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Does your car matter? Especially when you're close to your 30's?

DoofusDonutDude

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Hello,
I live in a somewhat conservative country, here a car is usually something that is considered a bit of a status symbol and you're expected to be "financially settled" by your 30s. I am going to turn 29 in 3 months and was going to change cars.

One thing i noticed is, i was discussing cars to purchase when i was talking to my college buddies during a recent meet up

Until we were talking small cars or good medium sized sedans, the one female friend in our group was completely uninterested but as soon as i started considering buying a good SUV suddenly she was very interested in the topic and insistent that i should consider the SUV. Her interest actually was quite surprising!

Just to be clear, she is a pretty above average looking woman who is doing very well financially on her own and so isn't a typical "gold digger" but i was rather taken aback with a woman's sudden interest in cars (at least the fine cars) , when she barely knows anything about cars

Just wondering, does your car matter when you're trying to get dates/lays?
 

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Everything matters to some degree or another, mainly because different women will place different levels of importance on things, which you have no way of knowing where they will draw the floor for each thing and say that's too low to date someone.

Typically as long as your car isn't some 1990 hooptie or rustbucket or has everything broken inside of it(windows/radio, etc) you should be OK. You don't need a BMW.
 

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They don't care about cars for the same reasons men care about cars. The only care about comformity and cars are nothing more than a status symbol to them. Women do not care about motorcycles either, unless it's a super flashy expensive sport bike.

Until we were talking small cars or good medium sized sedans, the one female friend in our group was completely uninterested but as soon as i started considering buying a good SUV suddenly she was very interested in the topic and insistent that i should consider the SUV. Her interest actually was quite surprising!

Just to be clear, she is a pretty above average looking woman who is doing very well financially on her own and so isn't a typical "gold digger" but i was rather taken aback with a woman's sudden interest in cars (at least the fine cars) , when she barely knows anything about cars
That about sums it up. Women are NPCs, they like whatever they're told to like by society. Accordingly, they think SUVs are good cars despite being hunks of shvt. This is the exact same reason why the majority of women use iPhones and look down on men who use Android devices even though Androids have superior hardware and software for half the price.

Women only car about cars insofar as the status they provide which is based on whatever their narrow minded view that good = whatever is popular and comformist.

Its not about cars, its about "status" or something. That´s why most girls prefer Iphones even if the case could be made that some androids are both better and cheaper.
Pretty much what I was going to say.
 
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Typically as long as your car isn't some 1990 hooptie or rustbucket or has everything broken inside of it(windows/radio, etc) you should be OK. You don't need a BMW.
Yep, but whatever you drive, keep it clean, tidy, and smelling 'good'
(I personally prefer fruit-smelling air-fresheners to anything floral, or musky, or any of that 'Aqua'/'New-Car'/'Black-Ice'/Whatever.....)

I was once told by a woman... "If your car had been minging (untidy/dirty/smelly/etc) there's no way I would have set foot in your house".
That stuck with me, and I always keep it clean and tidy, with either a Cherry or Citrus freshener.
 

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I bought a convertible mustang specifically to pick up girls. It tends to impress kids and other guys though I will say it has worked a couple of times.

I would say its not a big factor as long as you dont drive a POS
 

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Its not about cars, its about "status" or something. That´s why most girls prefer Iphones even if the case could be made that some androids are both better and cheaper.
Man I have a Samsung s23 ultra and I'm literally getting ghosted after pulling numbers on dating apps because I don't have an iPhone lmao. Little do they know is the 100k boat in the garage and a 4 year old house. Hold the frame gents.
 

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Man I have a Samsung s23 ultra and I'm literally getting ghosted after pulling numbers on dating apps because I don't have an iPhone lmao. Little do they know is the 100k boat in the garage and a 4 year old house. Hold the frame gents.
This is what I call an effective filter. Any gal who is superficial enough to make judgements based on a phone brand is almost guaranteed to cause you problems down the line.

Team android for the win
 

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Hello,
I live in a somewhat conservative country, here a car is usually something that is considered a bit of a status symbol and you're expected to be "financially settled" by your 30s. I am going to turn 29 in 3 months and was going to change cars.

One thing i noticed is, i was discussing cars to purchase when i was talking to my college buddies during a recent meet up

Until we were talking small cars or good medium sized sedans, the one female friend in our group was completely uninterested but as soon as i started considering buying a good SUV suddenly she was very interested in the topic and insistent that i should consider the SUV. Her interest actually was quite surprising!

Just to be clear, she is a pretty above average looking woman who is doing very well financially on her own and so isn't a typical "gold digger" but i was rather taken aback with a woman's sudden interest in cars (at least the fine cars) , when she barely knows anything about cars

Just wondering, does your car matter when you're trying to get dates/lays?
The only cars that could potentially have a large impact are very high end or clunker. Either way, do not get into major debt to impress women who place a lot of value on it. I do not know your financial situation but don't fall into the trap of a high car payment. Just diverting the money of a car payment to investing has a major long term impact. Buy something a few years old with 30-40k miles and you'll avoid most of the depreciation.
 

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IMO a big difference. Rent a Kia Soul and a BMW i8 for a week and see which one makes panties drop. This is a no brainer. Of course don't spend money you don't have, but a car is probably the most basic status symbol. They don't even know or care about your house unless you pull out the deed and show them you paid it off. Bside you can't pull your house up to ze club.
 

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Yes. Big difference between dropping her off to a family gathering in a new BMW compared to a Citroen C3!
 

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In the UK it is somewhat a status symbol most people want to be driving bmw , mercades or Audi no matter the cost

Lease deals and car finance is very popular and I know a lot of people that will happily pay up to £500 a month for a car

at 31 I could afford to buy a bmw outright but it would be a huge outlay , I don't particularly enjoy driving , a car depreciates very very quickly and its also a fvcking nightmare finding somewhere to park it 24/7

Whilst it can impress and its certainly an ego / confidence boost to have a "nice car"

Ive always thought that only the wrong type of woman would be very impressed and want to be with you simply because you have a fancy car
 

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In the UK it is somewhat a status symbol most people want to be driving bmw , mercades or Audi no matter the cost

Lease deals and car finance is very popular and I know a lot of people that will happily pay up to £500 a month for a car

at 31 I could afford to buy a bmw outright but it would be a huge outlay , I don't particularly enjoy driving , a car depreciates very very quickly and its also a fvcking nightmare finding somewhere to park it 24/7

Whilst it can impress and its certainly an ego / confidence boost to have a "nice car"

Ive always thought that only the wrong type of woman would be very impressed and want to be with you simply because you have a fancy car
Right, even if you do attract a woman by a high status car, when she realizes thats all you got, she is not staying long term either
 

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I'm more and more believing that most women in their late 20s through their 30s dont want a guy who has all his shyte together. They want a fixer upper.

So go on and drive that beat up Honda Civic, live in that one bedroom ran down apartment, make minimum wage. The seem to dig it.

Dont be like me with a new truck, Audi, boat, paid off house and other properties and make good money. God forbid you have a stable and drama free life and solid hobbies.

Chicks will repel from you unless your somewhat a broken project for them to fix.
 

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No, he's just bragging on a bunch of random people on the Internet, and pretty much saying all of that and money, can't get a chick cause he's not attractive and girls be using him as beta bucks
You clearly missed my point. Aren't you the guy that was called out for lying and claimed to be leaving the board? Or was that someone else?

And I still have chicks btw. It's just that a lot want a fixer upper, like I said before.
 

BoomToTheMoonAlice

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Is cool bro, I'm the broke guy who steals your women. Your point is valid.

Guys like me are nightmare fuel for guys like you. ;)

We're like cats, we do it because we're a$$holes. We bag your daughters in your Audi while they're wearing your wife's lingerie and then we eat all the food in your fridge and p1nch one off in your executive toilet. Been there done that, got your t-shirt to match. :D


At one point Daddy tried to persuade daughter with a lot of money and a suitor that owned a yacht and half the business in the Puerto Vallarta mall. She chose to get her back blown out by a guy that lived in a dingy motel room and took the public 'limo' to the beach on weekends. Your problem is you're BORING.

[Not my wife btw]

Pics or it didn't happen. ;)
 
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I only drive the biggest piece of junk I can find. People don't steal or break into pieces of crap. I also park beside the nicest car in the lot.
People also don't hijack pieces of crap. That is why I drive a beatup prius. No gang member has ever said, "lets go joy riding in that red prius. We can roll down the window and pump the music up"...
 
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