Does Walking away, NC or Ganji work on girls with daddy abandonment issues?
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Julius_Seizeher
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If you're to the point where you "concede" that NC or Ganji or whatever you want to call it is your only recourse, worrying about her reaction is a fool's errand. As I have said before, NC is the most overanalyzed concept in DJhood. Do you falter so much when ripping off a bandaid? No. And make no mistake, that's exactly what you're doing. This girl has been a substantial crutch for your ego, now she's gone and you are fighting madly to prop it back up.
Dude, women kill your initiative to succeed in life, "why should I be ambitious when I have a steady source of tang?" is a mindset I completely annihilated years ago. Quit wasting your time on this ONE girl, take a cold hard look at your OWN life and start making changes and MAKING THINGS HAPPEN. There is NOTHING under the sun more empowering, more ALPHA than taking the reigns of your own life and leading it where you want it to go. Who do you want to be? What do you want to do? These are the questions that should be flowing through your mind now.
Look man, breaking up svcks, but in this time you MUST put things back into perspective. Even if you have wasted a lot of time in your life, even if you must travel 1000 miles to get to the starting line, so be it. Decide now, that your resolution is that of steel, and that you WILL have the life that you want, and then set out learning and doing the things you need to do to get there. That is the mindset of NC, not "If I ignore her she'll come back to me! And the other guys she's fvcking will be history!"
But to answer your original question, NC "works" on every female. And I'm sure it has a profound effect upon girls with daddy abandonment issues.
But by the time (and if) she tries to come back, you honestly won't be buying what she's selling.
I got out of a 5 year LTR a year ago, with a girl who discovered at 13 that daddy had another family. When I finally nexted her a$$, it was like a sack of concrete was lifted from my mind and body. Of course, she was calling me 6 months later, but I never spoke to her. That is the simple irony of NC: When she comes back, you don't want her anymore.
So go into NC with the right mindset, that you are going to take full advantage of the time and the life you are given, and become that "flapping bird" that Anti-Dump spoke of.
Dude, women kill your initiative to succeed in life, "why should I be ambitious when I have a steady source of tang?" is a mindset I completely annihilated years ago. Quit wasting your time on this ONE girl, take a cold hard look at your OWN life and start making changes and MAKING THINGS HAPPEN. There is NOTHING under the sun more empowering, more ALPHA than taking the reigns of your own life and leading it where you want it to go. Who do you want to be? What do you want to do? These are the questions that should be flowing through your mind now.
Look man, breaking up svcks, but in this time you MUST put things back into perspective. Even if you have wasted a lot of time in your life, even if you must travel 1000 miles to get to the starting line, so be it. Decide now, that your resolution is that of steel, and that you WILL have the life that you want, and then set out learning and doing the things you need to do to get there. That is the mindset of NC, not "If I ignore her she'll come back to me! And the other guys she's fvcking will be history!"
But to answer your original question, NC "works" on every female. And I'm sure it has a profound effect upon girls with daddy abandonment issues.
But by the time (and if) she tries to come back, you honestly won't be buying what she's selling.
I got out of a 5 year LTR a year ago, with a girl who discovered at 13 that daddy had another family. When I finally nexted her a$$, it was like a sack of concrete was lifted from my mind and body. Of course, she was calling me 6 months later, but I never spoke to her. That is the simple irony of NC: When she comes back, you don't want her anymore.
So go into NC with the right mindset, that you are going to take full advantage of the time and the life you are given, and become that "flapping bird" that Anti-Dump spoke of.
ThatMysteriousGuy
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They're not games. You don't understand the concept.Confused said:
And, when you treat them as games they always end up backfiring and you get oneitis if you didn't have it already because most of your waking life is spent on reeling in some particular "Goddess" that is better than all the other THREE THOUSAND FOUR HUNDRED MILLION women walking this earth.
Girls with daddy abandonment issues often come running when you close them off. Then, its really easy to do something stupid, like get back with them or something.
And, for the love of God, quit using no-contact as some sort of 'tactic.' You guys just dont get it, sometimes. No contact means "NEXT." It means 'get out of my life bytch.' If a girl is causing that much drama, get the fvck away from her. Dont shut her off, hoping it will make her come running. Shut her off, hoping to find a better, newer, girl. If you are using this as a tactic, you are actually SUPPLICATING to her issues, which means you are a chode.
And, for the love of God, quit using no-contact as some sort of 'tactic.' You guys just dont get it, sometimes. No contact means "NEXT." It means 'get out of my life bytch.' If a girl is causing that much drama, get the fvck away from her. Dont shut her off, hoping it will make her come running. Shut her off, hoping to find a better, newer, girl. If you are using this as a tactic, you are actually SUPPLICATING to her issues, which means you are a chode.
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Good Stuff.
