Don't ever show you hand...need advice

[epic_barrels]

So this morning, she intiated contact and sends me a text..not really saying much of anything. I responded to it 2 hours later...just being cool. she never responded to that. I feel like she was "testing the waters"

I really feel like giving her a call. I feel like she is sensing that I am just playing a silly game with her right now. I am trying to convey that I dont give a damn and dont need her.

I guess if she liked me enough at one time, she needs to miss me. I will keep playing it cool and do my best not to think about her.

 

[Falcon25]

She is not interested, move on. Girls who are interested act a lot more enthusiastic.

 

[scorpio1138]

I really feel like giving her a call. I feel like she is sensing that I am just playing a silly game with her right now. I am trying to convey that I dont give a damn and dont need her.

Don't call her. And don't reply to her texts for at least a day now. Also don't answer if she calls you.
Let her leave a message.

Chics play games with us ALL THE TIME....have some fun with it and give her some back.
This will probably drive her crazy and want you more. Don't think about a future with her, think
about how many more lays you can get. Call me insane but I enjoy stuff like this and how they
react when the table is turned.

 

[PRMoon]

So this morning, she intiated contact and sends me a text..not really saying much of anything. I responded to it 2 hours later...just being cool. she never responded to that. I feel like she was "testing the waters"

I really feel like giving her a call. I feel like she is sensing that I am just playing a silly game with her right now. I am trying to convey that I dont give a damn and dont need her.

I guess if she liked me enough at one time, she needs to miss me. I will keep playing it cool and do my best not to think about her.

Don't contact or respond to her anymore. You're infatuation with her is digging you into a proverbial ditch. It's not enough to seem like you don't care. You actually have to not care yourself. I know that's harder then it sounds because it's obvious that you do but you have to beat that feeling down because it's poisoning you. By responding to her at all you're feeding her ability to control the situation further then she is currently. Don't txt or call her at all and when when you two are at work she should feel inclined to talk to you.

Also have you been talking to other girls like you should be? If not then you're doing yourself a HUGE disservice. By letting this girl dominate your thoughts and strategy you start giving into solo attraction leading to irrational behavior. Once you fall into that pit, it's very hard to get yourself out, believe me. The best way to counteract that is to find some other girls to right the ship so to speak. By talking with others you'll start caring about her less, making your actions and judgments much clearer and more rational. You stand a much better chance for success this way.

 

[epic_barrels]

here is a little update..
so basically i havent contacted her yet...just reponding to her contacts after some time passes..making her laugh etc.

i also started dated this awesome girl..talk about feeling better about the situation! this other girl is really into me already.

now the first girl is asking me to "talk" next week. She has been asking what ive been up to and I sense that she thinks i may be dating someone else. I have never seen her act beta before like this.

I guess I should keep doing to same thing. At the same time, i feel like I am being too standoffish with her..Should I not initiate any contact at all?

Honestly, I really feel like giving this new girl a chance. At the same time, I dont want to lose the other one by acting too unavailable to the point where she gives up.

What do you recommend?

 

[bukowski_merit]

I guess I should keep doing to same thing. At the same time, i feel like I am being too standoffish with her..Should I not initiate any contact at all?

This is not a knock on you... But im beginning to get sickened by this type of stuff....

I fvcking cry vomit for every one of you who posts stuff like this...

Why live with this confusion?
You OWE this woman NOTHING!
BE STANDOFFISH!
Don't answer her questions.

Move on to this new girl (if she actually exists), and find others as well.... This old girl's memory will fade...

 

[DanelMadr]

Is it OK to show HAND?
"I LIKE YOU"
It depends on context.
How you say it. When you say that etc.

Mainly...is it a STATEMENT or QUESTION?

Are you just verbalizing your feelings like "Damn this feels good."

OR

Do you ask it to hear the same answer? aka insecurity

Dude, 3 months of "dating" and you can't even say "I like you"?
Were you kissing previously at least?

You can build IL slowly but 3 months...it is not even worth it, man. Been there, done that....HUUUUGE WASTE OF TIME. I'm not a big fan of spinning the plates but unless you do, you can waste YEARS of your life. And it is a waste because meanwhile you learn shyt...only how to over analyze and how to be a douche.

If she wouldn't want to see you looking on other girls, she would put her hand in your pants and her tongue in your mouth like very fast.

Learn to judge Interest Level more objectively and act accordingly.

 

[scorpio1138]

Epic, of course give the new girl a chance.....never make the mistake of passing up an opportunity even if your seeing someone else. The other girl is on a need to know and she doesn't need to know.

Don't call that other girl, keep making her contact you, make her squirm....have fun and fvck her as many times as you can, but keep that new girl going to. If you do it right you can have a lot of fun and no oneitus.

I would also advise not to break plans with one girl for another if you already made plans. Something I learned about recently.

 

[xdreamz]

it doesn't matter about the resistance you get, it's how you handle the resistance that will get you the love in the end.