I came across that article where you pretty much ignore the girl you're after to either 1) get over her or 2) a last ditch effort to get her. Does this really work? I feel like it'd be tough to ignore her completely especially if you have a lot of mutual friends and see each other out a lot on weekends. What do you do if she confronts you about ignoring her? The "I've been busy excuse" can only work for so long before she catches on...
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does ganji games (aka ignoring the girl) really work?
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Iceberg
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duke104 said:I came across that article where you pretty much ignore the girl you're after to either 1) get over her or 2) a last ditch effort to get her. Does this really work? I feel like it'd be tough to ignore her completely especially if you have a lot of mutual friends and see each other out a lot on weekends.
If you have mutual friends or work together, have the same class, etc, then you don't IGNORE her.
You just treat her like a random dude. You might say "Hey what's up." but whatever charm, or attraction (aka attention) you were showing her before is now cut off.
You don't want it to be like, "You were mean to me, so I'm not talking to you." You just want to separate yourself from a useless woman, move forward with other aspects of your life, and leave the girl wondering if you have found better options. Girls love attention, so when you take it away from them, it's gonna sting a little bit. But the real purpose is to move forward, not to worry about if you're re-attracting the girl.
So what if she catches on? She's not your wife. And if she was so damn worried about having you around, she would have dated you/f**ked you/whatever your goal was.What do you do if she confronts you about ignoring her? The "I've been busy excuse" can only work for so long before she catches on...
The issue is, You wanted the girl and she wanted your attention, but she didnt want to date you. Therefor, you've removed your attention from her and dedicated it to another alternative. It's not about "What if she realizes why..." because who cares what she realizes? Who cares what she thinks? Her role in your world was to be your booty call or girlfriend (or whatever).... and she didn't fulfill that role, so you're firing her and looking for new prospects.
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don't ignore a girl with the intention of her potentially returning. You ignore to move on only. If she returns and sucks up to you after a period of ignoring her, she is just an attention wh0re, and solely leading you on.
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It would probably help if you told us what the situation was, before asking this question.duke104 said:would it ever be ok to just straight up tell her that i think we shouldnt talk for a while so that i can get my priorities straightened out?
You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.
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fair enough. i met the girl 2 summers ago. we clicked right from the beginning, we began seeing each other for a month or 2 then she tells me she doesnt wanna get into another serious relationship since she just got out of a 2+ year relationship (i met her right after she broke things off with her ex bf of over 2 years). since then it's pretty much been on and off. one day shes all affectionate the next day she acts like she doesnt even know me. everyone knew there was something going on between us but she just didnt wanna commit to us being exclusive. lo and behold after a year of this on/off stuff i began to fall for this girl and i just cant seem to get over her now.
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Well, now that I understand the situation:
I don't see the benefit of telling her how you "Need some time to clear your mind." It's better just to walk away. She's not giving you what you want....and you're not going to talk your way into it.
Maybe after a while she realizes that you were a good thing and she comes back stronger. Or maybe she doesn't. But I can't imagine any possible benefit of doing it the way you discussed in your other post. I'd rather disappear and let the woman imagine that I left her for a better girl than to communicate that I "need time to get my priorities straightened out." It just makes it sound like you're hurt by her lack of interest...If she's not acting like it's an exclusive relationship, then how can you give her a real break-up? Ya know?
I don't see the benefit of telling her how you "Need some time to clear your mind." It's better just to walk away. She's not giving you what you want....and you're not going to talk your way into it.
Maybe after a while she realizes that you were a good thing and she comes back stronger. Or maybe she doesn't. But I can't imagine any possible benefit of doing it the way you discussed in your other post. I'd rather disappear and let the woman imagine that I left her for a better girl than to communicate that I "need time to get my priorities straightened out." It just makes it sound like you're hurt by her lack of interest...If she's not acting like it's an exclusive relationship, then how can you give her a real break-up? Ya know?
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This is an AW Red Flag! Run.
one day shes all affectionate the next day she acts like she doesnt even know me.
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That's all you need to know regardless of anything related to this topic. He answered your question.Iceberg said:If you have mutual friends or work together, have the same class, etc, then you don't IGNORE her.
You just treat her like a random dude. You might say "Hey what's up." but whatever charm, or attraction (aka attention) you were showing her before is now cut off.
You don't want it to be like, "You were mean to me, so I'm not talking to you." You just want to separate yourself from a useless woman, move forward with other aspects of your life, and leave the girl wondering if you have found better options. Girls love attention, so when you take it away from them, it's gonna sting a little bit. But the real purpose is to move forward, not to worry about if you're re-attracting the girl.
So what if she catches on? She's not your wife. And if she was so damn worried about having you around, she would have dated you/f**ked you/whatever your goal was.
The issue is, You wanted the girl and she wanted your attention, but she didnt want to date you. Therefor, you've removed your attention from her and dedicated it to another alternative. It's not about "What if she realizes why..." because who cares what she realizes? Who cares what she thinks? Her role in your world was to be your booty call or girlfriend (or whatever).... and she didn't fulfill that role, so you're firing her and looking for new prospects.
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In terms of increasing interest, ignoring a girl/no contact doesn't work. If a girl likes you, she won't flake and there'll be no need to go no contact. If a girl doesn't like you then dropping contact won't do anything. You won't contact her and she won't contact you. The end. In my opinion no contact is ONLY for you to get over her. Some guys say "She flaked? Just go no contact, that'll get her." Lol no it won't. But the thing is, continuing to chase her won't either. So my point is, don't think that ignoring/no contact increases any kind of attraction, because it doesn't.
Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
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Thread already ended on post #3 and 4. No matter what the situation is what he said always applies. Ignore her if talking to her bothers you but not to get her back.SoSuaveDude said:don't ignore a girl with the intention of her potentially returning. You ignore to move on only. If she returns and sucks up to you after a period of ignoring her, she is just an attention wh0re, and solely leading you on.
It's every guy's dream to be able to get a woman (or get a woman back) by doing nothing that's why Gangji games come up every once in a while. Sadly it's all BS. Unless you can identify + fix what caused the relationship or interaction to fail (if it even was YOUR fault), Ganji games will have a success rate of 0%. Cause you still aren't addressing the problem. You are only treating the symptom by running away and hoping she forgets what messed up and hoping she will magically come back to you.
I wouldn't say ignoring but rather not focusing all your attention to her all the time works. Basically you need let her chase your by trying to initiate and such.
I have been experimenting with this and you can tell it affects girls when you dont pay your full attention (or rather none) to them.
One particular girl is showing interest in one of my classes. I asked what she was doing on V day afternoon through text. She said she had to work, and questioned why i asked her. My reply was "Its a shame for you, dont worry about it". Got one of those girly replies "OKAYY??LOL" and left it as that.
I see her today (all dolled up) and dint really focused much of my attention on her. I could tell it was bothering her and she even left earlier.
Its good to push and pull to make her keep thinking about you. I want to ask her out this weekend for a festival but I feel that it would come off as too strong since I already asked on Vday. Lets see how this end.
Anyhow... trying to game another girl in the meantime, lets see how this one turns out.
Some advice would be appreciated since I find myself on the habit of doing this sort of push and pull strategy.
I have been experimenting with this and you can tell it affects girls when you dont pay your full attention (or rather none) to them.
One particular girl is showing interest in one of my classes. I asked what she was doing on V day afternoon through text. She said she had to work, and questioned why i asked her. My reply was "Its a shame for you, dont worry about it". Got one of those girly replies "OKAYY??LOL" and left it as that.
I see her today (all dolled up) and dint really focused much of my attention on her. I could tell it was bothering her and she even left earlier.
Its good to push and pull to make her keep thinking about you. I want to ask her out this weekend for a festival but I feel that it would come off as too strong since I already asked on Vday. Lets see how this end.
Anyhow... trying to game another girl in the meantime, lets see how this one turns out.
Some advice would be appreciated since I find myself on the habit of doing this sort of push and pull strategy.
Games don't work. People think they do because on occasion a woman will occasioanlly come back into the fold because she misses your attention. 99.9% chance that as soon as you should her attention she will be satisifed and leave again.
You cease attention because there's no reason to give a woman attention when she acts poorly.
When a woman rejects you she has lost out. If you sit around ignoring her waiting for her to come back you've missed the point.
Don't wait for things to happen make things happen.
Women wait ... men act.
What usually ends up happening when you wait you miss opportunities and then she coems back and you put way too many expectations out there display massive outcome dependency and eventually she may be in the fold for an attention fix but she'll scurry off as soon as the next alpha man comes running along.
You cease attention because there's no reason to give a woman attention when she acts poorly.
When a woman rejects you she has lost out. If you sit around ignoring her waiting for her to come back you've missed the point.
Don't wait for things to happen make things happen.
Women wait ... men act.
What usually ends up happening when you wait you miss opportunities and then she coems back and you put way too many expectations out there display massive outcome dependency and eventually she may be in the fold for an attention fix but she'll scurry off as soon as the next alpha man comes running along.
In terms of increasing interest, ignoring a girl/no contact doesn't work. If a girl likes you, she won't flake
Hate to say it with the really attractive girls that have been in the dating game for awhile and have been jaded and have options do respond to the NC/ignore strategy. If there was interest on their end from the start and things might have fizzled on either end they are intrigued by the one guy that totally blows them off with NC/ignore because over 90 % of guys harrass them with attention, emails, texts, flowers etc etc when the guys thinks she lost interest. Girls are intrigued by the mystery and the utter coldness that such guys present with NC that they assume the guy has value and confidence and other girls where he isn't stressing one particular girl. Girls beging to wonder, chases and reconsider their opinions of such guys. Attractive in demand girls are pampered with attention and get everything they want where they take it as a challenge which is presented by these NC guys.
Hate to say it with the really attractive girls that have been in the dating game for awhile and have been jaded and have options do respond to the NC/ignore strategy. If there was interest on their end from the start and things might have fizzled on either end they are intrigued by the one guy that totally blows them off with NC/ignore because over 90 % of guys harrass them with attention, emails, texts, flowers etc etc when the guys thinks she lost interest. Girls are intrigued by the mystery and the utter coldness that such guys present with NC that they assume the guy has value and confidence and other girls where he isn't stressing one particular girl. Girls beging to wonder, chases and reconsider their opinions of such guys. Attractive in demand girls are pampered with attention and get everything they want where they take it as a challenge which is presented by these NC guys.