Does dating advice apply to all men

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No, because we all have a different skill set.
Red pill awareness is structurally sound as an example but cold approach wouldn’t work with an introvert.
Advice should be cherry picked.
 

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or is not all dating advice created equal?
You must have acuity when you are applying DJ principles. Some things may be easy to you, for example, whereas others may me more difficult. Interestingly, the things we do NOT wish to do (or avoid doing) are often the things that can lead to the best improvements.

What makes you ask your question? What principles, specifically, are you referencing?
 

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As I’ve said, ad nauseam, here, on the board:
Location.
Culture.
Age.
Socio-economic status. (added)
Your goals.

All figure into the equation very significantly.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Does dating advice apply to all men?

Absolutely not.

If there was a 'one size fits all' answer to dating, forums like this would not exist.

Yes, there's advice generalities that can be helpful to nearly everyone. However, there's usually unique variables to each situation and this is why generality type advice can sometimes backfire.
 

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The field is the best teacher. More than reading or studying any material, go outside and talk to women. Test everything you learn.
True, but not for introverted men.
 

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One size fits all advice is not helpful. Everybody’s situation is different.

For example, if you give “player” advice to an inexperienced ‘cel guy such as “Avoid giving women non-sexual attention,” he will never even be able to have a conversation with a chick. A guy like that has to risk friendzone in order to get started. He can’t just invite “plates” over to his place to bang lol.
 

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True, but not for introverted men.
Highly disagree.

I consider this one of my areas of specialty.

An introverted man cannot be expected to go out literally every night to do a hundred approaches like Adam Lyons back in his AFCAdam days, but the same advice of "infield > reading and mental masturbation" still very much applies. There is nothing else in the world that will lead to more progress than firsthand experience, no matter what kind of man you are. And if you get too stuck in your head and consuming content becomes part of your comfort zone, that just makes you a Keyboard Jockey.

Speaking of Adam Lyons, I met both him and Richard La Ruina (Gambler) at the same time a number of years ago. I had the chance to see how they socialized, networked, and gamed. I would say they got comparable rates of success but their personalities were polar opposites when it came to introversion/extroversion. While Adam was all smiles, shaking hands with everyone, and showing all the students the photo opener with the enthusiasm of someone who just won the lottery, Richard would be like a ninja in the shadows, and all of a sudden appear out of nowhere with a couple of random girls to pass along to you. Richard got his chops from infield experience just like the rest of us.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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As I’ve said, ad nauseam, here, on the board:
Location.
Culture.
Age.
Your goals.

All figure into the equation very significantly.
add Income to that, guys with money have access that the average guy doesn't
The Black Piller living at his momma house playing fortnite all day won't have access compared to the upward mobile guy who meets models at fashion events and private parties
 

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There are some universal principles (Don’t be weird…), but those are mostly common sense. If you seek advice. Find someone who is comparable to you. There’s probably a good reason none of my -cel friends ever asked me for advice.
Advice can come from anywhere. Be open. One night, I was Ubering home after clubbing and pretty drunk. I ranted to the driver about this girl I was seeing and she was being difficult. I planned to cut her off. He convinced me not to. Ultimately. It worked out for us.
 

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it applys to all men but not all women

Women depending on their beauty all have different sets of rules

A HB 5/6 for example is going to be much more tolerant of small talk than a HB 7/8/9 she will allow a lot more leeway for a weak frame because she knows her options are severely restricted and she needs to take what she can get

A HB 8 on the other hand knows she has options , she has a lot of options she can have sex virtually whenever she pleases

so then it becomes a question of which guy has the balls to place her in the correct frame and not bow into her lust ( most men will just supplicate or pander to her )

The rules for men dont change regardless of how attractive the woman is

1) Approach calmly and confidently ( most guys cant even get past this stage )

2) Show her you aren't swayed by her beauty and establish a calm level of control over the interaction let her relax around you

( this is generally how guys get girls WAY out of their leauge)

3) get her details and again text very calmly but with a lot of wit

4) get her on a date tease her , touch her , flirt with her most guys are terrified of losing an attractive woman so wont risk anything which is exactly the reason they dont get to sleep with hot women

5) Polarise your masculinity to allow her to be feminine once you do this the sex will come automatically and she will do whatever she can to satisfy you
 

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Absolutely not, and this is the problem I have with the redpill and PUA stuff in general. Rarely do you ever hear advice along the lines of "trust your gut and factor in your own unique circumstances and experiences."

That said, the advice on women does tend to be pretty straightforward since women are more similar to each other than men, but even then it's not that uncommon to find women who say and do things that are antithetical to what red pill tenants dictate.
 

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It would depend on the woman’s age and her priorities at the time.

A young girl may sleep with a man quickly.
An older woman wouldn’t, as she is saving her sexual best for his wallet.

In relation to looks, all women respond to a man’s height and hair. It’s in their DNA.
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

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No, definitely not!
There are different levels for different guys.

Guys that take care of their appearance, but lack confidence would do better in the field with direct approach related advice.

Guys that don't take care of their appearance or let themselves go, but have confidence would do better in the field with indirect approach related advice.

Although, advice for reading body language, ioi, and buying temperature signals can be useful for any type of guy, regardless of age, looks, or status.
 

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A young girl may sleep with a man quickly.
An older woman wouldn’t, as she is saving her sexual best for his wallet.
You're shopping at the wrong mall.
 

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Dating advice applies for all men because a man needs to learn and understand the dating world. However the advice given will differ between guys but there are some general rules which are true. But we could say the same about women too. There are general rules that work with women that women find attractive but each woman is different in a way where you might have to slightly adjust certain things
 
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