DonJuan11 said:
You DJs who decide when you want to sleep with the girl amaze me. I really don't know how you do it when she has the stuff we want, and I'll probably never will understand. I have to say I'm jealous.
It's hard not to get pissed about it. Ignorance is definitely bliss when it comes to a girls past.
Yea she's got stuff you want, but you have stuff she wants, IE, a relationship with an awesome dude. I like to de-emphasize the importance of sex with a girl in the beginning stages. I know a lot of guys here think that the litmus test of being a DJ is if you can meet a girl and bang her the same night. That's just not that important to me (anymore). I've had enough sex to where sex with a new girl isn't that big of a deal anymore. When I was younger I thought that would give me confidence of fill some sort of hole. It didn't do either.
I show interest without coming off like I'm trying to bone her right now, tonight. I'm classy. At the end of the first date I kiss her/probably make out with her for awhile, then I leave. Second date pretty much the same. By this point she's usually intrigued that I haven't been trying to get into her pants ("He's so different! He's interested in me as a person, not me as a vagina!" Who knew women would respond to this? There's a fine line between doing this right, and being an AFC, but it's worth learning where that line is). If I'm still digging her, then I'll actually take her home, or go home with her on the third date(ish). This whole time I'm just hanging out and being the most fun guy she's ever met. That's pretty much the majority of my game. Of
course she wants to sleep with a guy like that. Why wouldn't she? I'm not even very smooth. I'm just really fun, and I have the balls to make a move when it's time.
In general you want her to be more into you than you are into her. Even if you're really into her, you can show interest without seeming like a puppy that would do anything for her.
Important distinction: The whole "I decide when and where a girl gets to have sex with me" thing is largely a croc. There might be some guys who can pull this off, but I don't want to be one of them. The girl herself and her attitudes and readiness to start up a relationship (of whatever nature) with a guy is a big variable.
This is out of your control. There is no formula that will work with 100% of women 100% of the time. People who say there is such a formula grossly underestimate women. Full stop. I look at it like this: if I meet a girl and she's ready to start a relationship and I might be her type, I know what to do to get her where I want her. That's about the level of game a guy should realistically expect of himself.