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Does Size Matter?

The Duke

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Does penis girth/length matter to women?

Ever had a woman tell you that your penis wasnt big enough? Too big?

I'm slightly longer than average and there have been a few that commented positively.

My general sense is it really isn't a big deal.

If you look at the typical vibrator/dildo at a sex toy shop it's not something giant. However, as @DJ Novice pointed out, some females are about it.

All of my exes had sex toys that were pretty comparable to the average male penis. Maybe they kept the big monsters hidden and never showed me?
 

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I'm sure it matters, but in most cases, I'd wager that not having that expectation met/exceeded is more of a disappointment than a complete dealbreaker.

I've never had complaints aside from one specific girl off Bumble.

We matched several years ago, and the conversation was going in a sexual direction, so she stopped me and asked me how big it was, saying she has a requirement of 8 inches or more. I told her that while I'm well-endowed, I'm not quite THAT well-endowed. She apologized, said that we should not meet then, and unmatched me.

More recently (maybe a year or so ago), she showed up in my feed again, and we matched again. I told her I was surprised she swiped right since I didn't meet her requirement last time, to which she told me that she was attracted enough to me to be more lenient. We went out for some drinks, things went well, and she ended up sucking my d*** in her car.

Later on, when I tried to set up another date so we had somewhere to f*** she told me that she thought she could be lenient, but that she really just needs 8 inches...and again apologized for wasting my time.

For context, this isn't like a big girl with a massive a** or something - she was probably 5'9", maybe 120lbs. I did a quick Google search, and it seems in the USA, based on self-reported data, only about 2% of men are packing 8 inches or more - and that's before you consider whether the person attached to it has anything to be attracted to.

So yes, there definitely are ridiculous women at the extreme end of the spectrum on this.
 

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I think as long as it isn't abnormally small or freakishly large the equipment doesn't matter nearly as much as how it's used.

If your actions make her squirm in bed, she won't give a fvck about the dimensions of the thing giving her otherworldly pleasure.
 

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Hmmmm. Thoughts from the old lady:

Old saying: Its not the size of the ship, but rather the motion of the ocean that matters.

Being a skillful lover is more valuable than certain measurements.....

Vaginas vary in depth too. Some deeper, some not as deep. There is such a thing as too long because it gets pokey in certain positions if your length is greater than her depth.

I appreciate a great fit. Enough girth to be snug, enough length to satisfy but not be painful or poke. That will all vary from couple to couple.

So I'd say size matters but not in the way men typically * think * it matters. What matters most is if she enjoys you as a person. You have the physiology you have. The right girl isn't going to throw away a great guy over empirical dimensions....but a great fit is a nice bonus.

Just saying.
 

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Hmmmm. Thoughts from the old lady:

Old saying: Its not the size of the ship, but rather the motion of the ocean that matters.

Being a skillful lover is more valuable than certain measurements.....

Vaginas vary in depth too. Some deeper, some not as deep. There is such a thing as too long because it gets pokey in certain positions if your length is greater than her depth.

I appreciate a great fit. Enough girth to be snug, enough length to satisfy but not be painful or poke. That will all vary from couple to couple.

So I'd say size matters but not in the way men typically * think * it matters. What matters most is if she enjoys you as a person. You have the physiology you have. The right girl isn't going to throw away a great guy over empirical dimensions....but a great fit is a nice bonus.

Just saying.
Out here in the corn field, every guy drives a truck. An unfortunately over-experienced gf once told me, "I'm never again going home from the bar with a guy in a big truck." I was happy to hear that because my truck is tiny.
 

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My general sense is it really isn't a big deal.
That seems accurate to me. If a man is in the average range on size and gets good erections, that will be good enough in most cases.

Having a bigger than average sized penis (in both length and girth) can be really exciting for a woman. She may be able to orgasm more easily and might get visually more turned on by one.

Women who have previously had children tend to be less vaginally tight (without vaginal rejuvenation surgery) and might respond better to a large penis.

I've never had complaints aside from one specific girl off Bumble.

We matched several years ago, and the conversation was going in a sexual direction, so she stopped me and asked me how big it was, saying she has a requirement of 8 inches or more. I told her that while I'm well-endowed, I'm not quite THAT well-endowed. She apologized, said that we should not meet then, and unmatched me.

More recently (maybe a year or so ago), she showed up in my feed again, and we matched again. I told her I was surprised she swiped right since I didn't meet her requirement last time, to which she told me that she was attracted enough to me to be more lenient. We went out for some drinks, things went well, and she ended up sucking my d*** in her car.

Later on, when I tried to set up another date so we had somewhere to f*** she told me that she thought she could be lenient, but that she really just needs 8 inches...and again apologized for wasting my time.

For context, this isn't like a big girl with a massive a** or something - she was probably 5'9", maybe 120lbs. I did a quick Google search, and it seems in the USA, based on self-reported data, only about 2% of men are packing 8 inches or more - and that's before you consider whether the person attached to it has anything to be attracted to.

So yes, there definitely are ridiculous women at the extreme end of the spectrum on this.
There are women that are size queens out there. I had a similar experience to yours with a size queen in college.
 
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Does penis girth/length matter to women?

Ever had a woman tell you that your penis wasnt big enough? Too big?

I'm slightly longer than average and there have been a few that commented positively.

My general sense is it really isn't a big deal.

If you look at the typical vibrator/dildo at a sex toy shop it's not something giant. However, as @DJ Novice pointed out, some females are about it.

All of my exes had sex toys that were pretty comparable to the average male penis. Maybe they kept the big monsters hidden and never showed me?
Wait, a veteran like you who's had many women in his life asking this kind of questions? Or you wanted to "humble brag" for some validation from men and women in this forum? :rofl:
 

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of 8 inches or more
How does she actually will measure it? I don't even know how to, from the top, from the bottom, or along the curve? Or an average of those measurements? We need a Standard Operation Procedure for that, does somebody know?
 

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I’m also quite large, and after I’ve built enough comfort and slept with a woman a few times, it becomes natural for me to joke about how big it is now and then, just to make her laugh.

That said, I can always tell that the first time they see it, they get a little intimidated, but after the first session, it feels normal to them. Also, I think they’d rather you have to drag it across the ground when you walk than have a smaller one, especially when they’re gossiping to their friends about you as a status symbol.

However, just like everything else, it is not a big deal unless you make it so.

PS: From the joking around I was told Pete Davidson also has a big penis. Use this information for what is worth.
 
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I don’t think it matters in the sense of it being a stipulation, but I do think women love and are excited by big penises.
 

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How does she actually will measure it? I don't even know how to, from the top, from the bottom, or along the curve? Or an average of those measurements? We need a Standard Operation Procedure for that, does somebody know?
Maybe she keeps a ruler in her vag, who knows.
 

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I've always heard it's more the girth than the length.
 

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Another female perspective...

I've always been intrigued by large ships and with respect to motion of the ocean I get seasick so...:lol:

Seriously though I think it's BOTH the size and the motion and it's subjective... what's large (or small) for one girl may not be for another.

But generally yeah I think if a woman is honest with herself, size does matter in some form or fashion.
 
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