Does this girl like me?

[guyneedsadvice]

Hi, this is my first post. I just need some advice.

I met a girl at uni less than two weeks ago. I'm 20, she's 19. We studied in the library for a couple of hours, and during that time we got to know each other personally. She really seemed to enjoy talking and she was smiling a lot. She asked if I had a girlfriend, I said no. Afterwards, we got lunch and we talked more. When we parted ways at the end of the evening, I tried to shake her hand, but she hugged me instead.

That was about a week ago. Since then she's been texting me every day, asking me how my day is, and she sends me photos often (selfies, her bedroom, just what she's doing at the time).

A few days ago, we met to study again, and her best friend was with her (who is also a girl). She seemed more comfortable around me than last time, and kept touching me on the shoulder lightly and teasing/hitting me a bit. We studied for over 3 hours (we were sharing the same computer in the library) and she insisted that I move in close to her. I helped her out with an assignment, and we often locked eyes and smiled/laughed, and she teased me now and then (for instance she suddenly asked if there are any movies that scare me, and laughed/shoved me again when I said no). When we looked at each other and smiled, she often lifted her shirt (which she took off when we got inside) up to her face while she laughed, but she also looked at me. I caught her blushing a few times.

When we were about to leave, we got up and she asked me if I liked what she was wearing, I said yes. When we left, she threw her shirt on me because she thought I would be cold outside. I just gave it back because I wasn't really cold, then she put it back on. When we were walking outside, she held my hand at one point to "see if I was cold" and asked me if her hand felt cold too. I let go of her hand before she did. Her friend was still with us, but she was just on her phone most of the time. The girl often ran up to me to keep pace and kind of pressed her side to me so our bodies were touching, and she was laughing and joked about how her friend was texting her boyfriend all the time, or something.

We went to a place for dinner, and she took my hand to lead me inside (she didn't say anything when she did this). We ate, and she asked me if I had been on a date before. I said no, then she said something along the lines of "well it's just us today" and kind of put her arm around my shoulder. When we went out separate ways later on, she hugged me again and sent me a photo a few minutes later. At one point she suggest that we go to a club or something, so I know she is interested in more than just studying.

Sorry for the long post, but I want to know if she is interested or if she's just being friendly. She seems very comfortable with me entering her personal space; it's possible she is just like that with her friends but this was only one week after we met for the first time. Is it likely that she would want to touch me after only just meeting me? I never reciprocated her touching because I wasn't sure if it was appropriate. She has never mentioned having a boyfriend to me at all, so I'm pretty sure she is single, but I'm thinking of asking her next time I see her.

I don't really have any dating experience, so can someone help me out? I got her Facebook, Skype, Snapchat and Steam. I find her attractive and I want to let her know that I like her, but I don't want to seem creepy or inappropriate. Thanks.

 

[TheSlasher]

Don't ask her out. Don't tell her you like her. Let her do the work until the third date or fourth. And only ask her out if and only if you have something that is of your personal interest where you think she could tag along.

 

[guyneedsadvice]

I was thinking I would just meet her to study again, maybe in a couple of weeks. I'm pretty nervous about telling her I like her, so I probably won't do that.

 

[TheSlasher]

Cool. But remember this: the reason why it is best for your not to tell you like her, is not the because you're nervous. It's because it gets into girls' heads when they've got to figure out whether you like them or not. Just chill with her and never ever lose yourself in this bliss of attraction.

Read the Book of Pook while still early.

 

[guyneedsadvice]

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I'll just try to escalate our relationship a bit without making my intentions too "obvious."

 

[TheSlasher]

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I'll just try to escalate our relationship a bit without making my intentions too "obvious."

Read. The Book. Of Pook.

 

[Mike32ct]

She's definitely interested. All the signs point that way. While there are no guarantees, it sounds very good.

Do NOT come out and tell her you like her. Just go with the flow.

A common problem inexperienced guys have (and I certainly did too) is they are completely "hands off " ie no touching because they want to be gentlemen. But what you must understand is it IS gentlemanly to touch in a classy way. Women actually like it when its done right. To stay completely hands off for too long will land you in friendzone.

It's fine to do things like following:

1. Touch her forearm briefly while making a point.
2. Touch her shoulder when you get up to go the bathroom but will come back to her.
3. Touch the small of her back while walking or leading her through a doorway.

Those are just examples, not a checklist to follow. Less is more. One or two of these is ok to get you started. But it's a must to stay out of friendzone.

If you plan to go to a club with her, then the touch stuff will be way more than the above.

 

[devilkingx2]

there are only 2 things I've gotten from this post

1. that girl likes you a lot.

that's what is easily gleaned from the OP, it's so obvious but I guess I have a clarity that you don't because you're involved and im not.

2. your game is non-existent

I got that mostly from this:

I never reciprocated her touching because I wasn't sure if it was appropriate.

wtf? everything about that sentence is wrong.

you'd expect to see that in a book called "how to not get chicks for dummies" or a movie called "the friendzone"

 

[guyneedsadvice]

She's definitely interested. All the signs point that way.
It's fine to do things like following:

1. Touch her forearm briefly while making a point.
2. Touch her shoulder when you get up to go the bathroom but will come back to her.
3. Touch the small of her back while walking or leading her through a doorway.

I'm thinking of trying that next time I see her, I'll see how it goes.

2. your game is non-existent

I haven't tried anything yet because I've only known her for 9 days, but she's already touching me so it should be okay if I touch her as well?
I know that she has one male friend (whom she explicitly refers to as "friend"), but aside from that she doesn't hang out with guys much because she went to an all-girls school.

 

[pyros]

YES, she likes you dumbass. And I have to tell you that it is not very common to find a girl that shows that she likes so much as this one is doing, so enjoy it.

You should ask her out to go to grab an icebream, to have a drink, to do whatever just the two of you and kiss her.

But I forsee a complete disaster due to you abasolute lack of game and dating experience. Anyway, you should DO IT to get more practice.

Regards.

P.S.
Its funy to find guys that when they were 17 had banged a few girls...and other guys when they were 20 or more, had zero experience with women. Hilarious.

 

[TheGambino]

You need to make a move asap bro.

When your with her all you do is take her hand, lead her to a private spot and kiss her. that's all you gotta do.

 

[SeymourCake]

Please read the DJ Bible.

"Does this girl like me?" is not the question that a Don Juan ponders about.

It should be, "Do I like her?".

 

[JoeMarron]

Da fvck? Does she need to show up at your door naked begging you to fvck her silly? Of course she likes you. Don't be lame and make some grand display of your undying love for her, simply ask her out. No, don't ask her out, tell her "hey lets hang out sometime," set a date and you're in. No bullsh!t study session or anything like that. Do something fun with just the two of you; bowling, miniature golf, a walk in the park, play some video games, whatever. Stop being a pvssy and start touching her. If you're feeling extra ballsy go in for the kiss when you guys lock eyes. I won't lie, you're going to be awkward as hell doing all of this but since she likes you you'll be fine. Read the bible because you have much to learn but don't overthink it http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/. I get the feeling you're going to end up reading something and then overdoing it. Just follow your instincts. Your male ancestors have been successfully mating with women for thousands of years, you have the skills within you.

 

[devilkingx2]

I haven't tried anything yet because I've only known her for 9 days,

this is funny because I hugged a girl twice on the day I met her, and my friend was apparantly holding hands with a girl the day he met her.

but she's already touching me so it should be okay if I touch her as well?

OBVIOUSLY!!!!!! if she's touching you that's far beyond a green light, that's those light things they use to direct airplanes at night.

even if she didn't touch you it would probably be ok

you should touch her whenever and where ever you can, if she doesn't let you, it's either a personal issue(a phobia or psych issue or boyfriend or she's sick and needs to keep her distance or something) or she doesn't like you(far more likely than the other things)

generally, you should do to a girl whatever she'll let you do, always be pushing boundaries/limits and seeing how far you can go.

I know that she has one male friend (whom she explicitly refers to as "friend"), but aside from that she doesn't hang out with guys much because she went to an all-girls school.

excellent, that means she's probably thirsty as f***, single and the bar is low.

 

[guyneedsadvice]

Okay, I asked her if she wants to hang out. She says she's interested, but only if she brings a girl friend because she feels awkward around guys (very few male friends). It seems to me that she wants to get to know me better before we go out one-on-one, is this likely?

 

[VladPatton]

The guys gave great advice. But...bringing a friend is NOT a good sign. Cancel and make sure it is a 1 on 1. Look her in the eyes next time you study with her and ask her out to do something and make sure it is just you and her. The friend being there will be a complete buzzkill. That is in no way shape or form a date.

You're hanging out already too much with this girl and it is heading towards Friendzoneville. Study with her one more time and drop the date suggestion on her. This way you'll know if she wants to date you or just wants to have a little study buddy. Not that that's horrible, but at least you know where you stand.

And if she does go the study buddy route, you keep it strictly business and no more cutesy texts or pics. She needs to know you're not gonna be an orbiter.

Good luck and keep us posted.

 

[pyros]

Some pretty young women do this, they want to bring a friend to see if they both like you, see if your cool, and see if you're not a freak.

I've had this happen to me twice, and both times I cancelled because I did not want any friends of her coming along.
BUT doing this I did not ever see the girl again, so wrong move.
Now I would just agree, you go the three of you to have a drink or do whatever. This way she can analyse you, see if she likes you, see what you say, and see IF HER FEMALE FRIEND likes you.

Just go with the flow and have a nice time, and some days after this just ask her out ( the two of you). If she liked you, she will agree, if she doesn't or she wants to bring a friend again, you know she's not interested.

Dont make such a big deal. Learn from my mistakes (due to wrong advise from here).

 

[guyneedsadvice]

I told her I don't mind if her friend comes, but we haven't agreed on a specific date so I don't need to cancel anything yet. I assume the friend she wants to bring is her best friend, who I met last time. We talked a bit and she seemed to like me, or at least not dislike me (she was on her phone mostly).

I think she wants her friend to come along because she hasn't interacted with guys much and she feels more comfortable with a friend around. I am certain that if I insist we go out one-on-one, I will scare her off because she doesn't know me very well. I understand why she might feel anxious about meeting me by herself, especially at night. I'll probably just meet her and her friend and see how it plays out.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Sorry, dude, but based on the evidence thus far it looks like she's not into you.

I've had girls I've dated tell me they were shy, or got nervous around others, etc., and STILL showed up on dates solo. So, all this crap about her telling you she gets nervous, or hasn't interacted much with guys, etc. is just her nice, passive-aggressive way of letting you know she's not trying to have one-on-one date time with you. Now, you're probably thinking to yourself that she gave you a reasonable excuse - "Hey, it's not like we really know each other that well, she might be afraid I'll try something or need a friend there to help her with conversation!"

Once again, I call B.S.

Think REALLY hard about the situation - you're asking her out to a PUBLIC PLACE where there's less danger of anything happening than if you two were alone; furthermore, assuming she has any brothers, uncles, or a father, she's been in conversations with guys before. Yes, they are not guys that are trying to date her; but the point is, in her entire life you mean to tell me she's NEVER, EVER been in a conversation with a guy solo where there's not another girl around? Again, it's what she's wanting you to believe, but it's not true.

The majority of people here giving you advice have been through this same situation, with the same hope that the girl will become more comfortable around you with the friend there, and that eventually you two will be able to go out solo. It RARELY happens. Not saying it can't happen - heck, my mom's best friend in college wanted to set her up with my Dad and asked her to be there for the first date (where he cooked them dinner at his apartment - but in this case it wasn't a public date) - but just the fact that the friend was already technically there when you two hang out and she now wants the friend there again doesn't bode well. Were it me, I'd call and say we needed to reschedule, then wait two weeks and ask her for a solo outing. But, you also made the rookie mistake of not setting a specific date and time, so it makes it harder to do that.

My suggestion? Go on the outing, have a good time, then wait a few days and ask her out again. If she doesn't agree to a solo outing, she's either not interested or VERY inexperienced in how this whole dating thing works - in either case, a lost cause.

 

[VikingKing]

nope. she just wants you to chase, or toy with you? Who knows, but that doesnt matter. Live your life for you.