drama. If you stay IN that situation, if you become accustomed to it, you may find yourself thinking, "drama + misery = love". Then you're STUCK. You become addicted to a bad situation...and even if you break up with the woman at the center of the problem, unless you exert some will-power, you will simply seek out another woman who provides the same kind of stimulation for you.
STOP forming these bad habits. Stop falling in love with women who make you feel bad. Exert some will-power and demand women step up to YOUR level. If you feel unhappy in your relationship or in an association with a woman, GET OUT. Don't stay until you start to identify with the stimulus and accept the misery as part of who you are.
Set the standard of how you want your life to run. Be free, be happy, and be strong, and any woman who offers you anything less, kick her to the curb. Women aren't serious enough business to suffer the rest of your life, to WASTE your life for.
If she's not willing to rise to your level, to reflect the level of freedom, happiness, and strength you show in your own life, she's not compatible with you in the first place. And if she does...can you think of a better situation to be addicted to?
Every feeling you bring into your life, every person you associate with, is like a drug. Choose carefully the ones you want to be hooked on for the rest of your life.