jnMissouri
Master Don Juan
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There is a great book that talks about game and why some attractive guys can get certain women but not others. It talks about filling holes, and no not in the sexual way. Humans are enormously complex. As is attraction. Chase Amante also talks about this as does David DeAngelo. A women might be very submissive in a relationship with one guy even but not so much in a relationship with another guy for example, I don't remember exactly how Chase put it but it made ABSOLUTE sense to me when I read the article because it described my situation with a gf at the time.
As to the girl I was referencing with the Chad comments, she lived on the other side of the state, she liked older guys and smarter guys. She was very liberal and lived in a very conservative area of the state (I am not liberal though). I think she was 28 and I was 37 at the time. I have advanced degrees and am a high paid tech guy, like really high paid. Though she didn't know my income until we slept together, my profile on POF did state I had advanced degrees and my job title, so my income could have been inferred from that. We also clicked very well, same sense of humor.
A few women I'm dating and have dated recently, I've met on a HNW dating site. I've had a few travel across the country to meet me at their own expense, even despite virus fears currently. In all of the recent cases on the HNW dating site they are also successful, although there are those who are not verified members or average members on both sides of the sex who are looking. I've noticed most of them struggle to meet anyone, men and women; there are tons of affluent people on there to date and we generally date among ourselves on the site, traveling one way or the other to meet. I base the assessment that the non HNW members struggle because I see lot's of profiles where they have not logged in for AGES when I search. The vast majority. The ones I DO see logging in still regularly are the other verified HNW members.
The girl who came recently to spend the weekend with me specifically noted in her profile she can't be with a guy who is not financially driven like her. Explains why she was on such a site. She messaged ME on the site. She clearly, as most of the women who message me, searched for a verified net worth and found me, messaged me, etc. I obliged because she was about 10 years younger than me, attractive and also successful. It was a different experience than POF dating I'll tell you that...LIGHT years better. Again, there is a theory that talks about this, women look to fill holes, emotional, whatever they may be. Not all guys fill those holes, and again I am NOT talking about sexual holes, lol.
Point being, this girl could have had sex with ANY man anywhere, including in the big city she lives in. Yet she spent half a day traveling to see me at her own expense and spend the weekend with me watching movies, having sex and calling us a couple, took her profile down, etc. If she wanted sex she could get that ANYWHERE. She wants a guy at her own level and as such you can't find that just anywhere, you travel. I've traveled to meet women all over the country, LA, FL, even Canada and had people travel to meet me. Point is, like the book I was talking about....holes...chemistry and holes.
I've actually been thinking of starting a thread about this because after some of my recent experiences on that site, I am trying to figure out if it's this theory that is valid or something else going on; here is what I mean: while I got dates on POF, the quality of the women was sub-par, middle aged, divorced, multiple marriages and kids, low end jobs. In some cases it was astonishing to see how many of the women would not drive 30 minutes to meet halfway for example, despite me being a catch and them not being one really. Yet on the HNW dating site I have women who have waaay more money than me, half of them 10 years younger the other half same age as me, who travel internationally or across the country at their own expense to meet me...and like I said these women are attractive AND successful, they can have ANY man they want. Yet they travel to meet me because I'm what they are looking for, yet the 40 year old washed up ***** on POF in some cases with multiple divorces and multiple kids who works at the mall won't drive 30 minutes to meet me. I'm still trying to figure out the dynamic here, but it gives credence to the holes theory. I can date young affluent women more easily than I can middle aged losers...you'd think the middle aged losers would DIE to come be with me...but apparently not. Maybe it's a self image issue, maybe they are just dumb. I will say my last 2 ex's from POF told me constantly that they could not believe I was real, it was too good to be true. I was not a happy camper when we split due to issues, but within months I was thinking to myself, why on EARTH was I with these chics in serious relationships when I should have just kept them as plates. But now on the HNW dating site I have better quality women. Though now I have a new problem...because these chics are so rate (young, fun, attractive AND doing very well in life) I get attached much more quickly. These girls are not so easy to replace....
Anyways...
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