Don't be pathetic

[resilient]

Men need to learn how to think.

I was a huge fan of Frank Herbert's cannon Dune series growing up. The science fiction books are amazing to read and I highly recommend the first book in the series. One of the things I liked about each chapter is the way he starts off with a thought-provoking quote by a political house or central figure in the epic series.

I'll quote my two favorites:

“Deep in the human unconscious is a pervasive need for a logical universe that makes sense. But the real universe is always one step beyond logic.”
― Frank Herbert, Dune

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

It's good to practice introspection well, so you can be ready for extrospection. There's a balance to develop that complements each side as to not favor one over the other.

 

[Doc Kas]

Read your posts. They are very intense and aggressive at times. Not a bad thing. I guess it's passion coming out.

I wish I had done the black book thing. Just to experience looking at women as numbers. I still need to get that **** out my system.

You dabble in magic? Like the Kabbalah? Psychology is great.

Props on being 6'2. Perfect height imo. Not exactly an accomplishment but I'm jelly nonetheless.

You sound like a younger me except I don't have the Tatts either and I didn't capitalise on my youth with passion and tenacity like you are.

I'm 32 now. Fuark bro, still need to get those Tatts and but I ain't getting taller at 5'10. Seems you fit the mould of what chicks are into these days.

Slay away my man.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

When I was younger, especially when I was a child, I would experience quite profound feelings of sympathy (well, pity really) when I would see someone less fortunate; particularly the homeless and the disabled.

As I've grown older, though I still have those impressions of the less fortunate, I now understand that some (obviously not the disabled) have not only facilitated their own situation, but continue to perpetuate it. Though society is slowly wakening, a lot of people are still very much under the influence of religious and political conditioning; though the resulting mentality often comes across as pathetic (and to an extent is in a lot of cases), it's often exacerbated, learned helplessness. Oftentimes, being down and out is the easiest place to remain, as there's little or nothing to lose - or at least that the mentality of a down and out.

Long and short, dealing with AFC's/betas/nice guys/white knights/MGTOWs/whiny woe-is-me b!tches is equivalent to dealing with a crack/smack addict/alcoholic; we can chew their ears off and advise forever and a day, but they have to be ready for change, willing to accept responsibility and put in some graft. Unfortunately there will always be an element that refuse to and never will change, but we can put that down purely to evolution, survival of the fittest Darwinism.

I've only got a certain amount of patience for helping others; it's usually about 6months, depending on the individual. After that, if I see no investment from the other end, they're on their own. If someone isn't even in a place to listen and absorb and invest in their own recovery, well, that's their problem, not mine. My time and effort is better spent elsewhere.

Though outwardly it does seem pathetic, the only thing I really feel for these kinds of people is pity.

 

[ubercat]

Everybody has their bad days. Everybody meets a girl who is the perfect poison for them. I'm always happy to help the bros. You show them a few tools and they decide to pick them up or not. I don't bother with the argumentative guys. If their minds aren't open it doesn't matter how much good advice you offer. I also think we get a lot of guys on the spectrum here so the ability to argue to the nth degree about the finest detail is their particular weakness and the irony is they can't see it

 

[NickAdams713]

Everybody has their bad days. Everybody meets a girl who is the perfect poison for them. I'm always happy to help the bros. You show them a few tools and they decide to pick them up or not. I don't bother with the argumentative guys. If their minds aren't open it doesn't matter how much good advice you offer. I also think we get a lot of guys on the spectrum here so the ability to argue to the nth degree about the finest detail is their particular weakness and the irony is they can't see it

You can only help someone who wants to be helped.

There are so many guys on here with these long stories and problems that have very simple solutions (like, don't just stand here, bust a move), but when given the advice, they balk. "Oh I need to see her in a group setting." Or it's, "oh, I really cannot ask her out because her roommate is suicidal." Etc. These people are just making excuses for their behavior because they want everything easy. They don't want to risk rejection. They're afraid.

What they cannot see, since they have blinders on, is that that fear of leaving their comfort zone is precisely what's holding them back. Rejection isn't the end of the world. All of us who are schooled to the game, and even those it comes natural to, understand that rejection is just part of it all. Here's a little secret for you "scared of rejection" dudes. When you ask a girl out and you make her reject you, she actually has MORE respect for you after she rejects you. Women respect boldness and confidence--even when they're ultimately NOT interested, they end being more (even if it is slightly) interested than they were before if you ask them out in a suave "devil may care" way.

And when you get rejected, (and if you wanna be a playa, you will) don't act like it hurt your feelings. Simply smile at her and say "cannot blame me for trying, can ya?" And then move on to the next one.

Stop living in fear. Stop wishing everything was easy and handed to you on a silver platter. Stop caring. You will be amazed at how easy this **** gets.