Does sexy time always fizzle down in LTRs?

[Duracell_Bunny]

We are talking over the 2 year mark.

All of my friends have experienced the same issue (and other people they have spoken to), even if they were going at it over 5 times a week after around 2 years the frequency declines more and more.

They first see it that the girl makes less effort in the bedroom, like giving less head, and becoming less submissive.

I experienced it and it pushed me to cheat on her and call it quits later on. I wouldn't be surprised if she wasn't doing anything behind my back.

 

[adam225]

Yeah it does. It get way tooooo predictable. It's the same with any external pleasure though - as soon as you're use to it you'll get bored of it and want "the next best thing". It's the nature of the human mind....

 

[TheException]

Yes it does.

Early in the relationship(pre-exclusive) she wants to have sex with you everytime you guys see each other. Its her attempt at impressing you because at this point she still has the sexual market to compete with. Once you become exclusive....she is "less worried" about you cheating since you are "in a relationship", so she feels less pressure to have sex. Excuses like:

1.) Its too late
2.) Im tired
3.) I got class/work early tomorrow

begin to pop up.

The main key is to not always be pushing for sex. What? Ya thats right, I know it sounds counter-intuitive. But what do you think happens if you are horny and are trying to have sex with her...then she pops out an excuse above....and you say "ok" and go to bed. Its like a rejection. You wanted something, she denied, and you accepted this denial. Approaching LTR sex like this, and every once in awhile being rewarded with a treat is not beneficial.

Instead, focus more on your LIFE. Go to the gym, work on your career, work on your hobbies, be passionate about LIFE. And when it comes to sex...dont always push for it. As soon as you guys get in bed, occasionally roll over and fall asleep. You change her thought pattern from

"He always wants to have sex with me, He obviously finds me attractive" to "Hmmm he doesnt seem to want to have sex as often as before...I wonder if she still thinks Im hott"

One scenario she is completely validated...and the other she is left "wondering". I guarantee you will see more of her "sex kitten" side if you quit being the guy that overpushes and begs for sex.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Of course it does.

Once a woman knows you're committed to her emotionally.. she has less incentive to please you. She is also less attracted to you SEXUALLY because you are no longer a challenge she has to "win". She knows you ain't going anywhere. She knows you're a whipped faggot with no better options (why else would you commit?). So of course she'll f*ck you less. :crackup:

Women love a slave but they don't respect one. NEVER stop spinning plates. NEVER allow a woman to get too comfortable and believe she can't lose you.

 

[Duracell_Bunny]

Ah that's the problem. I had tried backing off but I couldn't get anything to work. When I held back she would start feeling down and I felt like an old couple.

When it did happen, we were both very concious of it and it felt a bit forced a weird, which was when I had enough.

I currently have a FB, even that has started to fade.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Ah that's the problem. I had tried backing off but I couldn't get anything to work. When I held back she would start feeling down and I felt like an old couple.

When it did happen, we were both very concious of it and it felt a bit forced a weird, which was when I had enough.

I currently have a FB, even that has started to fade.

Sex is the rent a woman pays to keep associating with a man. Attention is the rent a man pays to keep associating with a woman.

The problem in 2013 is lots of men don't charge rent.. OR they extend their free trial way too long.. then they get friend zoned because the woman realizes its just FREE and not a trial. :crackup:

If you rent an apartment and you stop paying the landlord OR you start paying less.. you get a few warnings/notices.. THEN one day all your sh!t is out on the street. Why would it be any other way?

Men today are too soft, too compromising, too accommodating. They allow their tenets to pay little or no rent. Instead of replacing these deadbeats or kicking them out on the street... they just allow it.. because at least their property has people living in it. That counts for something right? :crazy:

 

[TheException]

Sex is the rent a woman pays to keep associating with a man. Attention is the rent a man pays to keep associating with a woman.

This^

Problem is....by constantly paying your rent without anything in return....it devalues your currency. So when you reach the void of a relationship and her interest is so rock bottom...nothing will "fix it". Not even reducing the attention you give...Move on.

 

[JoeMarron]

I refuse to accept this. Its too depressing lol plus its not true in all cases. Sure desire isn't gonna stay at max 24/7 for eternity but just like you'll never stop enjoying your favorite food, a woman who's attracted to you will never stop wanting to have sex with you. I'm sure there's people on this board that can attest to having a desirable amount of sex well past the two year mark. The real problem is who a man decides to form a relationship with. Many women are too fvcked up to bond with a man for a considerable amount of time.

 

[PlayHer Man]

I refuse to accept this. Its too depressing lol plus its not true in all cases. Sure desire isn't gonna stay at max 24/7 for eternity but just like you'll never stop enjoying your favorite food, a woman who's attracted to you will never stop wanting to have sex with you. I'm sure there's people on this board that can attest to having a desirable amount of sex well past the two year mark. The real problem is who a man decides to form a relationship with. Many women are too fvcked up to bond with a man for a considerable amount of time.

Refusing to accept reality has no baring on reality. The idea that once a woman is attracted to you she will stay attracted for life is one of the STUPIDEST things I've ever read on this site. :crazy:

Not all truths are warm and fuzzy. What benefit is there to being delusional and believing things that are simply FALSE? How can you make smart and educated decisions in life if you live in a fantasy world of cupcakes and sunshine?

Its better to know the harsh truth so you can deal with it and make smart decisions.. instead of being blissfully ignorant. Ultimately.. ignorance will cost you more. MUCH more.

Your choice.

 

[BraddH]

Refusing to accept reality has no baring on reality. The idea that once a woman is attracted to you she will stay attracted for life is one of the STUPIDEST things I've ever read on this site. :crazy:

Not all truths are warm and fuzzy. What benefit is there to being delusional and believing things that are simply FALSE? How can you make smart and educated decisions in life if you live in a fantasy world of cupcakes and sunshine?

Its better to know the harsh truth so you can deal with it and make smart decisions.. instead of being blissfully ignorant. Ultimately.. ignorance will cost you more. MUCH more.

Your choice.

Are you sure you are a man of his word? The only thin that you seem to have in your life is getting your ego filled in this forum. I see you post at least ten post every day. Man take a grip already and take on a dream. You are simply stupid.

 

[GetFit66]

Everything declines, but it also picks back up. Did you honestly want to fvck her like you used too?

An LTR is about making it last, not quitting.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Are you sure you are a man of his word? The only thin that you seem to have in your life is getting your ego filled in this forum. I see you post at least ten post every day. Man take a grip already and take on a dream. You are simply stupid.

It doesn't take very long to post 10 times when you consider how many hours exist in a day. How many hours of Disney movies do you watch a day? 5? 6? :crackup:

Everyone isn't as slow as you BraddH. Some of us can actually read and write beyond an elementary school level bro :crackup:

 

[JoeMarron]

Refusing to accept reality has no baring on reality. The idea that once a woman is attracted to you she will stay attracted for life is one of the STUPIDEST things I've ever read on this site. :crazy:

Not all truths are warm and fuzzy. What benefit is there to being delusional and believing things that are simply FALSE? How can you make smart and educated decisions in life if you live in a fantasy world of cupcakes and sunshine?

Its better to know the harsh truth so you can deal with it and make smart decisions.. instead of being blissfully ignorant. Ultimately.. ignorance will cost you more. MUCH more.

Your choice.

Lol wtf..I'm refusing to accept it because it's simply not true. Of course a woman isn't just going to magically stay attracted to you forever. However, a man who knows what he's doing can keep the attraction alive indefinitely. There's plenty of men out there, some on this forum who's wives/girlfriends are still happily being ravaged 2+ years into the relationship. The man that can keep attraction alive is a rare one but its not impossible. We already know that you find the idea of commuting to a woman complete nonsense. However, a man can still keep a woman attracted, still keep her afraid to lose him, still keep her from not getting too comfortable about the relationship without having to spin plates for eternity.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Does sexy time always fizzle down in LTRs?...I experienced it and it pushed me to cheat on her and call it quits later on.

If you had brought that girl home and fvcked her with your gf, then you'd still be together.

 

[GetFit66]

Playher do you ever quit fighting and being annoyed.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

Women love a slave but they don't respect one.

haha i love this guy (no homo )
this one sentence is what causes most relationships to die.
sure, living by this rule causes some drama for me too. girls always complain and say i never "adapt" in a relationship. but this drama is what keeps them with me paradoxically. the moment the drama stops the relationship died.
weirdly, if you want to keep a woman, you have to keep her unfulfilled and wanting for more. always.
the thing that keeps my LTR's safe is that they rarely have the feeling i am theirs entirely.
and when they had that feeling, sexy time went down.
they even try to blackmail you saying that you are like most men and want them ONLY for sex. but never be fooled by it. if they give no sex you give them no attention.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Lol wtf..I'm refusing to accept it because it's simply not true. Of course a woman isn't just going to magically stay attracted to you forever. However, a man who knows what he's doing can keep the attraction alive indefinitely. There's plenty of men out there, some on this forum who's wives/girlfriends are still happily being ravaged 2+ years into the relationship. The man that can keep attraction alive is a rare one but its not impossible. We already know that you find the idea of commuting to a woman complete nonsense. However, a man can still keep a woman attracted, still keep her afraid to lose him, still keep her from not getting too comfortable about the relationship without having to spin plates for eternity.

The only way to keep a woman attracted forever is to be her best available option forever. PERIOD.

Any man who would dedicate his life to keeping ONE woman from straying is a faggot. Why would you work that hard unless your value is dirt low? :crackup:

Best to spin plates.

haha i love this guy (no homo )
this one sentence is what causes most relationships to die.
sure, living by this rule causes some drama for me too. girls always complain and say i never "adapt" in a relationship. but this drama is what keeps them with me paradoxically. the moment the drama stops the relationship died.
weirdly, if you want to keep a woman, you have to keep her unfulfilled and wanting for more. always.
the thing that keeps my LTR's safe is that they rarely have the feeling i am theirs entirely.
and when they had that feeling, sexy time went down.
they even try to blackmail you saying that you are like most men and want them ONLY for sex. but never be fooled by it. if they give no sex you give them no attention.

Correct.

Men who don't understand this (or refuse to accept it) are ignorant fools. :yes:

Also.. you can only play this game for so long. Eventually she will call your bluff and DARE you to cheat/leave. If you don't.. she knows you're full of sh!t and the power goes right back to her.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

Also.. you can only play this game for so long. Eventually she will call your bluff and DARE you to cheat/leave. If you don't.. she knows you're full of sh!t and the power goes right back to her.

haha, that is why most of my relations end with me cheating/leaving. well, funny, but not so funny. :nervous:
by conventional terms i am a jerk, because if i don't get the sexy time from the GF i get it from someone else usually that very day (good to have plates / girl orbiters), but that is considered something bad (cheating, spineless etc).
but for me a relationship without regular sex is NOTHING. it is friendship. and i am quite happy with my male friends TYVM. i don't need a girl friend who, while not even giving me what i need, nags me on top of that.

my life is too short to spend it waiting for nothing.
better an egg today than a hen tomorrow

 

[JoeMarron]

The only way to keep a woman attracted forever is to be her best available option forever. PERIOD.

Any man who would dedicate his life to keeping ONE woman from straying is a faggot. Why would you work that hard unless your value is dirt low? :crackup:

Best to spin plates.




Correct.

Men who don't understand this (or refuse to accept it) are ignorant fools. :yes:

Also.. you can only play this game for so long. Eventually she will call your bluff and DARE you to cheat/leave. If you don't.. she knows you're full of sh!t and the power goes right back to her.

Right. The woman that will stay attracted forever is the woman who feels that her man will always be her best option. Yes if a man always wants women is his life the best way to do that is to always spin plates. However, and this is the point I've been trying to make with you over and over again, not all men have the capability or even desire to spin plates all the damn time. I'd drive myself crazy if I had to continually wade through a sea of vapid hoes just for a warm hole to stick into. I'd much rather deal with one woman who I can get sex from and connect with emotionally (Yes a man can connect with a woman emotionally without being a faggot. This is a human trait..unless you're a sociopath).

Keeping a woman faithful doesn't have to be some grand mission that a man commits himself to, forsaking everything else in his life. Hell one of the main dudes on this forum that advocates spinning plates, Rollo Tomassi, doesn't even spin plates anymore. I'm sure he's not in a powerless relationship, groveling to his wife everytime he wants sex. I remember you saying that a man should do whatever that makes him happy, if that's sticking with one woman then so be it. I don't understand how you can say that and then contradict yourself by vehemently declaring that spinning plates is the only way. Every man should be free to deal with women the way he wants to. As long as he's not castrating himself and handing his balls over to them, its all good whether he bangs a different chick every night, has an open LTR where they both fvck other people but stay exclusive emotionally, or marries a woman who's crazy about him and stays faithful to her for life.