Does my friend like me???

[qboy122]

So I have this friend that is very attractive and I have known her for about 5 years. I am very close to get and she is one of my best friends but the last few times I have gone out to a club or bar, she's acted different than all of the other years I've known her. The last 5 times she has asked me to hang out and the first of those 5 times when we left the club she grabbed and hooked my arm as we walked to the club (which she never as done). Some guys that we met through our friend mike thought that we were dating because we kind of have that chemistry. On July 4th I was about to leave a BBQ when she texted me to go to a beer garden and I went cuz I was bored. When I got there she have me a huge long kiss on the cheek and she stroked my face with her hand. I was about to get a beer and she said to give her my money and she'll get it for me. We went to another bar and she was talking to me non stop. I crashed at her friends place and when her friend went to work we watched TV together the whole day and I was teasing her and stuff and she asked me to go to a pool party. I told her no cuz I wanted to eat dinner with my parents so she asked me to go out again with her friends to a bar after. I met up with them and she teased me saying "you're here again?' smiling which made me laugh. Oh and when I tease her she would hit my arm and stuff. As the night went on she asked if I was doing anything Saturday which I had no plans and she asked to go to the beach with her. I said sure cuz I haven't gone this whole summer. I crashed at her friends place again and in the morning she was looking for a tampon but there were none in the house. She said to her friend smiling "unless Dave wants to be the bestest friend and go to the store and get me some" so I said "no way" and she responded smiling again "john (her ex boyfriend) used to do it all the time" so I said "big difference there cuz he was your boyfriend and I'm not" then she and her friend started giggling like little school girls. Noe like I said she is very attractive and I'm not looking for a relationship but I wouldn't mind hooking up with her. So do you guys think that she likes me or is attracted to me? She has never acted like this to me before and I find it strangs after all that flirting and stuff that she isn't attracted to me. If she is how should I approach this? I mean we both flirt and tease one another so should I just try and kiss her one night, ask her out on a date or non-date, etc.

 

[TheException]

In my opinion....

best case scenario: She's turning you into a beta orbiter
worst case scenario: She's an attention wh0re and giving you false hope.

You guys are hanging out "as friends". There is no sexual tension going on and that needs to be an integral part of a relationship with a girl. She's giving your affection/attention in return for your attention. Bottom line....the only way you find out for certain is to start SEXUALLY ESCALATING. If she lets you...she likes you....if she doesnt....well i think you know what that means.

 

[Packers2010]

if you been friends wit her for 5 years. I say. it's better to find other girls then it is to keep wishing you was with this one.

trust me. I should know.

 

[BigSmooth]

Just fvcking kiss her and see what happens. If she responds positively, bang her. If she responds negatively, just says "whoops. After all these years, you want to tell me you're a lesbian NOW?"

Sounds like you're already not that emotionally invested in her so just escalate.

 

[qboy122]

Lmao.. Now like BigSmooth said I am not emotionally invested in her so I will sexually escalate and even if I was I haven't shown it to her (made that mistake in the past) She's not turning me into a beta orbiter cuz we don't hang out everyday. Its either once a week or once every two weeks just this past weekend was an exception cuz I had no other plans. We used to text a lot almost like a male girlfriend but now we don't text that often unless we are going to go out. I don't initiate texts with her or with any girl for that matter just like dating expert Corey Wayne says to do. I don't text that much to make girls miss me whether I am friends with them or not. THIS is why she has been asking for me to hang out with her more often now. By the way she does favors for me now like drive me home, get me drinks, get me food etc. So Im thinking I am not a beta in her eyes. She sees me as a prize and pursues me. The only reason I haven't sexually escalated is cuz well some girls are confusing with their signals lol. This is why i posted this thread to find out if she is attracted to me.

 

[BigSmooth]

Lmao.. Now like BigSmooth said I am not emotionally invested in her so I will sexually escalate and even if I was I haven't shown it to her (made that mistake in the past) She's not turning me into a beta orbiter cuz we don't hang out everyday. Its either once a week or once every two weeks just this past weekend was an exception cuz I had no other plans. We used to text a lot almost like a male girlfriend but now we don't text that often unless we are going to go out. I don't initiate texts with her or with any girl for that matter just like dating expert Corey Wayne says to do. I don't text that much to make girls miss me whether I am friends with them or not. THIS is why she has been asking for me to hang out with her more often now. By the way she does favors for me now like drive me home, get me drinks, get me food etc. So Im thinking I am not a beta in her eyes. She sees me as a prize and pursues me. The only reason I haven't sexually escalated is cuz well some girls are confusing with their signals lol. This is why i posted this thread to find out if she is attracted to me.

If a girl ACTS attracted to you:

1) She's just acting attracted to you just to feel the attention from guys and the boost in self-worth and self-esteem they get when those guys follow her every whim.

2) She actually likes you


Now let's pretend you're on the game show Who Wants To Be A Millionaire. You decide to use the "phone a friend" lifeline.

qboy122: "Hey BigSmooth...I'm playing for $1 million dollars right now...this is the final question. Help me out here man."

BigSmooth: "Fvck you I'm watching Conan O' Brien reruns."

qboy122: "....Anyways...Here is the question. There is a girl that is acting attracted to me. She's showing all the signs. She's flirting, touching, inviting me to hang out...etc. What is the appropriate action for me to take? I have eliminated it to two answer choices. Here they are:

A) Do nothing and continue wondering if I can stick my gristle missile in her for all of eternity while she continues to invite me to hang out at the beach and help her lather olive oil on her back like a fvcking Persian Slave...

B) Give her a mind-blowing kiss next time the opportunity arises and if she responds badly, make her feel like the one that is the antagonist.


BigSmooth: "None of the above."

qboy122: "What? Aren't you supposed to be smart? I thought you graduated from Harvard with a MBA...at the age of 12.

BigSmooth: "After much contemplation and now that Conan is currently on a commercial break...my final answer will be B as in Blow Me."

qboy122: "...ok thanks dude."

qboy122: "Ok Meredith. Final answer is B for Blow Me."

Meredith "I look like a feminist Vieria: "...fvck you...YOU JUST WON $1 MILLION DOLLARS!!"

:cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

The Audience: *waiting in the parking lot* :trouble: :trouble: :trouble:




~BSmooth

 

[zinc4]

I don't understand how you can watch TV or be alone for hours with any attractive girl and not make a move...it isn't mean't for men and women ton be strictly platonic friends..it just isn't....yes go for the kiss next time you hang out..don't be scared..sounds like a strong chance she likes you to me....if not then hell at least you tried man....

Even if they fail, men at least try to get what they want......boys don't even try out of fear...therefore one has to conclude that Packers is a little chicken **** boy...you see what you want, ****ing take it...if you fail then no regrets it is much better than not even trying at all...

 

[TheWolfMan]

I agree with BigSmooth and Zinc, next time the mood is right, i.e. when you guys are alone watching TV or you are out and there is strong kino going on make your move. Go in for a kiss or makeout session, whatever then you will know for sure what the deal is, strictly friends or nothing more. In my opinion she is giving you clear signs she is at least open to the idea, prob waiting on you to make the first move though.

 

[TheWolfMan]

She compared you to her ex, about the tampon thing which is a good thing for you. This indicates that she is already playing around in her head the idea of you being more than a friend, or at least has thought about it once. Although I wasn't there to see the tone so maybe she was just being playful, but still...Make your move!

 

[Uncharted]

This will probably be a massive uphill battle since you've been "friends" for five years, but if you want this you have to gamble that "relationship" and go for it. DO NOT TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL. Just do it with actions!

Two possible outcomes:

1. She rejects you (we are "friends") etc. This means she was never interested anyway. Now you know for sure and can stop hanging out with her and go chase one of the other 3 billion women.

2. She will let you kiss/touch/fvck her. Then you know for sure that she has feelings for you.

Most importantly - if you do nothing, you will just be thinking "what if".

Just man up and take a chance.