Does it matter who calls or text first?????

[yama600rr]

I need to know what do you guys think.
so i met this girl and asked her if she had facebook and she does so I added her a couple of days later. so we go back and forth on each other's wall... nothing new. so I sent her a message with my number and told her to give me a text when she gets a chance and she does.
It's been about a week and we text each other back and forth everyday, spoke on the phone a few times and seems to have a connection, really good conversation. But the thing is she never initiates the texting or calling, i'm the one who always have to text her and calls her, but then she always replies right away and picks up her phone.
I just feel like i'm bugging her since i'm the one doing the initial texting and calling... you guys think i'm just tripping??? I mean she always replies and picks up, so i don't know if I should keep calling and texting or should wait if she does first!!! what do you guys think?

 

[Warrior74]

stop texting and stop calling and meet up. You feel like you are bugging her because you haven't moved on to the next level. You gotta get face to face, and then get face to face, knowwhatimean? Then it won't be an issue.

 

[yama600rr]

I have, i'm not the type to beat around the bush. i asked her to hang out tomorrow and she said her best friend's bday is tomorrow and she has to attend.
my question is there has to be some interest on her part to pick up the phone and talk and returning texts right? I just dont wanna feel like i'm doing all the work.
She's told me about her exes and how they ****ed her over and she seems like be very bitter about men at the moment, maybe this has something to do with it.

 

[seagull]

I have, i'm not the type to beat around the bush. i asked her to hang out tomorrow and she said her best friend's bday is tomorrow and she has to attend.
my question is there has to be some interest on her part to pick up the phone and talk and returning texts right? I just dont wanna feel like i'm doing all the work.
She's told me about her exes and how they ****ed her over and she seems like be very bitter about men at the moment, maybe this has something to do with it.

Stop over analysing and cut down on the texting/phone calls. Ask her to hang out, and if she flakes twice without making a counter offer than quit wasting your time on her.

Read up on some of the older threads in this forum and the "two strikes rule".

 

[starplayer]

I have, i'm not the type to beat around the bush. i asked her to hang out tomorrow and she said her best friend's bday is tomorrow and she has to attend.
my question is there has to be some interest on her part to pick up the phone and talk and returning texts right? I just dont wanna feel like i'm doing all the work.

Her picking up the phone and returning texts is NOT definitely a sign of interest. Girls love attention so she could just be an attention wh0re playing with you. She's probably calling and texting other guys too.

There's only one way to find out if she's really interested: ASK HER OUT.

If she turns you down again then forget her because she's not interested. Like Seagull said above, the 2 Strikes Rule applies to this situation. I bumped that thread yesterday so give it a read. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=154043

She's told me about her exes and how they ****ed her over and she seems like be very bitter about men at the moment, maybe this has something to do with it.

You're gonna end up in the friendzone if you keep talking about this sort of stuff. Do you wanna listen to her problems or do you wanna fvck her? C'mon man this is basics.

Read "Fifteen Lessons" by Pook. Rule 2: Don't listen to her problems or you will be her friend. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150

 

[Kailex]

And... BOOM GOES THE KAILEX!

First of all, let me present EXHIBIT A.

so i met this girl and asked her if she had facebook and she does so I added her a couple of days later. so we go back and forth on each other's wall... nothing new. so I sent her a message with my number and told her to give me a text when she gets a chance and she does.
It's been about a week and we text each other back and forth everyday, spoke on the phone a few times and seems to have a connection, really good conversation.

Submitted for your approval, EXHIBIT B.

I have, i'm not the type to beat around the bush.

Now, based on the defense's statement, we can see the apparent contradiction. If you inspect further into these two pieces of evidence, you'll see that clearly the original poster was INDEED beating around the bush (and not in the good way).

Back and forth on walls, texting, phone calls. This took time, ladies and gentlemen of the DJ jury. This took days and possibly even a few weeks until he finally reached the point where he could have enough testicular fortitude to ask her out.

But upon further inspection, we find this.

i asked her to hang out tomorrow and she said her best friend's bday is tomorrow and she has to attend.

Now notice here how the defendant at NO time whatsoever mentions that a counter-offer was made by said person. Details that anyone would share. If the poster clearly just forgot to mention that, well then, start by doing so.

my question is there has to be some interest on her part to pick up the phone and talk and returning texts right?

Interest? Do you want to hear a little story about measuring interest under these specific terms?

Here it goes...

There's a special lady in my life. I've known her for years. Every once in a while, we'll call each other, catch up on what's been going on lately and she'll tell me funny stories about what happened at work and vice versa. Great phone conversationalist. Every so often, we'll text each other. She almost always responds right away to my texts as I do with her. It's great, it's awesome...

I love her to death.

Because well, she's my mom.


So the fact that someone picks up the phone and returns texts means NOTHING. She might as well be a family member, a relative, a long-lost friend who you want to catch up with lately. It doesn't matter.

In the end, the only thing that matters is whether she accepts to go out with you or not...

And here... members of the jury, is the final piece of evidence... the most damning piece of all.

She's told me about her exes and how they ****ed her over and she seems like be very bitter about men at the moment, maybe this has something to do with it.

Yes, this has something to do with... placing you in Orbitville.

Have you ever seen Superman or know about the Superman Mythos? Know about the Phantom Zone? Well, that's what Orbiting is sort of like.

Gentlemen and DJ's of the jury, we find here a man... whoops... wrong term... a person who simply hasn't seen it yet. He waited too long and now... it might be too late.

For this crime... it seems that the defense's case is no longer a strong one and I hereby motion for this woman to place him in solitary confinement within the grounds of a triple max security facility known to us as... Friendatraz.

Yama... you have one last chance to turn this around. It looks bleak, but go into this with a "fvck it" mindset. Consider this a lose-lose situation and you might end up winning. If you are not interested in being her friend, ask her out NOW. If you are interested in just being her friend and not getting laid with her ever... then keep doing what you're doing.

Either way, it's an uphill battle. Good luck.

 

[kingsam]

"Love Lawyer Kingsam" wants to add something to "love lawyer kaliex's" accusation of AFCness to yama600rr...

Exhibit X

so i met this girl and asked her if she had facebook and she does so I added her a couple of days later.

the AFC's new weapon of cluelessness = FACEBOOK!

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yama600rr you are found guilty of AFC behaviour...you are orderd to read all the info on Sosuave (and check out askmen.com too) to improve your DJness.
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how old are you?
young i bet!

 

[yama600rr]

i'm going to sit back and see if she textes me. If she doesnt then **** it!!!

 

[Tesl]

i'm going to sit back and see if she textes me. If she doesnt then **** it!!!

Correct. If she does, you ask her out one more time. If she refuses that, then you move on. To be honest, I wouldn't be suprised if you don't hear from her again (maybe in a week she'll drop a message to see if you are still hooked)

Facebook is the most ridiculous way of trying to build up rapport with a girl. Its even worse than texting. You should *never* be using Facebook this way; as far as girls go, IT DOESNT EXIST.