I got a girl's number over the weekend and texted her my number. Last night she texted me out of the blue and my responses were light and simple. She was telling me how embarrassed she was cause she can "hardly remember the night". I played it off whatever cause i knew she remembered me and shes just looking for a response. She was basically saying all the wrong things to TEST me and I responded with "Is this your version of getting to know someone?". She of course kept trying to defend herself..blah blah. I gave her an opportunity to redeem herself and to meet me for a drink, she agreed but kept playing coy and the "I don't do ____". Finally I told her that i am out of suggestions and it sounds like you're not ready to hang out.
Today, she calls me and asks me to join her and her friends for a birthday drink. I told her that i'll see what I got going on and let her know. She then started to explain she has "boy issues" and that's why she was acting "different" when I asked her out. I find out she has a BOYFRIEND. Now most guys would say see yea and leave but I felt this would be a great opportunity to practice. Told her I had to go and got off the phone.
Later that night I hit her up to see where her and her girlfriends were at and I met up with them. These girls were hott and I could easily tell that they usually get their way with boys (not men). Some random guy picked up their tab like he is some baller, tried to get their number and got rejected. As the three girls and I walked out, one of them mentions that she "feels bad for the guy..." and I turned around and asked her "Why? cause he was using drinks to manipulate you?". It blew their mind. We end up at a new bar, the girls are drunk and the hottness is wearing off. One of them is a complete over-thinker, the other one is super drunk and the birthday chick sounds and act like she is from Beverly Hills. We finish our drinks and I ask the waitress to separate the check. The look on the girl's faces were priceless but I stood ground cause I'm not like every other guy who thinks they have to buy a woman a drink to show off. No thanks, i'm working on NOT being a validation seeker.
We end up leaving and I noticed the girl who has a boyfriend starting to grab my hand and I could tell the level of attractiveness is climbing for her but I made sure I kept my feet on the ground. She wanted to snapchat and was telling me how she wants to get married soon.. ehh..
no thanks. Dropped them off at their car and I was told I was a "cool guy" and "really nice", "glad we met"...etc. my ego hated it BUT i reminded myself that I am going to single myself away from the typical guy trying to win them over and I was relaxed throughout the whole time. Crack some jokes, rolled my eyes when they said something ridiculous..etc.
Good call?
Today, she calls me and asks me to join her and her friends for a birthday drink. I told her that i'll see what I got going on and let her know. She then started to explain she has "boy issues" and that's why she was acting "different" when I asked her out. I find out she has a BOYFRIEND. Now most guys would say see yea and leave but I felt this would be a great opportunity to practice. Told her I had to go and got off the phone.
Later that night I hit her up to see where her and her girlfriends were at and I met up with them. These girls were hott and I could easily tell that they usually get their way with boys (not men). Some random guy picked up their tab like he is some baller, tried to get their number and got rejected. As the three girls and I walked out, one of them mentions that she "feels bad for the guy..." and I turned around and asked her "Why? cause he was using drinks to manipulate you?". It blew their mind. We end up at a new bar, the girls are drunk and the hottness is wearing off. One of them is a complete over-thinker, the other one is super drunk and the birthday chick sounds and act like she is from Beverly Hills. We finish our drinks and I ask the waitress to separate the check. The look on the girl's faces were priceless but I stood ground cause I'm not like every other guy who thinks they have to buy a woman a drink to show off. No thanks, i'm working on NOT being a validation seeker.
We end up leaving and I noticed the girl who has a boyfriend starting to grab my hand and I could tell the level of attractiveness is climbing for her but I made sure I kept my feet on the ground. She wanted to snapchat and was telling me how she wants to get married soon.. ehh..
no thanks. Dropped them off at their car and I was told I was a "cool guy" and "really nice", "glad we met"...etc. my ego hated it BUT i reminded myself that I am going to single myself away from the typical guy trying to win them over and I was relaxed throughout the whole time. Crack some jokes, rolled my eyes when they said something ridiculous..etc. Good call?
