Don of Truth needs advice on a flaker !

[Don of Truth]

I got a flaker on my hands.

Flaked on a "get together" with me 3 days ago. I called her from the place and was just messin around saying if she forgot to set her clock forward (it was daylight savings time the night before), and told her I'd be there another 30 min (it was a bookstore).

Haven't called her since. She hasn't called.

I've taken her to lunch and paid for lunch but at the time I took her as an aquintance and I was the one who invited so I paid.
I have no quam with this as I would do that for anyone I invite to lunch.
I haven't said anything about dates since I want to know if she is worth dating. I know that the flaking doesn't look good.

If I were to tell her what I want to say...I'd tell her that I'm not mad, pissed..etc...BUT she did waste my time and that I was under the impression that she was a "quality" woman and by flaking she is doing the opposite of what I desire in women.

What do you think ? That is what I would say.

Now, I know that there is something about me that probably dropped her interest level. She asked if I live alone, roommates, etc...

For the past 3 months I've had to shack up with the 'rents since I had a major legal expense and the lease ended at the last place I was renting (with my roommate not renewing).
I made the plans for the get together AFTER she knew. She sounded fine with it
Now...I don't like to lie. Not my style. So I told her the truth.
BUT...even though she knows I'm staying with my parents..in my mind..I believe I can STILL get her.

LOL..don't give me any sh*t about the parents thing. It will be only for another month or so.

What ya guys think ?

 

[PlayerSupreme]

Haven't called her since. She hasn't called.

Nothing more needs to be said or done! You can see the truth is this.

Why waste a moments time over this situation?

 

[Don of Truth]

Originally posted by PlayerSupreme
Haven't called her since. She hasn't called.

Nothing more needs to be said or done! You can see the truth is this.

Why waste a moments time over this situation?

Well, I am interested in learning from this.
As I said, I still think I can keep this thing going. I would like to see if I can ...even if just for sh*ts and giggles.

So what I'm asking is ...what would probably be the best course of action to take to increase the probability of keeping her interest or increasing it.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Don't cal her - she should call you and apologize - this is what you should learn from this!

 

[Don of Truth]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Don't cal her - she should call you and apologize - this is what you should learn from this!

Now, what about this thing I've been reading about called "confident persistance".

What is your take on that ?
If I was going to make a call....and I got her answering machine I would say something like: " helllllooo (a funny voice)...I'm still heeerreee...pick up, pick up, pickuppickuppickup....you're a bad bad girl, a very bad girl for flaking on me. Tisk tisk tisk, shame on you ! Now call me so we can discuss your "punishment". Bye.

As I like to have FUN in life, I actually like this idea.

 

[baracus]

You still think you can keep this thing going??? You need a reality check.

Don't say a thing to this girl! If you really are interested in learning from this experience, then you will leave well enough alone. Trust me, whatever "thing" you think is going on between you two is completely one-sided.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

I believe in confident persistence, but I believe moreso that one should not pander to disrespect - do you see the difference?

You were disrespected!

 

[Don of Truth]

What is reality ?

Originally posted by baracus
You still think you can keep this thing going??? You need a reality check.

But the thing is ...I don't give a rats azz what anyone else's or the girl's "reality" is.
I have my own reality. But thanks for the input.

 

[am4591]

Why would you even want to get anything going with somebody who neither shows up nor calls? There's a difference between confident persistance and being a doormat.

 

[Don of Truth]

Originally posted by am4591
Why would you even want to get anything going with somebody who neither shows up nor calls? There's a difference between confident persistance and being a doormat.

Just to see if I can. LOL

But I have yet to try any confident persistance too.
I guess if I would let her flake on me more then 2 or 3 times then yeah...I can agree being a doormat.

I'm actually at a point where I do not want any responsibility (std's, pregnancy) that comes with sex. I'm open to whatever else that has low std risk, but I'm not looking to have sex right now.

Plus...my career interest is therapy and counceling so on another note..if I don't get intimate with her I at least would like to keep a friendship and see if I am as good as I think I am when it comes to therapy. She does need some

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Did you read my above post - you have been disrespected!! Keep your dignity!

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

FVCK HER!!!

I mean that both literally and figuratively speaking of course...

 

[Don of Truth]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Did you read my above post - you have been disrespected!! Keep your dignity!

Ok. Ok.
I get the point.