I don't think it's the way! ALl the seduction communities tell you to master your confidence/inner game. What I need is Outer Game: What to say? And if I got answers, what to say next? And then after it? And after that?
It's all about making others feeling good. I can't make this. I was an outsider in schools and kindergarden. I couldn't make others feel good. Therefore I searched for an alternative and went for the logical part. But it didn't work either, but it was less hurting than the first way. So, I was socially isolated until others integrated me because of other reasons (for e.g. growing their values by DHVing or being the Alpha).
Alright: I have no stories to tell to make women connect to me. Else, I can't connect with people, but I'd like having at least a woman in my life and having a nice relationship. Of course for sex as well.
SO to me: I don't know what to talk about with people in general. And with girls or women, I don't know as well. There, you have to flirt and seduce them. I can't do that. I've seen in a documentary, that there are some women who are nymphomaniac. They told in the report, that men came, approached them. Whenever they said something that made their sexual hormones fluid, they had sex.
Alright, I can't talk to anyone by chance. I just talk if I want something from people. In "Rules of the Game" I had to do every day an exercise. There, I approached any woman and talked with her even about her clothing. Or about her necklace and so on. I never had done something like that. I told a guy/acquaintance about it (who tells me to be my friend, but never invites me voluntarily) and he told me, what I could have added to make it better/more romantically. Now, I have almost no contact to him. After 8 of those 30 days, I stopped cause I felt that my self-esteem was weak, my self-confidence grew and grew. I was even lucky, that strangers talked to me. But I never got a number.
I don't know what to do to get a woman. It depresses me seeing other guys having GFs and I haven't. Seduction community doesn't help me as well. The ones tell me to use routines, while the others mean to say anything naturally. Actually, I can't say anything by chance. The only thing I can do is: When I see a hot/nice looking girl/woman, I smile to her. The maximum I can do is saying "hi". That's it. The next step would be saying "What's up?". But nothing more. Typically AFC, as I've heard. But how else to go on?
Nothing comes into my mind.
I never had any success socially and also not emotionally.
I think Pook will make me THINK another way. But my brian still remains paralysed. It was never the case that I had any fear. No approach anxiety. I just don't know what to talk about with ANYONE! If boys, men, girls or women. No idea! I was even approached my girls. But I couldn't lead the conversation in the next level. Once, a woman held the conversation going. It's like I'm conversationally disabled. I'm like a robot. I can answer. I also say my opinions - but nobody wants to hear them. I'm in the uni the buh-man, cause I always add my opinion to the stuff the professor tells. I don't agree with everything. i always think with my brain, while others think "The prof is right! He's the leader in this room and that's it.
In night clubs, I just say "Hi, what's up? You were looking nice, therefore I came to you." I get responses and a thanks and then the girls go away with an excuse. In reality, the go anywhere else. They wanna get rid off me.The same does Mystery tell in his original and old "mystery Method" and how to hook up.
The aim is it to make people feel well. Those who can't make this happen are failed. That's possible with humor. But I don't have that. There is high value humor and goofy silly humor. I use the last one. Girls are attracted to the high value humor.
Maybe, I just should start using the "Rules of the Game" and getting social. After a time, I could get the positive effect and wheel so well, that I can be enthusiastic. Well, all without humor! When I talk, I'm rather the serious guy than the funny guy. One guy told me once,"It makes fun with u, but please don't try making jokes! You are simply not funny!"
I'm enthusiastic, in good mood. That's all. But not funny. Swinggcat tells it truely: You need to lead, being humorous and using attraction tools. All 3 work. One left out, nothing works!
About me: I even had interesting hobbies, and people didn't care! I was in Greenpeace, and guys just said: "Look at him: He's at Greenpeace, ....." The other one saiud: "Wow! That's great!"
But did they invite me anywheree? No. You must be a fun guy. Not what you do, but what you say! People must feel great with you. You must be funny. Wherever you are, there must be the show - extroversion and alpha-like.
Whenever I try to show women that I like them/find them sexy, they go away or make fun of me.
In school, uni, I can talk about learning stuff. But that's it. A bit, I can talk about how their day/holdays have gone. But that's it. Perhaps I should use routines. Then, I'd be a totally social robot. And I could live with that.
Therefore, I don't look for friends any more. I hope, women accept me as myself, even if I haven't got friends. But the humor factor is very complicated. I can get into good mood. And I don't know how to make others get in that mood.
At the moment, I've given up hope and seem staying alone my life. So, hooker is an alternative. But that would only be sex. No emotional connection. No body contacts. Nothing. No kissing. No true love. I don't know how to get true love. Mystery and the PUAs praise so much. But at the end, you have to have many basics as well. If you haven't those basics, you simply can't succeed. It seems like you can't succeed without friends. But I hope, there is one.
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