Does she like me? Tips on recognizing signs.

[InspirationMan]

The key to this question is understanding your correct attitude: You don't NEED her to like you. It's okay to WANT it, but don't become so attached to every encounter with a woman that you end up NEEDING her to like you. That's the train to nowhere, and it will leave soon if you even begin to go that route.

There are many indicators of a girl's interest in you. You just have to know where to look. The primary three are these:

Actions (What she does that indicates her interest obviously)
Words (what she says to you)
Body language (what she does that indicates her interest subtly)
These are also in order. You trust her actions first, her words next, and her body language after that. If you're getting clear buying signals in her actions, ignore her words. If you get interest from her words, ignore her body movements. Your last resort is to interpret her body language.

1) The first indicator is her actions to tell you she likes you. Always watch what she does first, and ignore her words if they don't jive with the way she behaves. Here are a short list of "she's interested" indicators :

She touches you or leans in close
She makes it a point to smell your cologne
She takes you along with her to another bar/dance club
She initiates conversation with you
She asks for your number (but only if she asks before or after giving hers. If she refuses to give you her number, she's not interested.)
She looks you over (especially glances at your mouth)
2) The next thing you listen to is her words. What does she say to you ?

Here's a list of things that indicate her interest verbally :

She asks a lot of questions about you
She talks about sexual topics (without you initiating them)
She uses very sensual words when describing you
She tells you secrets (indicating trust)


3) This next list is more difficult, since you will have to refine your radar as to what her body language is saying. It's much more subtle, and more difficult to read. Again, I always suggest that you make sure to judge her body language only when you have no other evidence to help you out. Here are some buying indicators :

Occasional glance(s) from far away
Looks at you a few times (flickering glances at your lips)
Holds your gaze for a moment with no words
Looks down, then away
Goes out of her way to laugh with you
Posture changes, looks alert
Covers her mouth or touches her face
Adjusts hair, attire
Faces you
Alert, energetic
Pupils are dilated
Open posture (arms uncrossed)
Remember that your primary indication of interest from any woman is in her behavior. No matter what she says, if she isn't DOING the things that a woman that would do who is interested (smiles and talks to you, shows interest, gives you her phone number, etc.) she isn't REALLY interested. She's just trying to not hurt your feelings.

Results are the TRUTH !

 

[Zoso]

Good post.

The key to this question is understanding your correct attitude: You don't NEED her to like you. It's okay to WANT it, but don't become so attached to every encounter with a woman that you end up NEEDING her to like you. That's the train to nowhere, and it will leave soon if you even begin to go that route.

I'm glad you started with this. Sure it's good to recognize the signs, but these things are not required to approach a girl. Some girls just don't show their interest as much as others, and some may not be interested until after you approach them.

The big problem with waiting for signs is that it focuses on thinking about if she wants you when the better way of thinking is you want her, and who cares what she thinks? All you can do is try, and if she says no then move on. You should always assume the sale, regardless of signs, and this will help you be confident.

Remember that your primary indication of interest from any woman is in her behavior. No matter what she says, if she isn't DOING the things that a woman that would do who is interested (smiles and talks to you, shows interest, gives you her phone number, etc.) she isn't REALLY interested. She's just trying to not hurt your feelings.

Word. Don't fool yourself by believing what she says, because what she does shows her true intentions. Some girls will be all over you, but flake when you ask for a date. This shows their true intentions, so don't let them use you as an ego boost - just move on.

 

[DJ_Dork]

What women do and say are two different worlds. Never forget that especially if they LJBF you.

 

[becker]

Hey, what about a girl totally into you by her actions (hugs, kiss, etc), but then she later says she's not interested and pulls away because she's scared? That's the other direction it seems. What would you say about that?

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

do not spend too long analysing signs when you are talking to her because when you do this you are paying less attenention to her, girls liek guys who listen so when you are tlaking to her give her all your attention and have osmtihng intresting to say, dnt just look for signs!

 

[Ziro]

Okay, this is just from my experience:

But I try not to worry whether or not the girl likes me, I just assume she does.