Walking Anomaly said:
Lol another question popped into my head since i have recently dealt with this situation
WC2, in your opinion, who should break the no contact rule? The dumper or the dumpee. My philosophy has been the dumper. They left you, why would you still try to reach out to them when they wont you.
All in all i think its a sick game...dont get me wrong, it works, but its a sick mental/emotional game and i dont like playing it lol.
~WA
The whole point of the no contact rule is just that; no contact.
A lot of guys think 'no contact' should be used to stray their exes back into their life, but that's not really why we use it.
We use it to get the girl out of our head and to move on.
Now naturally, if you don't contact someone who loves attention (women), they will yearn for more contact and ultimately try to make contact with you.
Don't misinterpret my post; I'm not a big fan of getting exes back. In fact, I think it's stupid. I think you should drop all your exes and move on to a new woman who could possibly offer you more.
But the OP asked if exes ever come back and yes, they do. And that's when the come back. When no contact has been made and you've been getting on with your life.
So to answer your question.. the dumpee should NEVER be contacting the ex unless it's dire straits (and I don't mean needing to get your movies back or something). And this is because men need to get on with their lives; not because they want to get their exes back.