Don't Believe what she says , Watch what she does

[mohn]

Background
Mohn(me) ,Jack , Lili we were classmates , During college days i used to hang out with my bro's , spend most of my time with them and girls were never a priority for me .
Jack is kind of soy . he is 2 years younger then 2 of us . he is good at his studies but he is childish ,
Lili : is very shy and sensitive ,She had 3-4 beta guys surrounding her .

Story
so back in June ,I got a call from my old friend(jack) .he said lili is interested in you and she asked your phone number . Shell i text her number ?
I said , Don't do it .Give me her number I'll call her back .

After 1 month
In July , I called her , she immediately recognized me by my voice (I wondered was she thinking about me ? ) .Later we had a small talk and then at the end she asked is this my real phone number ( I assume during call she searched me in all social medias ) . and i said , nope and i didn't gave her my personal phone number .

She called jack and said good things about me .

Again After 1 Month
I called her . convo was going good , suddenly she begin to behave like complain box , she ranted about jack , her company,colleagues .... . I cutted out her in the middle and I pointed out her mistakes . She felt bad because all those events were happening because of her insecurities and rubbish behavior.
At the end of the call , I said ,Okey i'll call you again in next month , she said , You can call me any time . FOr that i replied i'm busy with my work ,let's keep it to next month .

She told how i was smart , how i pointed out her problems to jack .By this Jack was pissed off by me .

then after a month(september) i called her , she didn't picked up , she texted me saying she'll call me back in few minutes . which she didn't do

Again I waited for a month(October) , called her , she didn't picked up , and no response ....


Well I'm wondering whats wrong here . I was never needy ,i used to play by my rules , She enjoyed our convo's . Yet she's trying to ghost me .

 

[Knight of Roses]

You waited too long, she lost interest and is banging Chad.

 

[mohn]

Right , I should've made a date plan right after First call ,But back in July due to COVID lock down it was pretty risky and I insisted .

 

[Romanemp22]

Agree you waited for too long, i mean if your calls were from week to week and not months maybe you would ask her out early on

 

[SW15]

Yes, you waited too long. Women have short attention spans. If she uses swipe apps, she has hundreds of men in her orbit. Even if she isn't actively using swipe apps, if she's under 30 or 35 and above average, she can probably generate enough interest, even in the COVID era.

What a woman does is way more important than what she says.

That really isn't applicable in this setting though.

 

[bat soup]

Why didn't you just meet up with her and bang instead of calling once a month to chat?

 

[mohn]

Why didn't you just meet up with her and bang instead of calling once a month to chat?

If she lived in my city i would've met her .But She lives in a different city & it requires 4 hrs of journey .

I was calling her every month to make sure her interest level is high .

Probably that was my mistake i over did it and she lost interest .

 

[mohn]

Yes, you waited too long. Women have short attention spans. If she uses swipe apps, she has hundreds of men in her orbit. Even if she isn't actively using swipe apps, if she's under 30 or 35 and above average, she can probably generate enough interest, even in the COVID era.

What a woman does is way more important than what she says.

That really isn't applicable in this setting though.

Agree , I messed up

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I was calling her every month to make sure her interest level is high

You shouldnt really be making a thread about this, there are resources here called the DJ Bible and you clearly havent read it

 

[mohn]

She was quite , shy . she is kind of nerd girl who used to cry if she gets below 90% in exams .
Well She's 25 and her SMV is around 7. And hookups and banging before marriage isn't a tradition here.


I'm curious to know , If you were in my situation how do you deal with this

 

[mohn]

You shouldnt really be making a thread about this, there are resources here called the DJ Bible and you clearly havent read it

Right , I'm new here and Purpose of making this thread is to make sure learn from my mistake and I believe you guys have handled it in a better way and I'm curious to know what would you guys have done if you were in this kind of situation .

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Right , I'm new here and Purpose of making this thread is to make sure learn from my mistake and I believe you guys have handled it in a better way and I'm curious to know what would you guys have done if you were in this kind of situation .

Well no, your not teaching anyone anything, because weve all read the DJ bible or parts relevant to our game and you have not, your not teaching anyone anything.. Go read the bible, forget about this thread... Nobody here would chase after a woman 4 hours away, because again, weve read the DJ Bible.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Background
Mohn(me) ,Jack , Lili we were classmates , During college days i used to hang out with my bro's , spend most of my time with them and girls were never a priority for me .
Jack is kind of soy . he is 2 years younger then 2 of us . he is good at his studies but he is childish ,
Lili : is very shy and sensitive ,She had 3-4 beta guys surrounding her .

Story
so back in June ,I got a call from my old friend(jack) .he said lili is interested in you and she asked your phone number . Shell i text her number ?
I said , Don't do it .Give me her number I'll call her back .

After 1 month
In July , I called her , she immediately recognized me by my voice (I wondered was she thinking about me ? ) .Later we had a small talk and then at the end she asked is this my real phone number ( I assume during call she searched me in all social medias ) . and i said , nope and i didn't gave her my personal phone number .

She called jack and said good things about me .

Again After 1 Month
I called her . convo was going good , suddenly she begin to behave like complain box , she ranted about jack , her company,colleagues .... . I cutted out her in the middle and I pointed out her mistakes . She felt bad because all those events were happening because of her insecurities and rubbish behavior.
At the end of the call , I said ,Okey i'll call you again in next month , she said , You can call me any time . FOr that i replied i'm busy with my work ,let's keep it to next month .

She told how i was smart , how i pointed out her problems to jack .By this Jack was pissed off by me .

then after a month(september) i called her , she didn't picked up , she texted me saying she'll call me back in few minutes . which she didn't do

Again I waited for a month(October) , called her , she didn't picked up , and no response ....


Well I'm wondering whats wrong here . I was never needy ,i used to play by my rules , She enjoyed our convo's . Yet she's trying to ghost me .

Umm...this is easy. She was available at the time, you didn't PHYSICALLY meet and she lost interest because she cannot wait for eternity or your next lifetime or whenever else you were planning to actually meet in person.

 

[mohn]

Well no, your not teaching anyone anything, because weve all read the DJ bible or parts relevant to our game and you have not, your not teaching anyone anything.. Go read the bible, forget about this thread... Nobody here would chase after a woman 4 hours away, because again, weve read the DJ Bible.

Thanks man

 

[backseatjuan]

Imagine a sales call to you and guy calls you every month and no deal is made. That would be crippy yea? First time ok like whatever second time fck you. Same thing happened. You have no clue what you are doing you just like a kid in a whre house everything around you is interesting but you don’t know what to do. Phone conversation is to establish some rapport let her know you alright and then immediately setup a date, all within 20 minutes.

 

[bat soup]

It sounds like back in June you should have got in your car and driven 4 hours to her city and banged her. Then you should have told her to meet you next time in your city. You could have made it a weekly or a fortnightly thing. By now you'd be bored of banging her and if she ghosted you, you might not even notice.

Instead of that you had such "great conversations" for so long without actually meeting up that she totally lost interest and/or some other guy swooped in.

 

[SW15]

Nobody here would chase after a woman 4 hours away, because again, weve read the DJ Bible.

I do not date anyone who lives more than 30 minutes by car (free flowing traffic estimate) from my apartment. That's about the absolute limit I find in terms of convenience factor. If I live more than 30 minutes from someone, it isn't going to work. The motivation just won't be there on either side to see each other with regularity. I have also chosen to live in one of the more singles dense area of my metro area.

 

[bat soup]

She was quite , shy . she is kind of nerd girl who used to cry if she gets below 90% in exams .
Well She's 25 and her SMV is around 7. And hookups and banging before marriage isn't a tradition here.


I'm curious to know , If you were in my situation how do you deal with this

She may be a nerd, but don't underestimate her. She obviously knows how to take advantage of men by giving the impression she might put out.

If hookups are not possible before marriage, then you need to ask your mother to speak to her mother and sign a contract awarding her half your wealth and a lifetime of obligations. Either that or leave the country.

 

[Spaz]

Y'all are always trying to fix this and fix that, trying to fix other people or situations so that everything goes ur way.

If it doesn't go ur way then you become miserable.

You become unhappy and end up here.

So many of you are trying to pluck grapes from its roots.

Not realising that things doesn't work that way.

But what would happened if yall could fix urself, and there's 2 choices, would you choose the path towards being miserable or happy?

If yall can't even comprehend this, then you deserve everything coming ur way.

 

[Tilex]

Keeping contact with people once a month is extremely superficial.
It's equivalent of having a monthly doctor's appointment.
Maybe you should send her a business card with the time and date of your next phone call.