Does He Like Me or What?

[ConfusedCutie]

Hi,
This forum looks like it's mainly for guys, but maybe you could help me anyways. I'm a 20 yr. old woman in college, and I need a guy's perspective on this.

Ok, so I met this amazing guy a couple of weeks ago. He is really cute and funny, and he flirts with me A LOT. we somehow got paired up for a project together, call it fate if you will, and we talk all of the time now. He is always trying to get my attention in class. He used to be very quiet, but now he is always lound and trying to catch my eye, I think. He throws things in the air/ at me, tries to show off how buff he is by flexing arm muscles and carrying things over his head. We've hung out a few times, and went to a movie together, but I am not entirely sure that he likes me, because he's sending MIXED SIGNALS
WE were hitting it off pretty good, I thought. He had showed interest in seeing this movie coming out this week, so I asked him if he wanted to go, and he said probably yes (we would both have to skip a class to see it)
But then yesterday when we were both working in the studio together, he barely talked to me at all. I actually approached him, but I think i may have freaked him out a little bit. What's up with that? Does any of you GUYS/Men know what is going through this guy's brain right now? It is driving me nuts, because I really really like this guy, and I don't want to scare him off. What should I do?
Also, he has been nicer to my friends lately. Should I stray away from them during breaks in class so the guy can approach me? Are you guys afraid of crowds of girls? PLEASE HELP!!!!!

-Cute Girl In College

 

[Alphathree]

Post a picture of you and we'll tell you if he likes you =p

If the guy has game, he might be trying to build up your interest level before he makes a move. If that's the case, it's obviously working since you're here obsessing over him.

If he's a loser and you're just attracted to his looks, he might be too afraid to actually make the first move and is accidentally sending mixed signals.

In either case, uh, why don't you just kiss him and see what happens?

EDIT: It occured to me that if you're hot, this guy owes me a big favor.

 

[milkman]

Originally posted by ConfusedCutie
Hi,
This forum looks like it's mainly for guys, but maybe you could help me anyways. I'm a 20 yr. old woman in college, and I need a guy's perspective on this.

Ok, so I met this amazing guy a couple of weeks ago. He is really cute and funny, and he flirts with me A LOT. we somehow got paired up for a project together, call it fate if you will, and we talk all of the time now. He is always trying to get my attention in class. He used to be very quiet, but now he is always lound and trying to catch my eye, I think. He throws things in the air/ at me, tries to show off how buff he is by flexing arm muscles and carrying things over his head. We've hung out a few times, and went to a movie together, but I am not entirely sure that he likes me, because he's sending MIXED SIGNALS
WE were hitting it off pretty good, I thought. He had showed interest in seeing this movie coming out this week, so I asked him if he wanted to go, and he said probably yes (we would both have to skip a class to see it)
But then yesterday when we were both working in the studio together, he barely talked to me at all. I actually approached him, but I think i may have freaked him out a little bit. What's up with that? Does any of you GUYS/Men know what is going through this guy's brain right now? It is driving me nuts, because I really really like this guy, and I don't want to scare him off. What should I do?
Also, he has been nicer to my friends lately. Should I stray away from them during breaks in class so the guy can approach me? Are you guys afraid of crowds of girls? PLEASE HELP!!!!!

-Cute Girl In College

Haha. thanks for posting lol.

You should spend this guy a lot of expensive drinks and invite him to a great holiday.

Then he will take you.

 

[HalfAddict]

blow him

make a sandwich

don't talk so much =P

 

[ConfusedCutie]

Originally posted by Alphathree
Post a picture of you and we'll tell you if he likes you =p

If the guy has game, he might be trying to build up your interest level before he makes a move. If that's the case, it's obviously working since you're here obsessing over him.

If he's a loser and you're just attracted to his looks, he might be too afraid to actually make the first move and is accidentally sending mixed signals.

In either case, uh, why don't you just kiss him and see what happens?

EDIT: It occured to me that if you're hot, this guy owes me a big favor.

Sorry, Guys, No pictures today. I don't want my picture floating around in cyber space. Anyways, I do like him for more than his looks. He is very interesting to talk to/be with. I want to kiss him, But I am somewhat shy, and that seems very very bold. I really don't want to scare him off by kissing him. Are you sure he'd like that?

 

[milkman]

Originally posted by ConfusedCutie
Are you sure he'd like that?

Where should we know?

Seems like you have to continue to live in uncertainty.

Note to you guys: Look how great it is to be a man and the one who is in the position of doing the decisions.

And to you Sweetie: Good luck!

 

[Alphathree]

Originally posted by ConfusedCutie
Sorry, Guys, No pictures today. I don't want my picture floating around in cyber space. Anyways, I do like him for more than his looks. He is very interesting to talk to/be with. I want to kiss him, But I am somewhat shy, and that seems very very bold. I really don't want to scare him off by kissing him. Are you sure he'd like that?

Look, if he's attracted to you, he'll accept your kiss. If he's not, he won't, and there's nothing you can do to change that.

So all you're doing is delaying the inevitable. The truth is there for you to discover and you have nothing to lose by discovering it except the tension of not knowing it.

If you were a guy it would be different, because guys have all sorts of calculations to make before they kiss a girl. But you're a girl. Men are mostly on off. Either he's attracted to you or he's not. Just do it. Stop thinking that he thinks like you. He doesn't. He's a man.

EDIT: Remember, the primary thing that will determine if he likes you or not is the way you look. I know it sucks, but that's the way it is. If you come here asking about a relationship, that's slightly different, but from a guy's perspective a kiss with a hot chick is always good, and a kiss with an ugly chick is always bad. Measures of 'hot' and 'ugly' are somewhat relatively measured to his social status.

If you're an HB8 and he's extremely popular, he might reject your kiss. I typically won't show any affection for any girl with appearances under 8/8.5 in public because it lowers my status.

 

[lebRambo]

holy sh*t. its posts like this that make me glad that I'm a man. Not to be chauvanistic or anything, but we own all this dating sh*t! I mean, if we want something, we go out there and take it. Women have to worry about societal expectations and constraints.

 

[skinnydart]

Unless he for some reason thinks you're really ugly, kissing him will not scare him off in the least. Just go up to him and say something like "hey, can I tell you something" then kiss him

 

[pimpfromdayone]

The best part about being a man is that not only do we run the show, but we only have to deal with women we like, haha.

Confused, he may be sending mixed signals, like someone already said, to get you to like him more (which you do)... women do the same thing to us, but for different reasons. Rest assured though, if he likes you, there is nothing you can do to scare him off, unless you act like a bit-ch maybe. All of this stuff we guys do to get women is COMPLETELY unnecessary for a woman to do. All you have to do is look cute and guys will like you no matter how stupid/shy/confused/unhappy/unconfident you are, so quit worrying about scaring him off.

 

[backbreaker]

lol, even women I consider friends, I would be plesantly suprised to get a kiss from nowhere... like waking up in the morning and finding a 20 dollar bill.

Really can't go wrong with that

 

[DJ4Real]

Don't go worryin' your little head off. Mixed signals are to amplify attraction. Think about like this: humans love what they can't have easily. I'm sure your smart. Figure it out from here.

Good Luck

 

[So pimp its scary]

1 - Don't ask the guy if he likes you... it is a turn-off.

2 - You just met the guy recently, don't say anything more than 'I like you.' (LIKE not LOVE)

3 - Get on your knees... if he pushes you away, move on (unless there's a good reason for it... like he doesn't want you to see that he has no balls or something)

4 - Don't obsess over the guy... I hate when I've only been with a chick once or twice and she's already planning our wedding.

5 - if he keeps asking you for dates and getting you to bend over stuff, then yes he still likes you. Whether or not he's doing the same to all your friends, I don't know.

 

[milkman]

Originally posted by Alphathree
If you were a guy it would be different, because guys have all sorts of calculations to make before they kiss a girl.

WTF are you talking about? NO, that´s exactly what a man does not have to do. If you want to kiss a girl, then kiss her. If you want to do calculations then join some math class. Really dude, free yourself from this bull**** thinking.

Originally posted by Alphathree
EDIT: Remember, the primary thing that will determine if he likes you or not is the way you look. I know it sucks, but that's the way it is. If you come here asking about a relationship, that's slightly different, but from a guy's perspective a kiss with a hot chick is always good, and a kiss with an ugly chick is always bad. Measures of 'hot' and 'ugly' are somewhat relatively measured to his social status.

If you're an HB8 and he's extremely popular, he might reject your kiss. I typically won't show any affection for any girl with appearances under 8/8.5 in public because it lowers my status.

'hot' and 'ugly' are not measured somewhat relatively to his social status but by his personal preferences. I have seen as many good looking high status guys with women I would call less attractive as vice versa.

Again wtf are you talking about? You won´t do something cause it could lower your status? Sorry, you live the life of an excuser, again: free yourself as soon as possible from this bad thinking. What do you want in life? A high status and always carrying about what other people might think of you? Or living YOUR OWN life and going for the girls YOU want and not the girls other people want?

Don´t think in 8 or 8.5. There should only be a 0 and a 1. 0=You don´t like a girl, no matter if other people like her. 1=You like a girl, no matter if other people like her.

Become a man and don´t care what other people think of you, but care what YOU want out of life.

Originally posted by pimpfromdayone
All you have to do is look cute and guys will like you no matter how stupid/shy/confused/unhappy/unconfident you are, so quit worrying about scaring him off.

Haha, man you are cracking the **** outta me, maybe you would accept a stupid, confused, unhappy and unconfident Barbie, I do not.

 

[RaWBLooD]

Originally posted by HalfAddict
blow him

make a sandwich

don't talk so much =P

if only more women followed this advice.

 

[RaWBLooD]

Originally posted by ConfusedCutie
I really don't want to scare him off by kissing him. Are you sure he'd like that?

Unless he is homosexual, im sure he wont mind.
(anyone else notice this is a bit 2 funny 2 be true? )

 

[Gonzalo]

Actually, I've given female friends the "kiss him advice" in the past. It didn't really work for them. I guess the guy has to like you enough for him to go for the kiss himself.

Only advice I think could apply is: "make him want the next stage".


E.g. you meet him: Don't just hand him your number at the end, but be sexy and attractive such that HE will want to ask you the number at the end.

Or if you go out, don't throw yourself at him for him to kiss, but rather look at him and act in a way that he thinks to himself "man I have to kiss this girl". You get the drift? This type of advice works for both guys and girls.

And I know, men, who wouldn't be happy with a girl throwing herself at us? But I'm assuming this girl doesn't want to be just one more lay for the guy... she wants to be a very special lay.

 

[ikkenai]

Sigh

 

[Danny001]

Sounds like a good example of pushing a woman's buttons. Kudos do that guy. She's falling for him, and she dosen't even know. Well, maybe now she does.

 

[Freeman]

Originally posted by DJ4Real
Don't go worryin' your little head off. Mixed signals are to amplify attraction. Think about like this: humans love what they can't have easily. I'm sure your smart. Figure it out from here.

Good Luck

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